Was anyone's DP a husband/father aged 30 or under?

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Constantly hearing that men these days don't really get married or want children before the age of 30, and preferably later 30s. Just wondering how true this rings? Does that mean women shouldn't date men more than a couple of years younger if they want children, as they'll have to wait longer and risk their own fertility?
I personally know a few men who were married and had children around 28/29. I don't think it's that young really.. 21/22 ok, but nearing 30s, I don't think it's terribly young to commit.

My husband was 27 when we had our first. We had been together 7 years by that point and he would have had kids about 4 years before that if I had wanted them then.

My brothers (both married) were parents at ages 25 and 27

To add to previous comment - he's now 41 and we have four kids, youngest being 4

We married at 26 and had our DC at 27 and then 29. We are still (6 years later), the only ones in our friendship group to have done both, but we’re happy 🥰

My husband was 25 when we got married, which was probably considered a bit late at the time - but it was back in the stone age, and I would be quite shocked if one of my godsons/nephews got married at 25 now (especially if they'd been to university, so only just starting their careers).

Married at 26. First baby at 29. We had been together since 17

@TransformationChynaDoll I've no idea, just one of those things. Some get itchy feet & some don't. Why do you ask?

We got married at 25, first child at 29. We're in our late 30s now.

My brother got married at 26/27.

Based on observations around my friendship group, many men do get married at 25/26 if they are in good and loving relationships around that period. Once they're past that age, however, then I see many of them only getting married as they approach their 40s.

DH was 29 when our first child was born. We’d been married just shy of two years then and had known each other for five. Our second child came along just under four years later. I don’t think 28-30 is unusual for a man to have a first child?

DH is younger than me and we had our children when I was 28, 30 & 36. He wanted to wait he was 30 before trying for a baby. Thank fuck I disagreed with him and thank fuck he was happy to leave it to me. My periods stopped when I was 37. If we had waited we would be childless.

DH 24 when got engaged. 25 DS1. 27 married and DS2.

I don’t know the answer to your question OP, but I think the current trend for waiting until you’re middle aged to have children is short sighted and likely to result in much distress due to fertility problems.

I think it largely depends on how mature the man is. My husband has old head on young shoulders.
we’ve been together since we were 20, two kids by 27 & married at 29.
we’re hitting mid 30s now, which is a little scary.

Surely it also depends on education levels. If a man or woman is at university pursuing a higher education they are much less likely to have the means or time to have kids in their early 20s.

I did a long course at university and most people in my year did not have kids until their 30s. The youngest was mid to late 20s.

I was 20 and he was 21 for my first.

2nd I was 27 and he was 36

We were 25 (me) and 26(DH) when we got married and 28 and 29 respectively when our first DC was born. Though we had 2 miscarriages and a stillborn before her so if things had worked out differently we would have had a DC much sooner.

We were both 23 when we got married altho we’d been together since we were at school together. Our first was born a year later, totally unplanned, however we were very much the exception. Most of our friends were well into their thirties.

Sorry, too many togethers there.

@Roiesin57 I've just got a theory that men, in general, are happier with what they've got than women are. Men cheat more (statistically I think) but I think that's mostly down to opportunity and being out the house more. I think if you changed society and made the same amount of men be part time or SAHP then the statistics would change and women would have more affairs.
Most of the women I know, including myself, have been the ones to end the relationship. We won't put up with a lack of intimacy or a lack of care. We get a surge in sexuality later, and so I think that's why we often disconnect from male partners, who don't feel like that in their late thirties, early forties.
Anyway I know this doesn't apply to your situation and that you didn't cheat but I've been through similar where at thirty five I just wanted to be out all the time and meet new people. I ended my relationship and I'm really glad I did.
My ex wasn't happy but he would have stuck in the relationship regardless I think. In the same way he will probably stay in a job he hates until retirement. Men really seem to prefer sticking with what they know.
Again, this isn't your situation at all and I'm glad you made it through. I hope you still get to go out some time.

No, DH was 31 when we got married and 33 when we had DS. My sister and her ExH had their children at 26, 28 and 29. Didn’t get married until they were 34 though.

My husband was 23 when we had our first 9 years ago.

Constantly hearing that men these days don't really get married or want children before the age of 30, and preferably later 30s. Just wondering how true this rings?

Well it’s true for men and it’s also true for women. The average age of a first time mum is over 30.9 for women and 33.6 for men.

Obviously there are men and women who marry younger and have children younger than that but overall the average age is increasing for both.

DH was 25 when we married, 27 when DC1 was born and 28 when DC2 was born. He has a schoolfriend who isn't married but has two very much planned DC with long term partner, born when he was 28 and 30.

My brother aldo had 3 DC before age 30 but there was a lot less planning involved!

Married at 27 and DH was 28 when our first was born and 30 when second arrived.

Married at 25 (DH same age). Pregnant at 26 and had baby at 27.

We're 33 now.