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In trouble, I grabbed the best room!

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Singletraveller · 27/10/2023 19:49

I'm on holiday with a group of mates; they have partners and I dont. Last time we went away together the couple that arrived first at the cottage grabbed the best room, with no shame or negotiation! We all ended up joking that this time round we would race eachother for the best room...all a bit whacky races and jovial! Anyway, I got there well before anyone else for various travel related reasons, so grabbed the best room. Big with an ensuite. The other rooms were nice just a bit smaller...one didnt have an ensuite. Anyhow, one of the couples has kicked off - because Im single, I shouldn't have the biggest room apparently. Given they're all essentially nice rooms, this feels a bit shitty...should I have quietly taken a 'lesser' room just because I'm a solo traveller?? All so petty I know, but peed off at the sour atmosphere after all the joking about rooms in the run up.

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TomatoSandwiches · 27/10/2023 21:37

Reach9kat · 27/10/2023 21:07

How petty. Who cares, have you not all gone away to spend time together and go off having adventures together. Who the hell is sitting in their room long enough to care?!

Exactly! I'd just be happy to get away with friends, so long as the rooms fit two people what's the fuss about?.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 27/10/2023 21:39

I get that it's irritating as a single traveller to be given a really dreadful, pokey little room that's much less desirable than half of a lovely big double in the same place.

Nevertheless, you can't have it both ways: expecting to pay less because there's only one of you in the room, but then also expecting to have one of the bigger rooms to yourself.

NotSayingImBatman · 27/10/2023 21:40

Genuinely, why is anyone saying a singleton has paid less? The couples have a dual income, no? Comparatively, everyone has paid the same, OP just doesn’t have a partner to split the cost with.

Paulisexcluded · 27/10/2023 21:41

I think that as you are paying a higher price per person, enjoy. Everyone has what they need. Who cares and you got there first. You had as much right to grab the room as anyone.

I hope everyone has a nice weekend!

IhearyouClemFandango · 27/10/2023 21:41

Tbh I wouldn’t take the biggest room if on my own, as it makes more sense for that to be occupied by more people. I would have taken the nicest of the smaller rooms.

FiddleLeaf · 27/10/2023 21:42

Good on ya! Single people are too regularly treated either less than or like a child. Stay put & enjoy!

momtoboys · 27/10/2023 21:43

You stay right where you are! Enjoy that room!

TheNestedIf · 27/10/2023 21:45

You paid more than every other individual there and are therefore subsidising the individuals who are part of a couple. As long as all the couples have doubles, because making couples sleep in single beds / rooms would be a bit mean, stand your ground. They were quite happy with first come first serve when it was to their advantage.

Creatingspace · 27/10/2023 21:47

FarEast · 27/10/2023 21:36

You KNOW either of the couples had arrived first, they would have taken the best room with no qualms.

You know if you'd arrive last, you'd have had the shit no en-suite room.

If they want fairness over rooms, sort it some other way, in advance.

This. Ask the couple who are complaining, what they would have done if they'd arrived first. I'd bet they'd have taken the nicest room.

And let's remember people, that in a holiday house situation, it's not just the bedrooms guests pay for. Couple take up twice the space in the shared areas.

Completely agree!

CosimoPiovasco · 27/10/2023 22:02

We go away with friends.
First that arrives gets their pick etc etc. some rooms twin beds, some double.

No one has ever been peeved about this.
Even when couples have ended up in separate single rooms.
We re there to enjoy each other’s company.
I wouldn’t worry OP, the complainers are not team players.

Codlingmoths · 27/10/2023 22:02

I think next time you might be paying the same as everyone else I’m afraid! Unless your discount was teeny weeny.

WiddlinDiddlin · 27/10/2023 22:03

If OP were paying HALF what the couples were paying, I might agree...

But as it stands if say OP is paying £75 for her room and the others are paying £50 each (so £100 per couple).. no. She is paying £25 per person MORE than them... to get the worst room?

Fuck no.

This isn't a hotel room.

This is shared accomodation likely flat rate no matter how many people occupy it (up to the max for that property).

As for 'well the couples have to share' FFS... yes, with the person they've decided to shack up with and be in a relationship with. Oh what a hardship! IF thats a genuine issue, they should have booked a property where everyone got a room each.

Likely this property has an ensuite in all but one room, and a seperate bathroom. So everyone gets their own bathroom, the only difference really is some will have a slightly smaller bedroom and one couple - oh no - have to walk a short way to their bathroom!

Unless the entire holiday is about spending extra time beyond sleeping, in the bedrooms, I really can't see what the issue is. How much room do folk bloody need to get dressed/undressed/into bed?!

HunterHearstHelmsley · 27/10/2023 22:05

SaturdayGiraffe · 27/10/2023 20:31

Had this once. The single person in the double room got angry when we explained that the single duvet on the bed in our room wasn’t enough to cover both of us (it was cold at night).

Why would a double bed have a single duvet? Very strange.

@Singletraveller I'd probably have taken a smaller room, as long as it had an en suite.

However, the fact it was all fun and games until the single person "won" is a bit shit.

Overall, you've paid the most per person, you deserve a decent room but not the best room as you've paid less per room. Obviously you wouldn't be the one without an en suite.

Next time, maybe allocate the rooms prior.

boismint · 27/10/2023 22:05

So everyone joked about it but it turned sour when they didn’t come off better than the single woman. Not so funny now.
I don’t think I’d go away with them again unless the hotel allocates the rooms and it’s random!

User1789 · 27/10/2023 22:09

OP, while I get the temptation to make the point you are making (though it is a dick move to do so while also paying less for the accommodation), there may well be a point in the future where you have a partner.

Your approach, and many of the posts on this thread in support of it, comes across as a bit resentful at your friends for being in couples while you are not.

Do you want to be friends with these people? Or do you want to make a point?

ltappleby · 27/10/2023 22:10

How good friends are you? If your not very good friends indeed, I would worry that this may be the last holiday you have with them all.

fridaynight1 · 27/10/2023 22:10

I’d be saying - you snooze, you lose. Enjoy your room 😋

HelloItsMeHowAreYou · 27/10/2023 22:10

NotSayingImBatman · 27/10/2023 21:40

Genuinely, why is anyone saying a singleton has paid less? The couples have a dual income, no? Comparatively, everyone has paid the same, OP just doesn’t have a partner to split the cost with.

Careful, you'll get the same sarky comments I got of "so should they pay on the basis of what their income is then?"

TortolaParadise · 27/10/2023 22:11

Sweet dreams. Early bird catches the first worm!

Everydayimhuffling · 27/10/2023 22:12

They literally set up that this was how rooms were being allocated. If they didn't want that to happen then they should have worked them out in advance or together when everyone arrived. You are paying more than they each are. Tough luck to them.

TweetypiePez · 27/10/2023 22:14

OP, you’ve done nothing wrong. You’ve played your friends at their own game and won. They would’ve done exactly the same if they had arrived first. Some people take things so bloody seriously. You got there first, end of. Enjoy your room!

HunterHearstHelmsley · 27/10/2023 22:14

HelloItsMeHowAreYou · 27/10/2023 22:10

Careful, you'll get the same sarky comments I got of "so should they pay on the basis of what their income is then?"

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It's mad. OP should get a decent room as she's paid more per person. Not be thrown the scraps that the couples don't want.

It's very telling that it was all fun and games until the singleton got the nicest room. I expect that thought the OP would just automatically choose the worst room.

Perhaps the biggest room should have gone to a couple, purely because there's more people sharing the space. However, the OP was clearly going to have an en suite so someone would be grumpy.

applesandmares · 27/10/2023 22:15

Honestly, if i were you I'd have chosen a nice room with an en suite but not the largest room. If I was them, I'd probably think you were a bit inconsiderate to take the largest room when you're solo. That said, it's a tiny issue and I wouldn't get worked up about it. Enjoy your trip!

SoupDragon · 27/10/2023 22:23

I think it was wrong to choose the biggest room when there's just you in it. Best smaller room, fine.

Hankunamatata · 27/10/2023 22:31

Assuming all the beds are the same size?

Next time they should split accomadation by room cost. So biggest room with en suite pays the most, room with no en suite pays the less