Or is this hen do behaviour a bit off?

[TheMadHattter]

I've just arrived at a hen do that has been arranged and booked for months. 2 days ago a couple of the bride's friends said they are only staying for one night now so it will cheaper for them - however as it's an Airbnb the overall cost has not changed so the remaining 6 of us have had to chip in to make up the difference for them pulling out of the second night.

I was already a bit miffed about this and now I've just arrived and the two friends who have done this have claimed a bedroom with double bed and ensuite. They have said me and SIL can have that bedroom tomorrow night once they leave and until then we can sleep on the fold out bed in the lounge. I know usually it's first come first served and we were the last to arrive, but as they've pulled out and made it more expensive for everyone else I think they should be on the fold out bed. I don't particularly want to sleep in their dirty sheets either.

I don't know these friends and I don't want to spoil it for the bride so I've just gone along with it but inside I'm pretty annoyed and just think this is rude behaviour. AIBU?

Being nice is overrated.

Christ that sounds awful, I hate hen parties but I’ve never actually been on one as bad as this sounds. I’d have found a hotel nearby and left last night rather than sleep on a broken bed without bedding, you aren’t responsible for the bride having a magical time at the expense of your own comfort. Hope you’re packed up and ready to leave today if you stayed the night, and please make sure you ask MoH for your refund of tonight’s accommodation.

It's the MOH fault, she has indulged this behaviour!

You drop out, you forfeit the monies already paid. I would never have paid the additional. i'd have said if i have to pay more, i cant afford to come either.

Well it sounds like MOH may not be a neutral party in this.

OP and SIL should never have sucked up the extra cost, seems it was a way of testing how far they could be pushed- and all the way is the answer. The lack of bedding was the final straw , I would have asked for all my money back at that point.

To be fair on the MOH, organising a hen party can be a bit of a nightmare, particularly with hens like this. However, even if you want to support the bride, it sounds as though things are just going to get worse, particularly if everyone is drunk.

Be polite but honest and cut your losses now.

Why are you still there? Go home and get all of your money back. What a piss take.

Just go home. The bride is there now, if she is standing by and watching you get treated like this and not saying anything you don’t owe her any consideration. And tbh, if I were you I’d be telling my brother that I was Not Fucking Impressed by his fiancée, and asking for an apology and a refund from her. It wasn’t her fault until you all arrived, but it is now.

This! I hope you're on your way home by now OP. Stop being so wet and get the hell out of there. These women are mugging you off. If the bride is oblivious to their shenanigans, it reflects very badly on her and if she isn't oblivious, she's complicit. No way would I tolerate people like this let alone be friends with them.

I am a confrontational old hag and to be honest do enjoy la bit of confrontation. And some threads on here drive me insane where the OP gets walked all over. And I don't know anyone like this in RL.

HOWEVER in this instance I would keep my mouth tightly shut. It's a bride's hen do, and would never mar it because some of the bride's friends behaviour.

Although I would not be paying the extra, hopefully you haven't yet. I would leave early today and just ignore the horrible women when you go to the wedding.

I am surprised the bride hasn't noticed the sleeping arrangements but maybe thinks you're happy about it. Maybe she doesn't know about the extra payment.

I thought a PP made a good point though, if this is the calibre of her friends it shows who she is too, and feel sorry for your relative who's marrying her.

They sound awful

So what happened next OP - please dont leave us hanging

OP - I hope you managed to get something that resembled some form of sleep last night.

I also hope you have left. Do not be frightened of upsetting the bride - she is not worried about all her friends upsetting and using both you and your SiL. (She can't be completely oblivious, considering you are all in the same building, and have no bedding!)

I would have chucked my friends out if they had treated any of my other friends/family like this.

I would leave today. Since there was nowhere for you to sleep, you need to go home and get some rest. I absolutely would not pay any more money.

Either the bride will wake up and realise her friends are wankers or she is a wanker too. Let's hope the former

Lots of people are saying they can't believe an Airbnb doesn't have extra bedding if it's booked for a certain number of people – but it's happened to me before (sounds like a similar situation to the OP). We booked an Airbnb that was listed to sleep up to 4 (one double bed, one fold out sofa). We went out and got back to the apartment at about 2.30am only to discover that there was no bedding for the fold out bed... thankfully I was staying with an actual friend and we divvied up the minimal bedding that was there (although I did have to sleep with my jacket over me as a cover!) It was really awful from the host – but it does happen.

I can't get over people refusing to share bedding with you. What sort of horrible humans are these??

I am not keen on confrontation, not that many people are I don't think but this point I would have said "sod this, I'm off"!

But they discovered this before they went out. The MoH should have been straight on the phone to the host telling them to come and sort it out.

This has to one of worst hen weekends ever. OP please go home, cut your losses and run.

I would be speaking to the groom as well, also tell him there will be no gift as you’ve spent your budget paying for brides friends and how they behaved towards you. You might just give him the get out card he needs! If he doesn’t care, I would pull out of the wedding on the day so they still have to pay for your meal etc, fain illness.

There is no way that the air bnb was booked for the correct amount of people or MOH would have been straight on the phone to the host to complain about broken bed/no bedding.

I’m sorry you have been played by a bunch of bitches.

On the plus side, be thankful that they aren’t your friends, with friends like that who needs enemies!

@Emotionalsupportviper thankfully for me I was born a ruthless old bag. I am polite and nice and definitely want to help people out, but hate anyone thinking I am dumb enough to fall for their shit. totally agree with you, it is incredibly freeing living life on your own terms.

Yes, I would have checked into the nearest Travel Lodge with SIL and if it caused a row I would have been telling the whole family and anyone else who cared to listen that the MoH had charged us more than our share of two nights' accommodation costs which we paid before it turned out that there was no actual bed or bedding for us, whilst people who paid half that amount got a double bed with an ensuite and people who paid nothing rocked up the next day to enjoy the facilities.

Let it be widely known that she is a CF who organised the worst hen do in history.

Cheeky fuckers

This is what I suspect has happened - the bride’s friends seem to be ganging up on you.

Honestly I’d leave as soon I possibly could. Now if you are ok to drive, early tomorrow if you have had a drink already.

I wouldn't say it in a jokey way!
They'd be told straight

HRTFT, but if it comes to you sleeping on the pull out bed tonight and moving to their double tomorrow, just change the sheets over.

I think they are being incredibly rude to pull out of the 2nd night making it more expensive for everyone else, and it's shitty of them to bag the nice bedroom.

I'd be tempted to suspect the Host has tried to reduce costs by not adding in the right number of guests. So paying for (eg) 12 but the property sleeps 14 so they can save money. Which means the property was only supplied with linens for 12.

There are no sheets to change over.

The pull out bed was broken and there was no bedding.

I was just about to say something similar. Are the two CFs definitely getting a refund? It's possible they decided to stay only 1 night but paid 2, and that's why they feel entitled to the big rooms. And MOG is quietly pocketing the "extra".

If it's as you say, they are selfish and rude.

There's at least 1 horrendous person in the mix here, and it's not you, OP.