To be put off by date eating pub leftovers

[Runki]

I have never posted on here before so please be gentle! 😉 I just wanted some honest opinions from people. I've been seeing a man for a number of months. We went out yesterday to a pub for something to eat, at lunchtime. When we got there, the table next to us hadn't been cleared yet and there was quite a bit of food left on plates. I asked him what he wanted to eat for lunch, and he said he would just eat some leftover toast and sausages from the uncleared table. I thought he was joking and laughed. But he actually meant it. He took two pieces of left over, cold toast and some sausages and proceeded to eat them, with no plate. I said I would buy him lunch and he didn't need to eat leftovers! He said he couldn't stand wasted food. I ordered my own lunch and ate it, alone, as he had already gobbled up the leftovers from the people who had left. Would this put you off someone? Or should I more be accommodating?! In all honesty, it made me feel very uncomfortable and I found it very unattractive. How would this make you feel, can I ask? Look forward to hearing what people think. For context, he has never done this before, but has alluded to wanting to do it when we've been to other places. I asked him yesterday if he was worried that someone's saliva might be on the leftover food, but he said he couldn't care less.

Oh dear that's grim.

My DH is a dustbin but even he wouldn't eat some random stranger's leftovers.

Are you telling me you've never mineswept half empty drinks as a teenager? No?? Just me and all of my friends then 😅. And yes I'm aware it's grim but everyone I know did it. Needs must and all that.

Well I'm assuming they didn't lick the plate and any saliva traces just come from the cutlery touching the food. I definitely don't think it's hygienic, I just wouldn't be worried about him getting ill or dying from it.

There are other unhygienic things a person could do that I wouldn't like but wouldn't prompt quite the same response in me as this. The whole attitude behind it is more than just unhygienic.

Reminds me of this:

Sounds like you’ve been watching Him & Her.

To the PP who mentioned rooting through bins etc there is a difference as things are all still packaged, they're usually just one day out of date. My parents had a regular agreement with the local Sainsbury that they'd pick up bags of just out of date food. Most of it was still absolutely fine, the BBE dates on most packaged food are entirely arbitrary (use by is obviously different).

I still remember fondly my dad coming back with a massive stack of perfectly good Roses and Celebrations shortly after Christmas haha.

It was actually quite a posh restaurant and the patrons always used their butter knives to spread the butter so unlikely there was any spit involved. And cooking the butter would "cleanse" it somewhat. But yeah a bit ewwww.

God the amount of disbelief on this thread is making me think I must just know some really grim people 😅

I had a friend that used to do this. I found it weird at first, but after listening to him explain the sheer amount of wasted food thrown out from pubs and restaurants, I started to like the idea. We went to a pub once and sat at a table with two untouched sticky toffee puddings and the people leaving. Waste not want not.

Whether you’re into this is up to you. I, personally, like someone who is anti-waste in the world we live in today.

🤣 Me too. Best kind of people.

Have you told him you won't be seeing him again?

lol how could eating off some randomer’s plate not bother you in terms of germs?! It’s literally consuming some strangers saliva

How is it? If they've left a whole sausage, or whole piece of toast, it's not going to be covered in spit. When you're eating meat, you're eating another animal's body parts. So your whole digestive system is reasonably well geared up to deal with germs. You've got fairly strong hydrochloric acid in your stomach that's pretty effective at killing many things.

I get that this is making a lot of people feel a bit green round the gills, but actually you do come into closer contact with other people's germs in other ways than this.

So weird! It’s a no from me mate.

Oh my DAYS!!

The man has NO boundaries!!

There are red flags, and then there are salivary sausages!!!

Run, OP! 😬

Omg that sounds absolutely gross. Yes,it would definitely put me off someone!

If he casually did this in front of you (and esp so early in a relationship) then imagine what other disgusting habits he has in private!

Really, really weird and gross.

I’ve looked longingly at left over wine in a bottle before, but even then I restrained myself.

Yuk.

Grimmm😕😕
Pls bin him

Of course not. Might (I mean would, frequently) take a chip of my kid's plate after dinner, but no way would I take a half-eaten one, and that is from a human being I've given birth to. It's gross and mean.

I know of a few who would pour into their glass any leftovers of others! One was well known as the Glass collector. Grimm

Thats just bad op yuk, I’ll bet he does it all the time. Stomach churning stuff hope you have never kissed him !

yep, no, nope, big nope. No matter if we had been together 2 years, I'm done.

I'm out. See ya later, b'bye now.

Relationship over. done gone, finito. Blocked 🚫

Bin him.

I felt sick just reading this, let alone having to have to watch him do this 🤢

So, so gross🤢 run!

I used to know a bloke who went round the pub swigging leftover drinks - people would come out the loo wondering where their half drunk pint had gone.

But think even he drew the line at leftover food

I would have walked out as soon as he picked up the food!