Page 16 | DP says I'm selfish for having DD's birthday cake gluten free

IntergalacticP · 2023-10-24T19:06:50+00:00

Basically thread title. DD turns one at the start of December. I've arranged for a local baker to make a cake for her. I asked for it to be gluten free as I have celiac disease. DP said this was selfish. His reasoning being that gluten free cakes aren't as nice as normal cakes. He can't seem to come up with any other reason. I just wanted to eat some of DDs first birthday cake.

HikingforScenery · 25/10/2023 10:58

I wonder how many people have had gluten free cakes specially made and think it’s not nice? The people making them for you aren’t very good bakers, i’m afraid.
I’ve had some cake that i wouldn’t be able to tell is gf, without being told.

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 10:59

GF flour is rubbish and you can’t just substitute it for a normal recipe. It’s just ground potato and rice. Bleurgh. But google some specific GF recipes that use polent or coconut or almond or sorghum and the recipe will have moisture content amended and you will be amazed at how beautiful they are and “normal”.

Thanks, @TinChristmas! It’s all new to us at 59 and 64, and bloody expensive 😱

JRM17 · 25/10/2023 11:00

So you ordered a cake based on one person's needs. Yes that's quite selfish. And he is correct gluten free cakes are rank. I am totally with your husband on this one.

mrsDracoMalfoy · 25/10/2023 11:00

I agree with you're DH. Gluten Free is not healthy. If you are a gluten free 'person' then you need gluten. My DH accidentally brought a gluten free cake and I was ill after eaten it. No issue with non gluten free cake

smilesup · 25/10/2023 11:02

Mirabai · 24/10/2023 21:20

Sainsburys gluten free bread:

Water, Tapioca Starch, Rice Flour, Thickeners: Cellulose, Hydroxypropyl Methyl Cellulose, Carboxymethyl Cellulose, Methyl Cellulose, Xanthan Gum, Wholegrain Maize Flour, Potato Starch, Yeast, Psyllium Husk Powder, Humectant: Glycerol, Rapeseed Oil, Rice Starch, Golden Syrup, Maize Starch, Salt, Preservatives: Sodium Propionate, Sorbic Acid, Burnt Sugar, Spirit Vinegar

Sainsbury’s gluten free cupcakes:

INGREDIENTS: Frosting (34%) (Sugar, Palm Oil, Rapeseed Oil, Glucose Syrup, Skimmed Cows' Milk Powder, Salted Butter (Butter (Cows' Milk), Salt), Emulsifier: Mono- and Diglycerides of Fatty Acids; Preservative: Potassium Sorbate; Flavouring), Sugar, Pasteurised Egg, Tapioca Starch, Raspberry Jam (9%) (Sugar, Raspberry Purée, Glucose Syrup, Acidity Regulators: Malic Acid, Trisodium Citrate; Gelling Agent: Pectin; Preservative: Potassium Sorbate), Rapeseed Oil, Chocolate Decoration (Sugar, Whole Cows' Milk Powder, Cocoa Mass, Cocoa Butter, Whey Powder (Cows' Milk), Emulsifier: Soya Lecithin), Rice Flour, Humectant: Glycerine: Palm Oil, Raising Agents: Potassium Carbonate, Diphosphates, Calcium Phosphate; Sugar Decoration (Sugar, Palm Kernel Fat, Potato Starch, Rice Flour, Corn Starch, Colours: Curcumin, Anthocyanins, Riboflavin; Flavouring), Emulsifiers: Mono- and Diglycerides of Fatty Acids, Polyglycerol Esters of Fatty Acids: Maltodextrin, Whey Powder (Cows' Milk), Modified Tapioca Starch, Modified Maize Starch, Milk Protein (Cows' Milk), Preservative: Potassium Sorbate; Salt, Stabiliser: Xanthan Gum: Flavouring, Rice Starch, Soya Flour, Acidity Regulator: Citric Acid; Palm Stearin.

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My gluten free cakes: almond flour, butter, chocolate (milk and cocoa), cream, eggs, raspberries.
Make you fat but tasty as fuck.

TinChristmas · 25/10/2023 11:06

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 10:59

GF flour is rubbish and you can’t just substitute it for a normal recipe. It’s just ground potato and rice. Bleurgh. But google some specific GF recipes that use polent or coconut or almond or sorghum and the recipe will have moisture content amended and you will be amazed at how beautiful they are and “normal”.

Thanks, @TinChristmas! It’s all new to us at 59 and 64, and bloody expensive 😱

It is expensive if you try and change everything to GF, but switch your thinking and you’ll eat well and healthy. Don’t buy everything GF, but use say lentil pasta or potatoes or rice rather than just GF things for the sake of it. Recipes need tweaking and then you’re good to go. Shop Biscuits are a bit naff, so try things like coconut or oat based( if he’s ok with GF oats).

I rarely visit the free from section these days apart from getting wraps and some mince pies. Don’t bother with bread or cereal any more. Lunch is wraps or salads or jacket potatoes and breakfast is a smoothie or scrambled eggs or oats. You’ll get there and he’ll feel so much better in the long run for it.

Try this https://www.nigella.com/recipes/chocolate-olive-oil-cake eat it hot with cream and then as a brownie the next day. It’s amazing.

Chocolate Olive Oil Cake

Although I first came up with this recipe because I had someone coming for supper who — genuinely — couldn't eat wheat or dairy, it is so meltingly good, I now make it all the time for those whose life and diet are not so unfairly constrained, myself i...

https://www.nigella.com/recipes/chocolate-olive-oil-cake

smilesup · 25/10/2023 11:07

I forgot sugar! The kids would have rioted

Mamabear487 · 25/10/2023 11:07

I mean I can see you reasoning behind it but tbh I think your being unreasonable. Only you’ll enjoy it and gf cakes are gross. You should have got her her own and you your own gf one. I am gf so totally get it but it’s not about you

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 11:10

Thanks again @TinChristmas . He’s feeling so much better already after just a few weeks. Had been having awful problems for months, had all the usual scans and tests, nothing apparent so was put on the FODMAP. Within days when excluding wheat (and peas, garlic and onions, weirdly!) the major symptoms just stopped.
only thing he’s really missing is decent bread. Used to make his own, so trying out alternative recipes.

Katiesaidthat · 25/10/2023 11:13

Hmmm, I would have got a normal cake for everyone and a small gf cake for me. A kid who couldn´t have gluten came to my daughter´s birthday. I got a normal cake and some gf cupcakes for this little girl who was over the moon about them. Her mum said she was used to taking a little tupperware from home with a small piece of sponge or whatever.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 25/10/2023 11:14

I would be baking Nigella's chocolate olive oil cake (which is IMHO, the nice chocolate cake in the world) next week and telling DH he can't have any because it's gluten-free and "gluten-free cakes aren't nice" 😆

KickHimInTheCrotch · 25/10/2023 11:15

My DD is coeliac and all birthday cakes in our house are always GF. Her brother (non coeliac) also always has a GF birthday cake at his parties and i dont think anyone has ever noticed. I also make GF cakes for family and friends birthdays at their requests so my DD can have some. Maybe they're just being polite but I make a bloody good birthday cake and never have any complaints.

Ottersmith · 25/10/2023 11:16

Wait am I missing something here? If it's a first birthday isn't the cake going to be sugar free? So then after that who cares?

Pumpkingnome · 25/10/2023 11:17

Gluten free cakes pretty much taste like normal ones, it's bread and pastry that are hit and miss

willWillSmithsmith · 25/10/2023 11:17

Just buy another ‘normal’ cake alongside the gf one. It’s really not complicated.

AhBiscuits · 25/10/2023 11:18

Ottersmith · 25/10/2023 11:16

Wait am I missing something here? If it's a first birthday isn't the cake going to be sugar free? So then after that who cares?

Of course it won't be sugar free, that would taste like arse. 1 year olds can eat a bit of cake on their birthday, it's not crack.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 25/10/2023 11:19

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 11:10

Thanks again @TinChristmas . He’s feeling so much better already after just a few weeks. Had been having awful problems for months, had all the usual scans and tests, nothing apparent so was put on the FODMAP. Within days when excluding wheat (and peas, garlic and onions, weirdly!) the major symptoms just stopped.
only thing he’s really missing is decent bread. Used to make his own, so trying out alternative recipes.

A coeliac in my family makes this one, which comes out nice - and it's sort of better to try to make something a bit different than to try to produce non-GF bread, IYSWIM?

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 25/10/2023 11:21

can your gluton loving DH bake his own cake ?

MargotBamborough · 25/10/2023 11:25

Your baby will not give a shit whether your cake has gluten in it or not.

What your DH is saying is that he doesn't want to eat gluten free cake.

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 11:28

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · Today 11:21

can your gluton loving DH bake his own cake”

a bought cake.

TheOldLadyOfThreadneedleStreet · 25/10/2023 11:30

I did this recently for my DMs birthday, I made a gluten free cake as my sister won’t eat gluten. The cake was extremely average and disappointing. Next time I will make 2 cakes as others have said, this seems the best compromise so everyone is included and those lucky people who can eat gluten get a wheat flour cake. And if making 2 is too much, shop bought can be lovely too.

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/10/2023 11:32

TheOldLadyOfThreadneedleStreet · Today 11:30
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I did this recently for my DMs birthday, I made a gluten free cake as my sister won’t eat gluten …”

Won’t? Don’t you mean can’t? It’s usually not a choice and the effects are very unpleasant!

0hNoNotAgain · 25/10/2023 11:34

Your DH is a dick
If you're the one organising the cake, get a GF one.

I'm not GF but my dad is and we nearly always have GF cakes for family birthdays so he doesn't feel left out.
I'm allergic to cow's milk so, when I'd like a bit of cake too, I get a GF & dairy free cake

If people don't like it, they're welcome to bring their own but our family is fine with it - the GF cakes are brill these days and the GF/dairy free ones are getting much better too

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 25/10/2023 11:38

SirenSays · 24/10/2023 20:08

Two cakes! I've never heard anyone say anything nice about GF cakes

You've been eating the wrong GF cakes.

aSofaNearYou · 25/10/2023 11:39

Of course it won't be sugar free, that would taste like arse. 1 year olds can eat a bit of cake on their birthday, it's not crack.

🤣 This really cracked me up.