That MIL has bought DS an expensive Thomas the tank Train set after I told her we didn't want it?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

She has wanted to buy him one for a while. I told her we would prefer Brio, or even a cheaper one that isn't branded.
This morning I got a delivery of a full train set and various trains and accesories.
He is delighted of course, and loves it but I am angry she has spent too much money and gone against our expressed wishes.

Am I just ungrateful?

it read far better than your attempt to make the debate include problems in the third world

Oh yes Willmouse! If you really DO want to wreck family relationships!!

Diddums! did i detract from your well expressed preferences

By Cappuccino on Mon 10-Mar-08 15:59:45
Miaou precisely because people buy you stuff

and because it is rude to complain about a pair of pyjamas with Piglet on because there are worse things going on in the world

I responded to this.

yes but your response made no sense

oh I am bored of this now

you just wanted everyone to agree with you, didn't you

I should stop asking these things that actually don't mean that much to me and just work them out for myself.

Mumsnet is fabulous sometimes, invaluable sometimes but a lot of the time just mean and gripey.
And please tell me you've heard that all before. How predictable etc.

You asked for peoples opinions - if you did not want them why ask?

I think you are being unreasonable.

Cappucino no not at all, it was cods comment that got me worked up to be honest, and then the following suggestions from various posters that I was essentialy a spoilt brat.

You can be insensitive feckers sometimes.

Thanks to those that agree with me, and realise having principles isn't poncy or arrogant, it's just what it is.

Awww Diddums poor princess asked all the other mum to agree with and her they didnt

so she threw branded TT out the unbranded pram in a great big stroop

Yes themadhouse I asked for opinions, not insults or sarcastic comments.

Scottishmummy I just burst into tears after reading that and i AM NOT FUCKING JOKING.

how about thanks to those who have bothered to express an opinion in response to your thread, or do we only bother to thank those who agree with us?

And it is terribly rude to imply that other people who DON'T agree with you, do not have principles.

i think it is an important principle to have in life, that when it comes to gifts and presents, it is rude and ungrateful to attempt to dictate what is bought.

Could you ask her why she bought it when you said you didn't want it?

TheDevil, if it's upsetting you that much perhaps it's worth stepping away now and mulling this all over later.

These 'gift' threads always seem to get extremely heated, I remember one a while back that was similar

I am extrreamly confused with this thread, why is it OK to ask opinions, but when they are not the answer you want, do you over-react.

The AIBU threads are no the place for polite conversation and they do tend to polerise views

ah I see capp - no one buys us disney stuff!

ScottishMummy, though I have agreed with you further down this thread I think your post to TheDevil at 16.14 was extremely unkind and sticking a couple of grins in it does not make it any less so.

Kathy, I think Scottishmummy was probably reacting to the OP having a go at her: "that last message read like an essay sentence from a gcse student who has no idea what they are talking about and so used a thesaurus to put impressive big words in it".

geez scottishmummy, that was totally uncalled for!

TDWP - just get down on the floor and play with the thing with him, if you haven't already. Have a lovely time!

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Edam - yeah, I know, but I think when you go from insulting someone's posts to insulting them personally that's when the line is crossed. Though obviously this is just my opinion and other people will think differently.

YANBU since you had told your mil you did not want that particular set, and she still got it.

My mil is exactly the same, she bought ds an ipod for his birthday, when we had told her at christmas that we didn't think it was a suitable present for an eight year old. Not sure what changed in the space of six weeks. She 'couldn't remember' the christmas pressie conversation

It wasn't the first time she'd done this, probably won't be the last and it makes you feel as though your values are worth nothing. It shows a lack of respect to you as the parent, and your opinions.

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but why is it up to the OP to say "I don't want this or that" it is up to the giver what they give as a present

Where was I the day that the parents of gift recipients were given the right to dictate what gifts are given?