To be sad that no one would help

[Parpadew]

Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country.

Feel really alone right now!

I'm sorry, your family sound rubbish. I would absolutely help in those circumstances, as would most of my family and friends, unless they weren't able. Am also eye rolling at all the people who can't envisage living somewhere with no ride share service, no taxi at a moment's notice and apparently have no concept that a 20 minute drive is likely more than a couple of hours walk along dangerous roads at night!

I'm completely confused why you don't have a car if you live rurally - how do you do anything?

YANBU

I wouldn’t think twice about it and I’d hope they wouldn’t think twice about picking me up either.

It would perhaps be different if you lived in a town or city with multiple taxis, night buses and trams but you don’t and your family obviously knew that too.

What happened for you to be stuck there?
Did a train break down?
I thought they would have had to put on a bus or something. I think that’s awful.

Thousands of people were stranded on the east coast mainline yesterday. Definitely no replacement buses going!

I would have helped if no taxis available, of course. But I wonder if there is a back story here... what's the reason why you can't drive, OP?

Your Dp being at a station 20 mins away isn't an emergency , they could have walked instead of 5 hour waiting on you arriving in a taxi.

I would have helped- and I hate driving in the dark, particularly on country roads, but I would have done it.
You will look at your family differently now.

🤣🤣

Ot course someone should have picked you up. I’d do it in a heartbeat for a stuck friend or even a neighbour, never mind a family member.

If you had a history of constantly asking for help then that would he different but it doesn’t sound like it’s the case.

I understand as my parents are like this, they don’t do anything that is inconvenient for them & it doesn’t occur to them to help me ever. I know they are like this though as it’s been that way for a long time (it doesn’t stop me being hurt by it though)

is this a new behaviour from your family ?

I would have picked someone up IF it was before I took my nighttime medication. If it was after, then I can’t drive as it makes me sleepy.

Often enough to have been in many breakdowns, delays, and stuck trains over the decades, and I am not sure what the emergency was. This person was sitting on a train? They could have waited there. This is not what I would class as in any way an emergency. A bit annoying. No more. A couple of months ago EasyJet dumped me and at least a hundred other passengers 4 hours late at a closed airport in the pouring rain, in the pitch black, without even telling us which country we were in, after aborting a landing at our destination airport. We waited under the awning at the front of the locked door for about 6 hours until buses and trains stated running in the morning.

It was annoying

It was NOT an emergency

Most people can unless they've had a drink.
There is no way I would say no to you, or to any friend or neighbour who asked this.
In fact my lovely neighbour got out of bed a few months ago. My son had fainted at a concert. I had had a drink, it was 11pm on a wet Friday and all the taxis were booked for over an hour in my big city. She got dressed and drove for about an hour there.and back to pick him up with me.

A forty minute journey to get to the station, pick you up, drive you home and then drive themselves home, well it sounds like you live very near the station, walking was not an option? It is difficult to understand why it would be so difficult to get a taxi, I live rurally myself but it isn’t normally hard to get a taxi to come to a train station.

Also if there were a nationwide collapse of the train system (which I hadn’t heard actually) then there would have been loads of people around, which I know doesn’t help, but is another reason I would not consider this an emergency.

As an adult, I wouldn’t consider being at a train station an emergency situation. I would probably call my husband for a lift, I would not call adult siblings, parents or neighbours. I would call a cab before calling any of them.

You think someone should walk 3.5hours in the pitch black with no pavements on a rural area?

Do you even realise how dangerous that is?

Op you have been a bit cryptic - was it your boyfriend/girlfriend who was stuck and not you? You wanted them to rescue someone else?

do they know this person? Does this person have a network of their own? Parents, siblings friends?

has your family fallen out with this person?

There were no taxis or buses readily available. Its not just as simple as walking home (probably close to a 4 hour walk in the dark with limited pavements).

Anyone who wouldn't help out friends or family under these circumstances, for no reason other than they just don't want to, is just a bit shit really

I completely agree.

Imagine telling a woman to walk home in a rural area at night for almost 4 hours.

What a ridiculous suggestion.

People are awful when it comes to helping others.
The replies to this thread kind of prove that tbh.
I am sorry this happened

You want everyone to agree with you that your family are uncaring but honestly you are the only person who can make this judgement as you have the full context. If you feel they are not caring then you may well be right. But be careful to try and see things from their perspective before you judge too harshly.

i think there’s missing context here, OP. Was the person a child or adult — why couldn’t you get them? I don’t drive (medical reasons) but wouldn’t have been asking someone else to put themselves unless it was a medical emergency or involved a stranded child.

I don’t live very rurally - but I live somewhere where it can be impossible to get a taxi, the taxi phone numbers just ring out at times. It might not be the case where you are but surely it’s not that hard to understand that not everyone lives in the same place that you do?

I think most people posting don’t understand rural living. You can’t just walk on country lanes it’s too dangerous. Best thing you could hope for is a kind stranger to give you a lift usually. They were very shitty to just leave you there if they were able to come but just didn’t fancy it.

Pretty sure OP is referring to the major signalling failure in Scotland last night that impacted a large chunk of the Scottish railway system. So if OP was stopping at one of the more rural stations, then there wouldn't have been a mass of taxis available. It wouldn't be appropriate for her to walk home alone in the dark.

And no, there were not replacement bus services either. Scotsrail have told people to keep receipts for hotels they booked to claim compensation. They weren't shifting people about by bus!

Hope that helps all the people deliberately being obtuse.

I still don’t understand who was where. Who was at the train station? Why was it an emergency? Waiting at a train station for a taxi to become available is boring but not an emergency.

You'd be surprised if you knew how many people secretly drink a lot.

But if you're adament they don't then yes, that was a bit horrid of them.