To be sad that no one would help

[Parpadew]

Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country.

Feel really alone right now!

Not to mention the infamous drip feeds, and OPs whose original posts are opaque (as this one) or change substantially with further information.

Just two weeks ago I drove 40 mile round trip at 11.30 pm to pick my son, DIL and their dog up after the utter train chaos meaning that when they arrived they’d missed the last connecting train and it would have cost an arm and a leg for a taxi, I would never leave any family member stranded and I know they’d do the same for me

Some awful people on here, so depressing. I despair for the future generations…. I expect many of the posters suggesting someone walks in an isolated area, in the dark, on narrow roads for hours are the same eejits spouting the vacuous ‘ be kind’ messages.

Oh relax @Wimin123

we just don’t always take OPs at face value and question why multiple people didn’t help a family member.

all ten times you’ve seen that god-awful “no is a complete sentence” advice dished out to OPs when family members have utterly taken the piss

Don't start a cold war with your sister. You will lose out as much as she will and this stressful, unpleasant but actually relatively minor problem could blow up into a horrible long-term bad situation. When you've calmed down talk to her (and any other family members) one to one and tell her that you feel she let you down and you are upset. I don't think it's worth falling out with family over this. You need to let this go but tell your family that you feel upset that they weren't there to support you when you needed them. Also, don't let their poor response make you behave like them. You clearly have different standards than they have - don't let them drag you down to their level! Go and do something really nice today and let this go.

YANBU to be sad that no-one would help. However you YABU to expect them to drive to pick up your partner. Why could they just call a taxi? Or one of their friends? How long have you been with them? Have they met them? Is this a reoccurring thing? What were their plans for the evening? Why don’t you drive?

I would go and get one of my children if they were stuck somewhere.

My sister's boyfriend not so much.

@Parpadew are you coming back?

😂

Her absence answers your question, surely.

Another case of "thread not going the way OP wants" presumably!

I totally get you.
It is what it is now you know .
But move on from.this thank heavens you got the taxi .
I understand completely your dissapointment today's another day ..

In Scouting, this is a night hike and we would never expect anyone to walk this distance alone.
This is literally why mountain rescue exists because people have made the decision to go out alone and got into trouble.
If the person has been on a train, they probably won't be correctly equipped - walking gear, provisions, emergency shelter and a fully charged phone. Give your head a wobble if you think they should be walking.

People saying 'you should learn to drive' well sorry we aren't all your defination of perfect! Many people have a solid reason why they don't, not that they need to justify anything, and are some of the most self sufficient people you could meet. We aren't all cadging lifts from people who drive, we plan our travel, and if our loved ones are stuck ring for a taxi from the nearest town,expensive as it is.

People saying 'you should learn to drive' well sorry we aren't all your defination of perfect!

It’s nothing to do with being perfect.

The OP wanted drivers to sort out her boyfriend’s problem. The only way to be able to make that happen is to be the driver yourself. If you don’t/can’t/won’t drive, then you have to poke up with waiting for cabs. Moaning that other people should pick up the slack isn’t sensible or long-term solution.

Seriously - have you ever used public transport? Do you genuinely believe the train companies are taking account of individual passengers when trains are routinely cancelled due to staff shortages? Naive 😳

Taxis? In a rural location? You're havin a larf! You often can't even book one in advance!

20 mins by car not walking!

Are you on glue? 84% of people have voted that OP is not being unreasonable 🤣

Poor you. I would have come and got you.

We live in Warwickshire and to guarantee a taxi you need to book a couple of days in advance! I completely understand.

To all those people who can't be kind, don't comment!

RTFT.

Sounds like she has RTFT. Maybe you should RTFT.

Not if they think the OP needed a lift.

It was her anxious, middle-aged boyfriend.

It's aibu

I don't know if it's already been mentioned, but when I was temporarily without a car I asked on a local site if anyone was going where I needed to go on a particular day. Not the same as a round trip, but someone else nearby may have been on the same train. I always received offers, be it for one way or both with at least the necessary time in between, and for the few weeks I was carless, managed well and met a few new people. Always worth a shot, especially when you live in a village where you might one day be able to return the favour one way or another.

Disgraceful behaviour and I would feel exactly the same. 40 minute round trip FFS to ensure a family member gets home safely.
Can not believe how many people are rationalising why it was not reasonable to do the trip. Why does it all have to a working out if they could or coukd not get other transport or walk, or sleep in a ditch. They needed help, they asked for help, you help them. That's how families work.
So next time we get the post about how crap everything is under the Torries, corruption, greed etc. Maybe think helping a family member out might just make theirs and your life a bit better.