Or is boss correcting speech rude

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My boss will correct myself and other colleagues during casual conversations if we say 'me and bob are going....' to 'bob and I are going....'. I find this really rude and unprofessional - I know 'bob and I' is correct and I would use this whilst working (e.g in meetings or in emails) but when I'm on my lunch break I don't expect to be corrected. Would you find this annoying/ patronising?

”correct myself”

It’s, “Correct me.”

Anyone who uses myself like that needs to be corrected. It’s just totally wrong.

”I went to the shop by myself” is correct.
”I drew it myself” is correct.

When you’re referring back to something you did yourself, it is correct. Anything else is wrong.

It should be me or I.

Do you send work emails which say, “Please reply to myself?”

Maybe this is why your boss is correcting things in conversation.

Yes, he's rude.

This the lunch break, so the boss is out of order.

Do you not find disregarding grammatical rules to be unprofessional?

If you're eating lunch at work, that's still 'working' even if you're not actually doing any work at the moment. Why do you deliberately speak in a way that you know to be ungrammatical?

Yes it’s incredibly rude.

Depends where you work.
If in education then l think your boss has a point tbh.
Anywhere else,not so much.

Talk about overthinking. Unclench.

If in education in the UK, they wouldn't be paid for their lunch so doubly none of the boss's business.

Myself needs to go in the bin.

If you know it's incorrect then why do it?

Rude if at lunch.
But ok to gently point out grammar mistakes in a work context.
And yes I know I’ve split an infinitive.

Check out the first letter:

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2021/jul/01/split-infinitives-the-english-rule-that-refuses-to-quietly-die

Rude as fuck. Only on mumsnet (and in your office) would anyone think this is normal behaviour. I’d tell boyo to do one if he was talking to me like this during lunch.

Totally agree echt. I’m happy to boldly split if it suits. 😉

Not really, it depends on his attitude.

However, if I usually have casual conversations with my boss, then it means we have a bit of a cordial - at worst, and friendly - at best - relationship. Personally, I'll take it as a sign that I don't often speak correctly to the point that my boss feels the need to correct me even in casual conversations. I'd simply start speaking properly, perhaps around him only, if you say you do so elsewhere.

I'd feel called out and embarassed, yes but it can be easily remedied by either changing how I speak around him or telling him I feel uncomfortable or upset when he corrects me.

know 'bob and I' is correct and I would use this whilst working

why would you not just use the correct version?
I don't really understand why you'd bother not using what you know is correct.

I don't understand why posters write Ddog or Dcat either, so maybe that's just me.

Most people can write formally, and still speak colloquially though, surely?

If there’s a mistake in a report, then sure, correct away.

But a chat at lunch? Nah, you can fuck off

nah, casual speaking and obvious grammatical "liberties" are not the same and not what i was talking about.

Why would anyone make the effort of saying "you should of done this" when they know it makes no sense?

Unless you need to check your dictionary or grammar, and fair enough, it's like riding a bike, you do it correctly without thinking.

“Bob and I are going” is fine. ‘He spoke to Bob and I’ is wrong.
“He gave it to Bob and I’ and similar phrases are very common on MN. I think it is an attempt to sound genteel.

*Should have 🙃

Agreed

I think you might have missed the point I was making 😂

Seriously though, I don’t care why people care in a casual convo at lunch?

If it’s a meeting, speaking to a client, an email/report then fair enough, but no adult should correct another in general conversation.

I think people need to worry less about grammar, and more about manners

I definitely didn’t, hence the emoji?!? 🤦‍♀️😂

Your boss is incredibly rude.