Was anyone's DP a husband/father aged 30 or under?

[ArethaQ]

Constantly hearing that men these days don't really get married or want children before the age of 30, and preferably later 30s. Just wondering how true this rings? Does that mean women shouldn't date men more than a couple of years younger if they want children, as they'll have to wait longer and risk their own fertility?
I personally know a few men who were married and had children around 28/29. I don't think it's that young really.. 21/22 ok, but nearing 30s, I don't think it's terribly young to commit.

We were 23 (me) and 25 when we got married, DH was 27, 32 and 37 when we had the DC’s.

Yes thinking about it dd1 6 months when it was Dh 30th. I’m 3 years older. He was the one keenest to start a family we had been trying a year so when he was late twenties. He is fab though. If he was cloned most women’s problem with men would vanish.

DH is one year younger than me, he was 24 when we had our first (unplanned), 27 when we got married and 29 when we had our second. He’s a great husband and dad but probably wouldn’t have settled down when he did if he hadn’t knocked me up!

Dh was 27, 30 and 40 when our 3 were born.
Dd was 23 when she had her first, her dp was 25.

Not the answer to your question but ExH's grandfather was 37 when he was born.

DH was 25 and I was 26 when we married. He wanted children right away, but I wanted to wait so I was 29 when we had our first. It seems quite young now, but it didn’t in the 90s. I cannot imagine my 26 year old daughter getting married!

Dh was 24 and 27 for dc1 and 2. Married at 31. Dc3 at 34.

My DC Dad was under 30 but DC wasn’t planned. Both of us were too young (mid-20s) and not established in careers/financially secure yet so the relationship didn’t last beyond the first year after DC was born.

When I was born in the early 80s under 30 Dads weren’t uncommon but among my social circles it’s not the norm. My brother was married at 35 and was 37 for his first, they owned their house etc. Among our friends and similar age cousins etc it seems to be people get married 30-33, start having kids 32-36.

DH and I met at 34, married at 35 and had dd1 at 36 then dd2 at 39. Fairly typical ages for many people we know.

My XH was 25 and we'd been married for over a year when we had our first child. My current husband became a father (not with me) at 28. Neither of them would have been considered particularly young and both had male friends or colleagues of similar age who had settled down and had their first child.

My husband turned 24 a few months after we got married. Our oldest was born a couple months after our first anniversary.
Our children are 9 and 7 and I’m currently very pregnant with our 3rd. It’s lovely to be in our early/mid-30s with energy to keep up with them, and some more life experience now that we’re really in the trenches of raising them.

A lot of me is very grateful that those challenging days of toddler/newborn simultaneously came when I was younger. Inexperienced, yes; but when I turned 30 a whole lot of switches flipped health-wise and I slowed down quite a bit. I know several others who feel the same - including my husband!

Every family is so different.

I'm 36. Almost every man I know who had children before the age of 30, bar maybe one or two that I can think of, had not planned it. Some later got married to the mother of their children and some later ended up separating. The men I know who actively sought to start a family and get married were in their (mainly early) 30s before they did so.

We’re early 30s so not that long ago - DH was 25 when we got married and dad at 28. I was 22 and 25 first baby. First home a year after getting married.

We got married when I was 21 and my husband had just turned 24. We've been married 8yrs now with 2 young children.

We got married at 29 and our first baby was born when DH was 30. We were maybe 2-3 years ahead of our peers (in London, DC1 is 5 so recent!). Most of our friends got married in the few years after us and had their first child around the time we had DC2 so when they were 32-34.

He was 25 when we married, had our first child when he was 29 (31 now)

Statistically there really isn't much difference between being in your late 20s and early 30s. I agree if you leave it later you are more likely to encounter problems, but it's misleading to suggest leaving it til you're 30 is 'late' when the vast majority of 30 year old women will fall pregnant quickly and have a healthy, live birth. In the past women would have started having babies in their 20s but would have continued well into their 30s.

My ds dad was 23 when ds was born.

DH is 1 year old than me. We were married when I was 24, DC1 at 27 and DS2 at 29, so yes, DH was under 30 when married with 2 babies. We've been married 22 years now, marriage and DC were planned.
Again, I can't imagine having young children now - its exhausting plus we now get time to travel as a couple and a good number of years without the cost of kids to plough into pensions.

My grandmother was 37 when I was born.

I was 20, DH was 21 when we married
Still married now 25 years later

They only babies I know of that have recently born to anyone under 28 ish have been unplanned.

I was 29 and 32 when our children were born.

DH was 38 and 41.

I was 31 when we got married. He was 40. Been married for 4 years, together for 10.

My exH was 23 when our DD was born. I was 19. This was 40 years ago in 1983.

I've just turned 31, married a year with a 1 year old. None of my friends are married or having children