To be put off by date eating pub leftovers

[Runki]

I have never posted on here before so please be gentle! 😉 I just wanted some honest opinions from people. I've been seeing a man for a number of months. We went out yesterday to a pub for something to eat, at lunchtime. When we got there, the table next to us hadn't been cleared yet and there was quite a bit of food left on plates. I asked him what he wanted to eat for lunch, and he said he would just eat some leftover toast and sausages from the uncleared table. I thought he was joking and laughed. But he actually meant it. He took two pieces of left over, cold toast and some sausages and proceeded to eat them, with no plate. I said I would buy him lunch and he didn't need to eat leftovers! He said he couldn't stand wasted food. I ordered my own lunch and ate it, alone, as he had already gobbled up the leftovers from the people who had left. Would this put you off someone? Or should I more be accommodating?! In all honesty, it made me feel very uncomfortable and I found it very unattractive. How would this make you feel, can I ask? Look forward to hearing what people think. For context, he has never done this before, but has alluded to wanting to do it when we've been to other places. I asked him yesterday if he was worried that someone's saliva might be on the leftover food, but he said he couldn't care less.

It is absolutely true. And it has been ranking at me for over 24 hours now!

Oh that's grim. I'm very frugal, and also hate wasted food, and even I'd never dream of doing that. And on a date too?! That's so unhygienic and tight.

Run that is so so grim

This is just revolting. Firstly, how can someone say its not gross?! People who ordered/ did not finish this food could have spat on it, licked it, coughed on it. They could have been dirty and did not wash their hands after the toilet, touched the toast etc. It all could have been dropped on the floor. And - it was all cold, and the OP's weirdo ate it all without a plate, using his hands. Even the mental image is disguising. To me, its no different to eating leftovers from the bin. Totally get it if its done out of dire need and hunger, but this guy done it our of greed. EWWWW.

Oh that is really gross - he might have other unsavoury habits as well

Nah bro....that's nasty.
.I wonder if he's been through some trauma or he's just a piglet?...100% he has been doing this since he was a kid and no one stopped him and said it's gross...that fact he did it on a date is very telling..sorry OP😅

Run lol. God op thats very cringey. He would prob be penny pinching. No thanks.

@MeanWeedratStew Yes! Thank you so much for your belief! It actually did happen. And I can't quite get over it. As you say, there are some weirdos out there, and I am a bit sad to find out that this bloke seems to be one of them! Onwards and upwards though!

Jesus fucking christ, the scummy pig!! I would have got up and walked out. So disgusting and embarrassing.

This. Every opening suddenly shut.. for good!

I am a bit sad to find out that this bloke seems to be one of them! Onwards and upwards though!
Have you actually dumped him op ?

@SisterhoodNotCisterhood Ha ha thank you for the laughs....I was so stunned I couldn't even move, but after the "lunch" I did make a pretty sharp exit ha ha!

I've worked In restaurants where this is common. At one place we where told not to empty and wash the ramikins of sauce if only a small bit was taken out , instead we scooped out any visible food and then just topped it up and put it back in the fridge 🤢🤢

Serious ick! So gross.

How completely abnormal. The behaviour alludes to deep seated mental issues and I would not be sticking around to find out what those were. Run!

I went out with a friend and her new partner who did this. She ignored this (one of many) huge red flag and is now stuck living with this abusive arsehole with young babies and unable to escape.

run as fast as you can, this is not normal behaviour and he is testing you to see what he can get away with.

Oh good God! This would put me right off!! I've read some terrible behaviour on here, but this is pretty high up there. I'm going to be thinking about this for days! 😆 Bin him right off!

@NannyGythaOgg Wow, thank you so much for sharing that and for believing me! That is utterly awful what that person did, and such a turn off! That's what staggers me, that some people aren't at all worried that this kind of thing might not seem very attractive. Almost like sitting at a date and picking one's nose. Absolutely staggering. Glad you got away from the tip thief!!

My hygiene standards are pretty low, but that totally grosses me out, for once I'm with the MN majority, god knows who the other 3% are.

Even if there were a context that might lead you to understanding his behaviour (grew up in abusive home or poverty and denied food creating food issues or similar trauma) I could not bear to imagine that behaviour in my life forever. Can you imagine knowing every time you went out with him this was potentially on the cards? Would have to dump.

Imagine the nervousness you would feel if he ever offered to cook you a meal. ‘Um, you did buy this food didn’t you?’

@MrsQTip I'm afraid it is is real and I wish I could say that it wasn't! I haven't been able to stop thinking about it!

Nope. That's gross

@Candathon yes it did feel weird and kind of sad. It's made me question the whole thing. Thank you for your comment.

🤣🤣🤣 that is absolutely disgusting!! It’s actually making me terrified of dating again!! I didn’t even know this type of person existed! Have you dumped him @Runki ?!