To be sad that no one would help

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Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country.

Feel really alone right now!

Oh my word, I stopped reading this thread around 5 pages ago, come back and people are still missing facts and making things up!

Here goes:

There was a major fault on a Scottish rail line that meant hundreds of passengers were stranded, some of them between cities in rural areas with no alternative transport

There was no storm in Scotland

This occurred around rush hour yesterday afternoon

OP's DP was one of the stranded passengers

The rail companies did not provide replacement buses

This clearly caused a massive increase in demand for taxis, presumably in the cities too

OP does not have a car because she lives in the city and doesn't need one (an alien concept to some people it seems)

OP tried to help her DP by asking her family if anyone could drive a 40-minute round trip to pick up her DP, who, it seems they do like

OP does not make a habit of asking her family for favours (OK, we only have her word for that, but let's assume that's true)

They all said no

HTH

The only thing we don't understand - because OP won't tell us - is what time he was stranded last night - and what was the reason her DPs own family or friends couldn't help.

The time was confirmed a while back. Evening rush hour. So, not late but getting dark.

She said it was night, so from that we understand it was dark and no other means of transportation were available, she said herself she managed to call a taxi after 5 hours. Perhaps DP's own family could not help because they were not as close by as her own family.

Again, what more is there to understand?! Why does this require even further depth of explanation for goodness sake. Her seemingly capable family did not help her, that is the issue and in my opinion she has a right to be annoyed with them for this.

How is the time even relevant? A 3.5 hour walk vs a 20 minute drive is a no brainer.

This, plus...

Ops adult boyfriend didn't speak to any of the other hundreds of passengers also stranded to see if he could share their transport to the city.

Ops adult boyfriend didn't phone any of his friends or family to see if they could help.

Ops adult boyfriend sat there for 5 hours waiting for a friend of a friend to rescue him, and did nothing himself

Ops adult boyfriend made one phone call only - to his girlfriend who doesn't have a car.

This needs to be pinned at the top of the thread 🤣

" and what was the reason her DPs own family or friends couldn't help."

Well, if it was us, my dp's family are all at least 200 miles away. To be honest, I could understand why they might not want to turn out to give him a lift home......

Yes, but the OP was in a city - not a rural area. And her DP was less than 20 mins away, so surely she could have got a tax or uber from the city to go and get him?

But she got a taxi to him and back...

So he must have had time.

Eh?

Unless I've missed a post somewhere, in which case I apologise, but...

We don't know who the boyfriend did or didn't speak to, nor how many other passengers were stuck on the same train as him.

We don't know if he phoned his own family or friends, nor how many phone calls he made in total because the OP hasn't told us.

We don't know he did nothing himself.

Yes, that’s shit. I’d do it for a neighbour I didn’t know, never mind friends or family.

And that's what the thread has become about @NoisyBrain.
It's moved on. Apart from the people who haven't read it, or who read 5 pages then skipped a few.
The op has been back sporadically, and quite recently, so is clearly reading it, but bizarrely not to clarify any of these pertinent questions which were asked at the beginning.

It’s like a reading comprehension test 😂

And maybe it is the same for OPs partner, but we don't know because she hasn't said.

Cancel the cheque!

I live in a city and it’s hard to get taxis and Ubers lots of the time so I’d imagine I’m this scenario it would be impossible. Or you’d have to wait 5 hours like OP and her bloke did.

Anyway, assuming that the car is driving at 30 miles per hour for 20 minutes, that means the vehicle travels 1/3 of 30 miles or 10 miles. Walking speed is 2-4 miles per hour. Assuming that its a long walk this is probably going to be on the lower side. So a five hour walk. Even if the person could walk at a steady 3 miles per hour, it would be a 3 hours walk but then you have to allow for travelling on country roads with perhaps no footpath and in the dark which sounds extremely dangerous.

I live outside London and would definitely pick up a friend or relatives in need. I have driven many times to the next town to collect a child of my own, give lifts etc, and once to the nearest airport (90 mins) to pick up SIL and then a further 90 mins to drop her to hospital in the town of other SIL (who would not help) when get child was taken seriously ill whilst visiting with BIL - plus the drive home of course. Had to take my own kids with me as no childcare... My mum is also always happy to help, if she can.
However, when a really needy & hypochondriac friend who does, if I'm honest, use me when she's fallen out with DP mostly wanted me to take her to hospital late at night (less than 10 miles) because she was worried a recent operation had become complicated, I did decline. It hadn't, btw.

It's important to know what DP actively did apart from contacting his partner who he knew didn't drive. Did OP ban DP from helping himself because of his phone battery ?

@Emeraldsanddiamonds It's highly unlikely that a car would average 30mph over 20 minutes in a city. The driver would need to stop at junctions, give way at roundabouts, etc etc. and as they live in a city, traffic lights too.

It takes me about 15-20 mins to get to the station from a rural route, then negotiating the town where the station is, but the distance is 4 miles and can be done by walking in an hour.)

We don't know he did nothing himself.

A double negative.

This means he DID do something for himself.

I think you mean we don't know if he did anything for himself.

@NoisyBrain Where does the OP say it was in Scotland?

There were numerous trains cancelled yesterday and LNER are advising passengers to delay any journeys planned today.

"we dont know that he did nothing for himself" is a perfectly clear and grammatically correct sentence, and is not a double negative, as the two negatives are in separate clauses, so you are totally incorrect there

But there were warnings on Wednesday about only travelling if it was absolutely necessary. As it happens the weather near me wasn't too bad in the end yesterday but we were told not to go into the office. If I had I would have expected to make my own arrangements for getting home. I wouldn't expect someone else to go out in horrible conditions because I'd ignored the advice

No curtain that's not what I said and you know that because I assume you can read?

I said people don't realise that not everyone has ready finds available for taxis in response to it being the MN answer for everyone.

They need help - get a taxi!!

I'd rather pay a few quid in petrol/diesel to help someone I cared about than expect them to fork out £30-50 on a taxi.

Sadly not many in this world so anymore. I find it sad.