This dress is NOT appropriate.

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My niece, who is 13, sent me a link to this dress saying she would like it for Christmas. I replied saying I don’t think it’s appropriate as it’s clearly an adults dress, the neckline is too low and where would she even wear it?

She’s now really annoyed with me, saying I don’t respect her personal style and all of her friends wear similar. I’ve messaged my niece’s mum and dad who agree with me and are trying to talk to her, but she’s insisting I’m wrong and has now got the hump.

AIBU?

Definitely not a strange man, for those speculating!

I messaged my nieces parents to ask what they thought, they agreed it’s not appropriate. They are talking to her because of her attitude to being told no by me.

Giver a tenner and a selection box and have done with it. Since when have 13 year olds demanded certain gifts? She sounds ungrateful and demanding.

Really surprised at some of these comments. Have you not seen what most 13 year olds (and younger) wear. Some look like they’ve just gone out in their underwear e.g crop/ bra tops and fitted shorts.
I don’t think the dress is that bad actually. Seen something similar on the Beckhams daughter and everyone said she looked lovely.

Her attitude and expectations are great, but then she’s 13. Obviously respect her parents choice, but then maybe they should of stepped In beforehand to check what she was asking for.

I'm torn on this one. I do think that particular dress is inappropriate but in a way I kind of admire her confidence. I've been goth since I was a teen and some of the stuff I actually did wear at that age (so much velvet. And lace ruffles. And every colour of stripy tights. And herculean amounts of eyeliner) I wouldn't dream of wearing now (I like to think I've improved since then 😂) but I miss the confidence 13 year old me, who genuinely thought she looked awesome nearly all of the time. I'd like a little of that back. She had a lot of fun with what she wore.

Something in a different colour and not quite so low cut could be the way to go. She could style it with boots or trainers,and an oversized jumper or cardigan and look quite stylish. Thirteen is such a difficult age and I think it's important to encourage being themselves and not ridicule them for the inevitable questionable fashion choices. Guiding them towards something more appropriate but similar to what they picked feels like the way to go here.

That said, her parents have said no and that is the line I would have taken in your situation, no need to give your opinion and get into arguments, mum and dad said no and you can't go against them, ultimately it's their decision and I would have made it their problem rather than mine.

What a world this is when 13 year olds are so pressured to be adults. I despair.

ages me but back in the 80s I and friends wore similar in early teens, without bosom quite as exposed. long slit up back and optional cropped jacket with peplum. I never went out partying...we dressed like this to go to the shops...

I wouldn't have a problem with the dress, I doubt it would look the same as it does on the model and they tend to dress it down with converse or trainers.

I can't get worked up over fashion, it's just clothes at the end of the day. This dress is figure hugging but would be no more revealing than wearing leggings and a vest top.

When you are 13 you are testing out fashion and how you look. We all know the reality that nobody is going to look like the model in that dress whether they are 13 or 65. The push up bra, the fact she is in shape wear and standing in a ridiculous pose that people in the real world don’t do.

If it was my 13 year old I would discuss what it is she likes about the dress, point out the flaws and then suggest we go shopping to try on a few options. It would be a good opportunity to discuss fashion marketing, buying clothes that suit us and our lifestyles.

Let her have the hump...........even more reason not to buy the dress.

I think its a lovely dress, there's nothing wrong with it on the model ! I'd assume it would be too long on a 13 year old, each to their own but she's hardly going to be walking about with her arse out. If she has a larger chest then I could see it being a tad bit of a problem but there's worse dresses out there.

It wouldn’t look like that on a 13yo though, if she’s anything like my DD she’d wear it with trainers and a hoodie

I actually don’t think it’s too bad, aside from the fact it wouldn’t suit a 13 year old at all.
Chances are the dress looks slightly different to that anyway as these websites are bad for editing clothes!
Also, it would look very difficult on a 13 year old and perhaps not as low cut as i’m assuming her boobs aren’t as big as that woman’s!

A looser version with a T under it if too low and it would be lovely. The problem is the photo.

Apart from being wildly inappropriate, unless she's very tall, it's also going to drag on the ground!

New look have a teens range with figure hugging dresses but more age appropriate.

What's a hump? Do you mean on her back? Struggling to see the relevance?

What the actual fuck is 'the hump' that people keep talking about? Genuinely baffled by this

I don't think it's inappropriate, but I do think her attitude sounds really poor. It doesn't look cheap so to ask a non parent for it and then get the hump when they say no is quite rude and entitled.

A hump means moody.

So if someone’s got the hump, it means they’re sulking/in a bad mood.

That dress is far, far more modest than what the 13yos around here are wearing 😅 All summer it was bum cheeks hanging out the bottom of their shorts, and now it's crop tops and leggings. Unless your neice is very developed that dress really isn't going to look anything like how it looks on the model. But if her parents have said no, then that's that.

To 'get the hump' about something is to be annoyed, pissed off etc.

The niece has got the hump about not getting the dress she wants.

Yes I have seen what most 13yo girls wear. Baggy jeans, crop tops, denim jackets, band t-shirts, dungarees. They all look like they’ve been teleported in from the early 2000s.

The neckline is inappropriate but I doubt it’s actually going to look like that in RL and unless she’s got boobs like the model then it’s highly unlikely it will look as inappropriate when she’s wearing it.

I personally would have looked for photos of the dress bought by customers to see what it really looks like or a very similar dress which isn’t so low cut.

Her attitude however, is disgusting and she sounds very entitled.
I have multiple nieces and nephews (as well as my own) and I often ask what they’d like and they have never acted like this.
I’m glad you told her parents and they told her off for it.
That kind of behaviour needs to be nipped in the bud.

I’m surprised at the comments about the niece being a brat because she “got the hump”. Surely you all know teenagers, and if not you definitely were one at some point.

Yes you can all say “my 15YO DD would never behave like that” but maybe, just maybe, it’s your DD that is the perfect unicorn and actually most teenagers “get the hump” about things that adults would see as trivial or unreasonable very often?

Probably a regional thing. Most teenagers where I am wouldn’t be caught dead wearing dungarees or band t-shirts (and likely can’t even name any bands! Modern or retro.)