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Parpadew · 2023-11-03T06:55:49+00:00

Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country. Feel really alone right now!

Pigsinblanketstoastie · 06/11/2023 13:12

LauraFedora · 06/11/2023 12:04

Does it have to be an emergencyor life or death situation before anyone should offer a favour? Blimey, I do favours for people all the time. Perhaps I should adopt the MN "Is it life or death?" No "Then fuck off" attitude when a friend asks for a lift because the trains have been cancelled, no buses and they're stuck with no way home.

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No-one actually knows what the situation was, as presented to OPs family and friends since OP declined to answer almost all relevant questions.

Same as she declined to answer numerous other questions like "what time was it?" "how long have you been with your DP" "why couldn't he call his friends" "couldn't he 'phone a taxi"? if, presumably he was stranded with dozens of other people as OP said it was a major incident, "why didn't he talk to anyone else and arrange for them to share lifts or taxis?"

OP ignored all of those questions and just occasionally popped back to say her 'DP' - still not defining what she meant by 'DP' or what relevance that should have to her family and friends could've sorted it out himself but as she was worried his battery might die, and he is anxious sometimes she decided to sort it out. And was pissed off that her family and friends - except for a friend that was on holiday which suggests they and the OP don't talk much and the friend had a ready made excuse- said no.

The OPs communication from the 1st post here was misleading, dramatic and left a lot of things out. And when asked to fill in the gaps, OP got pissed off and attacked posters.

If you're a person who would jump in the car to pick up a friends middle aged boyfriend without thought and no regard to your personal circumstances or whether it was an emergency or not, then great, you do you.

It doesn't mean other people are shitty or selfish for not doing so.

LauraFedora · 06/11/2023 14:13

Pigsinblanketstoastie · 06/11/2023 13:12

No-one actually knows what the situation was, as presented to OPs family and friends since OP declined to answer almost all relevant questions.

Same as she declined to answer numerous other questions like "what time was it?" "how long have you been with your DP" "why couldn't he call his friends" "couldn't he 'phone a taxi"? if, presumably he was stranded with dozens of other people as OP said it was a major incident, "why didn't he talk to anyone else and arrange for them to share lifts or taxis?"

OP ignored all of those questions and just occasionally popped back to say her 'DP' - still not defining what she meant by 'DP' or what relevance that should have to her family and friends could've sorted it out himself but as she was worried his battery might die, and he is anxious sometimes she decided to sort it out. And was pissed off that her family and friends - except for a friend that was on holiday which suggests they and the OP don't talk much and the friend had a ready made excuse- said no.

The OPs communication from the 1st post here was misleading, dramatic and left a lot of things out. And when asked to fill in the gaps, OP got pissed off and attacked posters.

If you're a person who would jump in the car to pick up a friends middle aged boyfriend without thought and no regard to your personal circumstances or whether it was an emergency or not, then great, you do you.

It doesn't mean other people are shitty or selfish for not doing so.

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I don't know what thread you've been reading but the OP explains pretty clearly what the situation and context were, and states hat her family like her partner. And DP generally means Dear Partner on mumsnet so I'd take a stab that's what the OP means. And what's his age got to do with anything?

I didn't say anyone was being shitty or selfish - you did. Anyway, you do you.

Madamum18 · 06/11/2023 16:08

Your family were unkind and selfish and I can understand you being upset. But try not o make that change how you behave generally. Do what YOU think is right in any particular circumstance rather than bring yourself down to other people's unkind low standards

Catsmere · 06/11/2023 20:53

being fed up of the OP's partner being helpless etc.

Penny to a pound it's this.

Nave · 07/11/2023 11:48

Syndulla · 03/11/2023 07:28

Spot the Londoners in this thread 🙄

In my area you have to book a taxi at least a week in advance.

I would have come to get you OP even if I only vaguely knew you. I'm sorry you were put in that position.

And that’s why I live in London. I know that’s not helpful!!

TJW55 · 08/11/2023 16:59

I would have come for you too. I wouldn't walk from my station to home. Too far with luggage and a poor unlit road. Would be a few hrs. Would be impossible for me to get a taxi and no mobile phone signal. Some people haven't got a clue.