Looking for some perspective here. Single mum, happily divorced and diligently dating. I was involved in a collision last week, absolutely not my fault and several witnesses who agreed I couldn’t have avoided it. Was fairly nasty, my vehicle written off and a few people in hospital but thankfully no one died. Now my dilemma is this: one of the witnesses who stopped was really attractive and there was instant chemistry between us. I’m talking lingering eye contact, hand on shoulder, ‘are you really ok?’ type interaction. But he was in the car with his girlfriend who seemed cold and maybe like they’d been arguing or weren’t really very into each other. As we all swapped details, I’m wondering if it’s unreasonable to message him, with romantic intentions, given the obvious connection we shared. I feel like these things happen for a reason and our universes collided, as my car collided with the school minibus. I’ve been dating on and off for nearly 3 years now and I haven’t felt anything like this. I can’t stop thinking about him and really want to send him a message but I haven’t yet. AIBU?