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In trouble, I grabbed the best room!

347 replies

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:49

I'm on holiday with a group of mates; they have partners and I dont. Last time we went away together the couple that arrived first at the cottage grabbed the best room, with no shame or negotiation! We all ended up joking that this time round we would race eachother for the best room...all a bit whacky races and jovial! Anyway, I got there well before anyone else for various travel related reasons, so grabbed the best room. Big with an ensuite. The other rooms were nice just a bit smaller...one didnt have an ensuite. Anyhow, one of the couples has kicked off - because Im single, I shouldn't have the biggest room apparently. Given they're all essentially nice rooms, this feels a bit shitty...should I have quietly taken a 'lesser' room just because I'm a solo traveller?? All so petty I know, but peed off at the sour atmosphere after all the joking about rooms in the run up.

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TimeMovesOn · 28/10/2023 00:04

Stay In YOUR Room, boo hoo to them, they started it after last time, yanbu, sleep well 😁

Theemeperorsnewclothes · 28/10/2023 00:06

TimeMovesOn · Today 00:04

Stay In YOUR Room, boo hoo to them, they started it after last time, yanbu, sleep well 😁

😂 sleep well 👏

Humblebottomous · 28/10/2023 00:07

You all sound incredibly competitive and petty. I wouldn’t want to be on holiday with any of you.

But no, if other people have been grabby before then you’re perfectly entitled to be grabby now. Serves them right for being greedy buggers in the first place.

JimnJoyce · 28/10/2023 00:08

Op if you had taken a different room upon arriving first, how would all of the other couples decide who got the best and worst rooms?

saraclara · 28/10/2023 00:13

Zanatdy · 27/10/2023 20:36

You should have taken the smallest room with an en-suite. If you’ve paid the least and have the biggest room, I can see them being annoyed. Especially given only you in the room, so less space needed. I think it’s just about being fair about it, and I think their comments are a bit unfair in all honesty, but you should also bear in mind you paid less so perhaps taking a big room was a bit unfair

She didn't pay less. She paid more than any other individual.

Look at out this way. The couples each had two incomes with which to pay for their rooms. OP has only one income to pay for hers. Yet she has to pay more than each individual in a couple. And she's expected to have the shittiest room.

LaurieStrode · 28/10/2023 00:27

I'm on Team OP. For fucking once, the couples can suck it up.

This is why I stay in hotels, not villas, airbnb, etc. Give me a private room, private bath, room service, lobby, bar, housekeeping service, etc., and none of these squabbles about rooms and no one else's cooking and crap to put up with.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 28/10/2023 00:36

It's all a bit petty and juvenile really
Personally as long as I had a comfortable clean bed, I'd just be happy to have a nice weekend with my friends
on the other hand you don't want to fall out with friends on the first night
Out of interest do you have a food kitty?

Monetm · 28/10/2023 00:53

As a single person, going on holiday with multiple couples would be my idea of hell. Even one couple, honestly.

Escapetofrance · 28/10/2023 00:59

It sounds like it’s spoiling your time away & a bigger room probably isn’t worth it. I’d go for the smaller room but that’s because I like to keep the peace. I probably wouldn’t go away with them again though.

Tiredandgrumpy31 · 28/10/2023 01:09

Stay where you are. Something should have been said before you got there if they felt you as a single person shouldn’t get the best room because you’ve paid slightly less. Bit unfair though, as proportionally you’ve paid more individually. We’re off to a family wedding abroad soon and have booked a massive villa but have made sure every room is en suite to avoid arguments. Still got one person who despite not helping at all with any of the organising, has requested they have the sea view master bedroom as they love a sea view and its the only request/requirement they have asked for (not true).

Pussygaloregalapagos · 28/10/2023 01:45

I have an idea to make it fairer. You could invite any of the others in for a sleepover during the holiday so they can enjoy the room too!

Also you can host nightly drinks parties in there and stories before bed time so everyone can enjoy it!

wombat1a · 28/10/2023 02:55

Sorry I think you are being unreasonable, they have paid more for a room, they should get the bigger room.

Plus two people takes up more space than one person so purely on practical terms the single person should take the smaller room.

ACGTHelix · 28/10/2023 03:00

if its first to arrive chooses then the other teams should of been faster

Hotchocolatemousse · 28/10/2023 03:07

This thread is the reason why I don't go on joint holidays anymore because of all this selfish behaviour. I think you really get to know someone's personality by travelling with them. If I ever did travel with someone then I'd book separate accommodation.

It's important for me to have my own space & do some activities alone to maintain the relationship.

peanutbuttertoasty · 28/10/2023 03:12

All of you sound very selfish and not great friends IMO

ditto a PP - when I’ve done these trips with friends we’ve mutually agreed rooms on practicality. One person should not have the biggest room when it could accommodate two people. Makes no sense and is just grabby. I was single all through my 30s and would not have behaved like this so yes I think YABU. Agree you should have a smaller but nice room with en-suite so you don’t have to share bathroom with a couple

mfbx5sf3 · 28/10/2023 03:36

I think it depends on bed size. If you’ve grabbed yourself a massive king and made two people share a standard double then I would think you were being pretty greedy and unreasonable.

Fruitandclottedcream · 28/10/2023 03:49

I don't think you're in the right OR the wrong really.

I can see why some people would say you were a bit dickish. But you "won" fair and square and played by the rules.

To be honest I think the couple would find a reason to kick off regardless of who had the room. I could understand if they had no ensuite, but you said they've got an ensuite, so they clearly feel entitled to the biggest room, because they're not missing out on anything more than a foot or so of space.

adriftabroad · 28/10/2023 05:26

If I was in a couple OR on my own; I would not take the biggest/best room.

I would take a nice en suiteroom. As I am not stupid and have a strong sense of self preservation.

adriftabroad · 28/10/2023 05:32

... basically, everyones resentment towards everyone about rooms will now be on you.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 28/10/2023 06:17

I don’t think you should have accepted the discount if you still wanted to be in contention for the biggest room

Zanatdy · 28/10/2023 06:35

saraclara · 28/10/2023 00:13

She didn't pay less. She paid more than any other individual.

Look at out this way. The couples each had two incomes with which to pay for their rooms. OP has only one income to pay for hers. Yet she has to pay more than each individual in a couple. And she's expected to have the shittiest room.

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Well she could earn double what the couples earn so not really relevant she’s paid more per room. I don’t get why you’d bag the biggest room just because you can, when these people are your friends. I personally would have got an ensuite room, as I’m there first but I would have taken the smallest one. I think it’s a bit silly taking the biggest room just because you can, when it means a lot less space for couples. I don’t agree she should have the shittest room, but I think these things should be agreed up front, not who can get there first. What if someone’s there last as their relative is seriously unwell. I think in this situation you agree in a group which rooms are best, and add a premium for them, charge less for the non ensuite room. Saves arguments or pent up resentment and can ruin weekends

Northernparent68 · 28/10/2023 06:37

it doesn’t matter what the internet thinks, what matters is what the op’s friends think, and they’re annoyed. Is it worth losing a friendship group over ?

VintageTuppence · 28/10/2023 06:40

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:55

Hmm. I did get a bit of a discount....not a 50% one though. Complicates things tho.

Proportionately you paid more than each individual. You deserve the best room.

Viviennemary · 28/10/2023 06:42

If you paid the same as the couples then you were entitled to the best room. If you didn't you weren't. You got a discount so you were cheeky IMHO.

Zanatdy · 28/10/2023 06:43

DaisyAster · 27/10/2023 20:59

OP is proportionately more out of pocket than anyone else, it's fine.

You make it sound like it’s a fine not a holiday. Single people do pay more for hotel rooms etc, it’s just the way it is. It’s just pretty selfish bagging the biggest room when you don’t need the extra space (in the bed, in the room). Just because you can.

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