Page 11 | To be sad that no one would help

Parpadew · 2023-11-03T06:55:49+00:00

Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country. Feel really alone right now!

MumblesParty · 03/11/2023 08:41

Flipdiddle · 03/11/2023 08:34

To me

the brief insight of the Op on this thread

speaks volumes!

agree

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:42

WhereWhoWhen · 03/11/2023 08:39

OP hasn't told us what time she asked or the reason people said no, beyond "they can't be arsed."

I doubt all the people in her life said that to her in response to her ask but we don't know because OP hasn't shared any further details.

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Well that is the reason they said no, because they can't be arsed.

I'm just basing it on what she has said, not making up stuff that she hasn't unlike a lot of people here (why didn't you get a taxi, when she explains why, etc).

UndercoverCop · 03/11/2023 08:42

So it wasn't you they didn't help it was your partner, you live in a city, so surely uber is an option albeit he might been in for a wait, or he could've asked others stranded if they were heading back to the same city, offered to pay petrol to get a lift closer. Can companies in your city will have gone to the rural location and back to the city, or did he not want the cost? I also don't understand why you had to go and get him in a taxi, surely that's twice the fare?

Mumof118 · 03/11/2023 08:42

‘They didn't say they were scared of the storm or worried about night driving. They just didn't want to.’

Well that’s what the op has said.

I drive 2 miles to work and 2 miles back every day. I never drive anywhere else, and I hate driving. I’m a nervous driver. My husband does all of the driving. Last night at about 7pm I had a glass of wine. If the op had called me at 7.30pm, then I couldn’t have driven, even if I wanted to…which I wouldn’t have wanted to, because driving to unfamiliar places in the dark, would make me extremely nervous.

But we get no context here at all. I doubt the family are all just horrible people, and will have had their reasons.

TheGoddessFrigg · 03/11/2023 08:43

Why didnt your partner pal up with the 'hundreds of stranded customers' and share a taxi or lift with one of them?
Or YOU get a taxi from your home address and do a round trip to collect him?

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:44

Startagainjanuary · 03/11/2023 08:39

“Yeah @justalittlesnoel in my case there would have been a high chance I'd had a wine but my family don't really drink.”

This says it all to me and you are being vague and ignoring direct questions. As you said it sounds like your family and friends don’t care about you.

Do you drive yourself? Do you have a car?

She literally says she hasn't got a car.

MarmitePizza · 03/11/2023 08:44

BibbleandSqwauk · 03/11/2023 08:13

@Shinyandnew1 what difference does it make really? I agree the op was initially a little unclear but updates (if people bother to read them) said it was her stranded and the "partner" bit was a rhetorical question. Loads of posters here seem to be going out of their way to be obtuse and find the most far reaching scenarios of why no-one could help, rather than seeing that yes it is pretty rubbish in a general sense.

Someone said "it's life, you're on your own" which I thought was pretty bloody depressing and explains a lot about why so many people are depressed, have anxiety, don't want to ask strangers for even small things like lifting a buggy up steps etc. Maybe we need to think about why so many posters are so keen to jump and nitpick at the op .. another symptom of the general nastiness these days or is it just online twattery and actually most people would in fact help if they possibly could?

From what I can see you have totally made this up. When did the OP say it was her?

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:45

TheGoddessFrigg · 03/11/2023 08:43

Why didnt your partner pal up with the 'hundreds of stranded customers' and share a taxi or lift with one of them?
Or YOU get a taxi from your home address and do a round trip to collect him?

There weren't any taxis. It took five hours for OP to get one.

MumblesParty · 03/11/2023 08:45

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:39

How

does it

speak volumes

to you 😂

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OP is annoyingly vague, won’t answer questions, getting quite shirty with people. Not the sort of person you’d want to do a favour for to be honest!

Imagwine · 03/11/2023 08:46

The lack of comprehension on this thread it ridiculous.

It’s shit of your family op. I would certainly be changing my opinion of them after this, and I too, would cover for the family to avoid my partner being hurt - Because it is hurtful to you both. If you can’t rely on family in an event like this, they aren’t great family imo.

CrimpleFimply · 03/11/2023 08:46

So you were ringing round your family to pick up your partner? And it was you that managed to get him a taxi?

Was he trying to call any of his friends, family or a taxi?

Therealjudgejudy · 03/11/2023 08:47

OP is being so vague...

lightisnotwhite · 03/11/2023 08:48

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/11/2023 08:34

Yes, but the OP has drip fed further details about the fact that she is actually in a city and not in the back end of nowhere as previously implied. And given that her dsis could have apparently picked up dp, dropped him home and then driven home all within a 40 minute window, he obviously isn't that far from the city either, so all the references to very rural locations where no taxis are available seem a bit irrelevant.

In light of the above, "just get a taxi" seems a fairly reasonable response.

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A twenty minute drive down a dual carriageway is over 15 miles. Too long to walk.
Plenty of small stations even in the very busy commuter belt SE don’t have taxi’s at night but might be only 20 minutes from Portsmouth or Guildford.
If you don’t normally get taxi’s phoning for one isn’t that easy either. You need signal to search for a company and find one who will answer let alone willing to come out and get you.

Imagwine · 03/11/2023 08:48

MumblesParty · 03/11/2023 08:45

OP is annoyingly vague, won’t answer questions, getting quite shirty with people. Not the sort of person you’d want to do a favour for to be honest!

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Shes given all the relevant info and people are getting it wrong left, right and centre. I’m not surprised she’s getting shirty.

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:48

Mumof118 · 03/11/2023 08:42

‘They didn't say they were scared of the storm or worried about night driving. They just didn't want to.’

Well that’s what the op has said.

I drive 2 miles to work and 2 miles back every day. I never drive anywhere else, and I hate driving. I’m a nervous driver. My husband does all of the driving. Last night at about 7pm I had a glass of wine. If the op had called me at 7.30pm, then I couldn’t have driven, even if I wanted to…which I wouldn’t have wanted to, because driving to unfamiliar places in the dark, would make me extremely nervous.

But we get no context here at all. I doubt the family are all just horrible people, and will have had their reasons.

Wouldn't you have said that though? Would you have said I don't want to? Also, if it's a relative, don't you think you'd know if the other person was a nervous driver, didn't drive at night, only drove to work etc?

Greenberg2 · 03/11/2023 08:50

MumblesParty · 03/11/2023 08:45

OP is annoyingly vague, won’t answer questions, getting quite shirty with people. Not the sort of person you’d want to do a favour for to be honest!

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I'm getting shirty with people and it's not even my thread. So many people not reading the thread, making stuff up, talking rubbish. Mind blowing...

Stilldigging · 03/11/2023 08:50

I get that your family haven't been great, but it seems odd to me that you have focused on this as an issue between you and them. You say your DP was stranded, so who did he ask to come and get him? Does he not have friends or family he could ask? Presumably he knows you couldn't, so surely he needed to sort out getting home, rather than it being yours and your families responsibility?

curtaintwitchersannonymous · 03/11/2023 08:50

AlwaysPrettyOnTheInside · 03/11/2023 08:29

They take you to the train station, not your front door

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actually depends, I have been dropped off at the door by transport arranged by train companies after failures of the train system, yes,

but in any case irrelevant, you surely set off on a train journey with a plan on how to get home from the station

Beautiful3 · 03/11/2023 08:52

I'm sorry that happened to you. It takes an emergency to show people's true colours. I honestly don't know how you're going to continue a good relationship with your sister and parents, when they didn't want to collect you 20 minutes away?! Just shows what they think of you. I'd be very hurt and would change how I treat them, no more favours. At least you know where you stand now.

betterangels · 03/11/2023 08:52

CrimpleFimply · 03/11/2023 08:46

So you were ringing round your family to pick up your partner? And it was you that managed to get him a taxi?

Was he trying to call any of his friends, family or a taxi?

Yes, this. Why is it on your family first?

SurelySmartie · 03/11/2023 08:52

Was it you who needed collecting/ rescuing or were you using a taxi to collect someone else?

Shinyandnew1 · 03/11/2023 08:52

Imagwine · 03/11/2023 08:48

Shes given all the relevant info and people are getting it wrong left, right and centre. I’m not surprised she’s getting shirty.

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Has she? It took pages before she even clarified it wasn’t her needing the lift!

What time was she expecting people to turn out to collect her boyfriend?

Why didn’t her boyfriend ask one or his friend or family members for a lift, knowing that the OP couldn’t collect him?

Whateverfuckingnext · 03/11/2023 08:53

I'm not sure why you're getting so many shitty responses from people? So many martys on here who wouldn't possibly dream of asking family and friends for help. Whilst over here in the real world that's a perfectly normal and reasonable thing too do.

If it were me and someone I care about I would 100% have done the drive. Wouldn't even be a question and, I'd fully expect a family member to do the same for me. YANBU at all to be upset.

Some of the responses about taxis, walking, staying at the station are just daft. Have we all just forgotten all of a sudden about how vulnerable especially women can feel and are at times, alone, at night in an area away from home. Plus, not everyone has spare cash for taxis, they aren't exactly cheap!

Passepartoute · 03/11/2023 08:53

curtaintwitchersannonymous · 03/11/2023 07:27

Your whole scenario makes no sense - the train company is responsible for the onward journey in these circumstances, and would not have left a passenger stranded or alone

Weird idea. Since when was a train company responsible for getting passengers to their front doors? How could they stop an entire train to make sure each passenger who gets off at every station has transport home?

curtaintwitchersannonymous · 03/11/2023 08:53

Imagwine · 03/11/2023 08:48

Shes given all the relevant info and people are getting it wrong left, right and centre. I’m not surprised she’s getting shirty.

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she hasn't given any relevant information.

who was this person? very different answer if they were 11 to if they were 24

Where was this person? very different answer if they were sitting on a train seat or under shelter in the station, to if they were standing alone in a carpark without shelter in pouring rain