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aibu to not breastfeed just beacuse i dont want to?

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lunalovegrooove · 21/10/2023 09:34

I understand breast is best, but I don't want to do it.
I feel pressure and the implication that I am a bad mother. I think I have the right to choose, and that the medical establishment doesn't expect something this taxing from men in society.

Am I a bad mother?

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Warum · 22/10/2023 09:16

Doteycat · 22/10/2023 09:02

In all my years I've never come across any group as judgemental as the BF group.
Oh if you are about to have a breakdown then we don't MIND if you ff, but other than that ong you are just the worst and we are so superior.
Totally judgemental and up their own hole.
I hope when ye get to about 50 and look back at what ever shit life throws at ye, and it will, ye realise how bloody judgemental and hurtful ye were.
I dont give a shit, I know I am a bloody good mother, but I also know that life throws all sorts at us.
But never in all my years have I met a more judgemental group than the BF warriors.
And the proof is right here.
And don't bother coming at me, it will only solidify my point.
Shameful carryon out of women.

Oh, I have, the fervent FF group.
Both can be just as bad as each other, as is evident on this thread.

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:18

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Those aren't the only two options though, so it's an invalid comment.

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 09:20

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hoven · 22/10/2023 09:21

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:08

hoven

Oh do bugger off you sanctimonious arsehole. Your posts get more and more offensive.

I bf our kids. My daughter (chose to) exclusively formula feed. Her 3 year old is fabulous, healthy and extremely bright. She started in childcare, went as high as she could in that, studied to become a pre-school teacher and is now completing her child psychology degree. She is the best, most engaged, patient and loving mother I have ever known, a far better parent than I was. She has taught me how to be a good grandparent.

Your username ought to be coven.

You're lovely Biscuit

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 09:21

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IndiKid2015 · 22/10/2023 09:21

I didn’t want to either but felt like I should try. I did it for a couple of weeks with my first and a few days with my second before switching to formula, formula was much better for us to be honest. My babies were both very settled between feeds and I don’t regret our choice. Nobody judged me for it as far as I know and my kids are fine x

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:22

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It was a meaningless comment even if the one before was also meaningless.

Robinni · 22/10/2023 09:23

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@Housesellingnightmare

interesting article here on why FF may be better sleepers

https://www.helpingbabiessleep.com/blog/bottle-vs-breast

Arguably more to do with management of calories, delayed gratification, ability to self soothe than the formula itself. Take note all feeders!!

Do Bottle Fed Babies Sleep Better than Breastfed Babies?

Parents often ask me if having a bottle before bed will help their little one sleep better. Food is just one piece of the bigger sleep picture. The biggest factor in having a great sleeper is a child who has...

https://www.helpingbabiessleep.com/blog/bottle-vs-breast

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There are clear digs at BFing in general, despite many of us also supporting (informed) choice with regard to feeding.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:23

Yes, hoven, I am lovely. You on the other hand are a judgemental arse who ought to be ashamed of (her, presumably?) self.

Your posts are disgraceful.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:25

Housesellingnightmare · Today 09:21
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Have they? I'm not sure anyone has been called a bad parent or selfish for breastfeeding have they? Several times by several posters

Yes they have. hoven , for example, in just the last couple of pages.

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Warum · 22/10/2023 09:26

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So, it's not ok to criticise FF choices but it is ok to criticise BF choices?

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Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 09:27

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MrsSkylerWhite · Yesterday 21:33

@Cowlover89 Personally I'd rather pump than faff on with making bottles of formula. It's not that hard once get in to a routine”

It is if you have mastitis and produce bottle after bottle after bottle of blood coloured shite that you have to throw away!
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I'm sorry that happened to you but everyone's experience is different”

Hurrah, yes, it is! Yet you have criticised others for not doing what suited you on this thread. Just, don’t.

No I haven't. Not criticised anyone.

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:28

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To point out your meaningless comparison.

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Warum · 22/10/2023 09:29

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People are blatantly making nasty (and untrue) comments about BFing mothers!

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 09:29

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DisputeInsurance · 22/10/2023 09:29

Hi OP, I couldn’t BF, I had very poorly babies. What the hospital did was give me some syringes to collect colostrum which I did and they later when babies could take fluid gave them it.

I did also ‘pump’ for about 4 weeks and as babies got stronger that was given to them and formula.

From all I’ve spoken to they’ve found BF very convenient. But as I formula fed I can say that you get into a routine and it’s fine. Good luck with whatever you decide.

hoven · 22/10/2023 09:29

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:23

Yes, hoven, I am lovely. You on the other hand are a judgemental arse who ought to be ashamed of (her, presumably?) self.

Your posts are disgraceful.

Wow you sound like a saint let's all follow you

Lovely people don't call people rude names due to a difference in viewpoint

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