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In trouble, I grabbed the best room!

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Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:49

I'm on holiday with a group of mates; they have partners and I dont. Last time we went away together the couple that arrived first at the cottage grabbed the best room, with no shame or negotiation! We all ended up joking that this time round we would race eachother for the best room...all a bit whacky races and jovial! Anyway, I got there well before anyone else for various travel related reasons, so grabbed the best room. Big with an ensuite. The other rooms were nice just a bit smaller...one didnt have an ensuite. Anyhow, one of the couples has kicked off - because Im single, I shouldn't have the biggest room apparently. Given they're all essentially nice rooms, this feels a bit shitty...should I have quietly taken a 'lesser' room just because I'm a solo traveller?? All so petty I know, but peed off at the sour atmosphere after all the joking about rooms in the run up.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:06

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 20:02

Plus no one said anything before, it was all hilarity about who would get there first (until it was me.)

That smarts a bit.

MissAmbrosia · 27/10/2023 20:06

It does very much depend on what you paid compared to everyone else. I personally wouldn't take the largest room if I was on my own.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 27/10/2023 20:06

I think it makes a difference as to why the room is better. If it's better because it's a lot more spacious, it's probably mean for a single person to take it and then leave a couple with a significantly smaller room. But it's not on to expect somebody to have a grotty little cupboard-room with no en-suite, no view, rubbishy futon etc. etc. just for being single.

SadlyACupOfTeaDoesNotSolveEverything · 27/10/2023 20:06

If anyone was unhappy with the room grab on the first trip they should have suggested a rotation/draw names/compete in a bloody triathlon etc to determine who gets what room… they didn’t and therefore you grabbed it as you arrived first - literally what was joked about/discussed.

looking4pup · 27/10/2023 20:07

But then how do you decide out of the couples who gets the biggest and who doesn't have an en suite.

It's best to book a hotel / BNB or somewhere where the rooms are the same unless people chose those rooms and pay less.

SadlyACupOfTeaDoesNotSolveEverything · 27/10/2023 20:08

Ps. DH and I would be just as fine in a smaller room too. Surely they realise all hotel/cottage/lodge rooms are not created equal 🙄

assignedmeowth · 27/10/2023 20:08

If you'd paid the same per room I'd think it was reasonable.

If you're the only single traveller and paying less I think it's a bit U to pick the biggest.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 27/10/2023 20:09

I think they do have a point if the couples have paid considerably more in total per room than you have, though.

angsanana · 27/10/2023 20:10

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:55

Hmm. I did get a bit of a discount....not a 50% one though. Complicates things tho.

So a couple are paying more for a smaller room with no en-suite? Yes you're being unreasonable.

Tinkerbyebye · 27/10/2023 20:11

No and I would be telling them to grow up

you got there first, last year another couple got there first and took the room with no negotiation

end of discussion

Creatingspace · 27/10/2023 20:11

Enjoy the biggest room. Your friends need to get over it. It's just another example of how people are seen as 'less than' when single rather than part of a couple. If my partner and I were on a holiday as you have described we wouldn't really have an issue. Would be annoyed if we got the room without an en suite tho. Not annoyed at you but at being last to arrive! Hope you enjoy your holiday! 💖

hardknocklifeforme · 27/10/2023 20:13

Yikes - I think you're a bit cheeky - it's a bit awkward. Think you should have had smaller room but with en-suite.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:13

TBF not everyone likes an ensuite. I don't. I assume if all the rooms but one have ensuites when the 'common' bathroom can be that couple's so they don't have to share.

Huhuhuhu · 27/10/2023 20:14

Well. If you paid less you should get a more shit room.
HOWEVER this wasn't agreed beforehand.
So while you played by the rules it's a bit of a dick move.
I don't think you can really be blamed here but I wouldn't be too generous to you in future and make sure that everything was pre-agreed.

Prinnny · 27/10/2023 20:14

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:55

Hmm. I did get a bit of a discount....not a 50% one though. Complicates things tho.

So you paid the least and took the biggest room for just yourself? YABU I’m not surprised they’re pissed off with you!

CantFindTheBeat · 27/10/2023 20:14

God, that feels awkward, OP, how horrible.

No one should be making you feel unreasonable for taking any room if it wasn't established up front who would have what.

I don't think I would have the balls to take clearly the best room, as a couple or not, so you've got confidence, for sure!

I think the issue has arisen by not sorting it out ahead of time though.

Anyone being the only person/couple without an en-suite yet paying the same price could be a problem.

nettie434 · 27/10/2023 20:15

It clearly didn't work out last time either. Otherwise you wouldn't have had the race to get the best room first. Next time you are going to have to find another system - e g taking it in turns for the best room or paying different amounts depending on the room.

Huhuhuhu · 27/10/2023 20:15

Creatingspace · 27/10/2023 20:11

Actually the couples get the shit end of the stick. They are paying to share a room. OP is paying for her own!

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 27/10/2023 20:15

It's probably complicated a bit as, in a lot of houses, a single room would have been designed with children in mind - so you automatically wouldn't get an en-suite or nicer things that tend to matter more to adults.

Theunamedcat · 27/10/2023 20:17

You payed more per person? Why?

You snooze you loose maybe next time arrange it all before hand

ACGTHelix · 27/10/2023 20:17

Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 20:02

Plus no one said anything before, it was all hilarity about who would get there first (until it was me.)

thats the tricky part with people all business till someone else wins then its the horror. enjoy op, you won fair and square,

FarEast · 27/10/2023 20:17

Anyhow, one of the couples has kicked off - because Im single, I shouldn't have the biggest room apparently. Given they're all essentially nice rooms, this feels a bit shitty...should I have quietly taken a 'lesser' room just because I'm a solo traveller??

No, you should not. I hate the way single people are always an afterthought & expected to have the smallest rooms etc.

Your friends are being very unreasonable.

And bad losers.

PauliesWalnuts · 27/10/2023 20:17

If it wasn’t sorted out in advance (drawing lots or whatever) then first come first served! Enjoy your room. I’m so sick of getting the shit room as a singleton. I even ended up on a sofa bed in the lounge once and couldn’t go to sleep until everyone had decided that it was time for bed.

ACGTHelix · 27/10/2023 20:18

the only thing for next time is everyone agree to a list of rules then theres no debating ect, if everyone knows what is what.

Flowerpowera7 · 27/10/2023 20:18

No, just chill you are on holidays. Enjoy!

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