In trouble, I grabbed the best room!

[Singletraveller]

I'm on holiday with a group of mates; they have partners and I dont. Last time we went away together the couple that arrived first at the cottage grabbed the best room, with no shame or negotiation! We all ended up joking that this time round we would race eachother for the best room...all a bit whacky races and jovial! Anyway, I got there well before anyone else for various travel related reasons, so grabbed the best room. Big with an ensuite. The other rooms were nice just a bit smaller...one didnt have an ensuite. Anyhow, one of the couples has kicked off - because Im single, I shouldn't have the biggest room apparently. Given they're all essentially nice rooms, this feels a bit shitty...should I have quietly taken a 'lesser' room just because I'm a solo traveller?? All so petty I know, but peed off at the sour atmosphere after all the joking about rooms in the run up.

I think you should say you're not moving but will pay the full rate now.

But there's no such thing as the full rate. As many people have explained.

OP could equally well say she'll move if everyone pays the same rate per head as she did.

It's astonishing to me that this assumption that everything should be priced per room is so ingrained that many people seem incapable of realising that it's just that, an assumption.

No I don’t agree with the per person or per couple argument - are all the rooms double? In which case, I think what you’ve done is fair and you are just as entitled to a nice room

If a couple is having to squeeze into a single bed or a significantly smaller room then it’s maybe a bit cheeky but not completely unreasonable

Would you really have a couple squeeze into a single bed, whilst a single took the double bed…..just because ‘everyone is equally entitled to the biggest room’?

@WombatChocolate , there's nothing in OP's posts to suggest that al the bedrooms weren't double, only that one room didn't gave an en suite.

If I had been there, I'd have considered if any of the beds were larger and longer, and left that for a taller couple, if there was one.

My response was to what SleepDeprived said. I quoted them, not Op.

Apologies, @WombatChocolate

'then it’s maybe a bit cheeky but not completely unreasonable' yeah, I think that would be taking the piss rather than being cheeky. I would completely change my view if that was the case.

However, like said above I don't think that's the situation here.

No, as I said in my message - I think making a couple squeeze into a single bed would be cheeky and I would understand them being annoyed by it

But otherwise (and as seems to be the case from the OP post) this wasn’t the case so it’s not an issue

Wow I didn’t know we were so pedantic on Mumsnet. I’m married so generally attend holidays as part of a couple but I do think it’s unfair how single people are often expected to take smaller (and often not as nice) rooms when everyone is paying the same per person or (as in this case), the OP is actually paying more

I’m assuming if you’re on a group holiday these are your friends and family so I would want everyone to enjoy themselves and have a good time regardless of if they’re in a couple or not - I think me and my partner would both be open to a smaller room without an en-suite, it’s only where you sleep after all!

@Lavender14

Bit of a different scenario but....an old neighbour was considering renting her parents old house. My mum asked about me renting it for myself and my son. The cheeky fecker said to my mum, 'I'd like to see it go to a family'. It shows some people don't see single parents as a family. Has there got to be 2 adults in the family for it to be a family?

It really annoyed me.

The OP has not paid more than the others! The per person calculation makes no sense at all, complete financial illiteracy to make that argument. If you insist on thinking like that, the others have paid £50 for half a room whereas OP has paid £75 for a whole room. So OP has got more square footage for her £.

I think she was incredibly selfish and petty to pay £75 for the best room whilst everybody else paid £50 for a half share of a worse room. If OP paid the same £100 for a room as everybody else had, then she s entitled to take the biggest and best room, but considering these are friends, would you not just think “well I don’t need as much room as everybody else so I shall just do the decent thing and take a nice, en-suite but not necessarily the largest room”.

The members of a couple did not get half a room. They got a whole room minus half of a double bed. That's unless their partner was the size of half of the room.

You make no sense at all. I've shared a room with a partner and I've had rooms to myself. That's been no space inconvenience to sharing with my other half.
Had this been about a group of single friends, some having to share and one not, it would be different. But it's not.

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The members of a couple did not get half a room. They got a whole room minus half of a double bed. That's unless their partner was the size of half of the room.

So if one of the couple got a whole room minus half a bed, what did the other person in the couple get for their money?

I realise that, to a degree, two people can share the same space, but there are still two bodies and two people's stuff to fit into that same space.

Again, I certainly don't see any reason why a single person should be expected to have a worse room than a couple, but I see no justification for their complaining at having a smaller room than two people have to share between them. Do these single people who would complain also moan at getting less food at mealtimes than the combined total of food that the couple gets?

Sounds as if the accommodation price was calculated per person but the people in couples got a discount each for sharing a room. In that case, they might expect a little less space per person than the OP, especially if they agreed to the 'room race' as well.

It sounds like the 'room race' caused most of the issue. Maybe remove that anxiety next time by agreeing rooms or drawing straws before you go.

Regardless of who paid what, if it's all double rooms what does it matter? Just because ones bigger than the other doesn't mean the couple deserve it, unless the couple paid for extra facilities in their room then it's first come first served.

Glad it all worked out for you OP!

The whole situation is quite cringy to me though, as are all the suggestions for fair systems being suggested. Isn’t it excruciatingly awkward and embarrassing to be so blatantly out for yourselves when away with friends? When I go away with friends we’re always offering the best rooms to each other, nobody’s rushing to grab the best of anything.

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