To be sad that no one would help

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Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country.

Feel really alone right now!

Tbh it seems more odd to me that you'd expect someone to be available. An adult being stranded at a train station isn't really an emergency. It's everyday commuting in the UK.
And I live beside one of those train stations where there is no taxi rank; and there are no pavements to walk to get home so yy I understand how annoying it is. But I wouldn't dream of asking my family to take an hour out of their life to collect me or my partner if I was stranded there. And I have quite a big family who I actually like (unlike most of MN).

Pathetic? Are you really calling a stranger pathetic because it isnT clear who was stranded.

I can’t see anywhere that OP says ‘I was stranded at the train station’. Maybe it’s her communication style - but she describes this situation in a very odd way - I assumed it was someone else stranded and she was asking for a lift for them not herself.

I don’t think I am pathetic though.

Nope. Very comparable set up. Still would have sorted it out ourselves.

Also, if you live in such a location you need to learn to drive -it’s not reasonable to just decide not to and expect others to bail you out when situations like this arise.

@cardibach I did correct my misunderstanding further down.

Apologies, I read from your second post by mistake.

Read the thread.

OP wasn't asking any family or friends to pick her up. She was asking family and friends to pick up her 'DP' who could just be a boyfriend. Who apparently didn't have any friends or family of his own to call on so OP was wanting her family and friends to drive a 40 min round trip to pick him up.

And now thinks her family are U not to do so and feels 'very alone' in life as a result and thinks her relationships with her family are damaged by them not wanting to pick up her BF.

And still, we don't know what time of day this was or how long OP had known her 'DP' who didn't seem to have any family or friends he could call on so now OPs family and friends are being judged harshly for not jumping to drive 40 mins + to pick him up.

This is what I was thinking. I run a car for daily use but also use in emergencies. If you choose not to have one, you can’t just ring round and demand those who have one must use theirs asap to suit you

But I wouldn't dream of asking my family to take an hour out of their life to collect me or my partner if I was stranded there.

Such martyrdom. Rather wait five hours for a taxi in the freezing cold (newsflash - not all stations have a cafe and waiting room) than ask someone for a favour. If I was in that situation and DIDN'T call DH/older child with driving licence/friend/sister they would be furious.

Has OP got another thread somewhere?
I can't see where OP says it was her partner (I see her ask 'so you'd let your partner....) or where she says the partner didn't have any friends or family.

YANBU op. I would have helped under those circumstances.

Firstly, what were their reasons for not helping out? Did they actually say the words, 'No, sorry can't be arsed', or did they have valid reasons?

Secondly, there must have been other people on the train that got turfed off. Could your partner not have cadged a lift with someone?

Thirdly, did your partner try and get a lift from their own friends and family?

I accept that you feel pissed off and of course if your family could have gone out then that would be decent but they don't have to!

Maybe they don't like driving in the dark?Maybe they'd had a drink?
Maybe they had dinner on the go?
Or maybe they don't particularly like or know your partner?

Unless you provide more details, I'd say YABU to be fed up with your family because your partner should have been trying to sort the situation himself.

Calling your DH or an adult DC who lives with you is not the same as calling round your extended family and friends.

It's not martyrdom to be able to get yourself home from a station. Obviously some of you have never had to commute to work. If you called someone every time you were stranded at a station, you'd be calling someone almost every day during winter.

Horrendous response from your family and friends. I would drive 20 mins each way in a heartbeat for a family favour and it wouldn't need to be a huge emergency. For the situation you've described I can imagine even the street neighbours on WhatsApp helping. Horrible.

May I ask why you don't drive? It may not be relevant to you but I never learned, lived in cities but then in my 40s had DC and got myself on the road. It was difficult but so so worth it.

YANBU. I would have helped. However, this is mumsnet where plenty of people won’t even answer their door…

You haven't read the thread.

OP started out implying she was stranded at a track station and her family and friends were refusing to help.

Then she made additional posts saying it wasn't her, but was her male 'DP' who she wanted her friends and family to collect from the station.

She didn't explain why it was OPs friends and family that were being asked to collect him and not her 'DPs'.

She didn't mention what time it was or why her 'DP' wasn't calling his friends or family to help him, but OP was expecting her family and friends to do so.

So, lot's of information left out by OP which may explain why OPs family weren't wanting to pick him up.

She actually said quite early on it was her partner and has confirmed that since…

this is the one that concerns me the most

you have a partner who couldn't be arsed to collect you? Or your partner was stranded? I'm confused.

But either way, I am sorry. What about his contacts? I am a bit confused by your wording but you are clearly upset, so....have a hug if you want one.

I think maybe you need to clarify the circumstances OP - this was your partner needing picking up, or you needed picking up and your partner wouldn’t help? If you live in the city, are you saying the train station was in the village? Was it not possible to send a taxi from the city to the village?

Then she made additional posts saying it wasn't her, but was her male 'DP' who she wanted her friends and family to collect from the station.

She didn't explain why it was OPs friends and family that were being asked to collect him and not her 'DPs'.

Does no one here have any imagination?

I left home after uni and moved 400 miles from my family and friends.

But YOUR situation is irrelevant because for OP’s relatives it was a 20 minute drive to the station, not 2 hours.

I would have done it. I took the Sky man into town the other day as his lift got stuck somewhere. A family member would be super welcome. Your are meanies.

Look at the OPs posts. She says it very clearly. Repeatedly.

It does strike me as odd that he didn’t take any initiative to sort this himself. Surely he has friends/family. Also he surely had a phone so he could call taxi companies and wait for one to become available. When I read the title I assumed it was a medical emergency! I got stuck at a train station on my own when I was 18, I ended up sharing a cab with total strangers to a random hotel where I spent the night. Definitely not ideal but I also managed it because circumstances dictated it.

I’d caution cutting contact with your sister over this!

Sounds like that's exactly what has happened with the Scottish rail network in tatters yesterday.

If you were out in the sticks at some of the areas I am thinking of I can understand why you wouldn't want to walk alone.

Then she could say that. What people are asking is why it’s all on the OP’s family rather than his. If it’s because he’s emigrated here from NZ then the OP could clarify that easily.