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Shop came while WFH

267 replies

Kiopa · 20/10/2023 13:55

I realise this is a ridiculous thing to be arguing about but interested in opinions of whose in the wrong here.

A orders the food shop to come 10-11am. B is working at home at that time. A expects to be home by 10 but ends up running late by 15 minutes. The shop arrives at 10am and B has to take it in and put the frozen things away. A puts the rest away. A says they would have messaged B that the shop was coming but normally this supermarket sends a text 15 mins before they arrive and they didn't this time. B thinks A was inconsiderate not to let them know the shop might come before they were home.

A and B are now in a stand off as B won't let it go until A apologises for being inconsiderate and A doesn't accept that they were inconsiderate.

YABU - A is in the worng
YANBU - B is in the wrong

If you can't tell we're both extremely stubborn.

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TerrorAustralis · 20/10/2023 15:13

ilovesooty · 20/10/2023 14:51

Don't be silly. There are some jobs where if you're on the phone WFH you simply cannot be interrupted.

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Did you miss the update that clarified he was neither on a call, nor performing surgery?

ilovesooty · 20/10/2023 15:16

TerrorAustralis · 20/10/2023 15:13

Did you miss the update that clarified he was neither on a call, nor performing surgery?

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No I didn't. I was talking about different types of work in general. Some WFH situations simply don't have interruptions as a possibility.

biscuiteer · 20/10/2023 15:17

Life is really too short!

Everydayiscake · 20/10/2023 15:17

Completely depends on bs job. It doesn’t sound like a did it intentionally. If a/b have nothing else to argue about they are very lucky!

Jk987 · 20/10/2023 15:19

It would be irritating to have to interrupt a work call to get the shopping. But overall this is a lot of drama over a small mistake.

bathrobeandpie · 20/10/2023 15:21

TerrorAustralis · 20/10/2023 15:13

Did you miss the update that clarified he was neither on a call, nor performing surgery?

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If my DH decided that it's was absolutely fine to disturb me when I am WFH because I was "neither on call nor performing surgery", I would be absolutely livid.

My job is as important as his, and he doesn't get to decide what is important or not!

Thankfully, he's not an arse, so we don't have that issue.

Pezdeoro41 · 20/10/2023 15:23

This is a stupid argument. Maybe B should have let A know but the shopping text fail (Waitrose right?) couldn’t really be helped.

I WFH and am single and have my shops delivered during work all the time!

MargotBamborough · 20/10/2023 15:23

bathrobeandpie · 20/10/2023 15:21

If my DH decided that it's was absolutely fine to disturb me when I am WFH because I was "neither on call nor performing surgery", I would be absolutely livid.

My job is as important as his, and he doesn't get to decide what is important or not!

Thankfully, he's not an arse, so we don't have that issue.

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I'm pretty sure both the OP and her DH are going to eat this food though, so it was as much his delivery as it was hers.

Gwenhwyfar · 20/10/2023 15:23

SaracensMavericks · 20/10/2023 13:58

Was B on a call? If so it is a bit embarrassing to have to excuse yourself to let the shopping in. If they were just sitting at their desk working then it's no bother.

Is it so bad just to say 'sorry there's someone at the door'?

bathrobeandpie · 20/10/2023 15:25

MargotBamborough · 20/10/2023 15:23

I'm pretty sure both the OP and her DH are going to eat this food though, so it was as much his delivery as it was hers.

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Not really, if he books a delivery without telling me and he's not even in to receive it, it's not my problem.

If he tells me we're expecting one, and my schedule is busy at that time, I tell him "I am not here".

Non-issue, but we both agree that WFH means we're working.

ilovesooty · 20/10/2023 15:25

Gwenhwyfar · 20/10/2023 15:23

Is it so bad just to say 'sorry there's someone at the door'?

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It depends what job you do and the nature of the call.

Ilikeyourdecor · 20/10/2023 15:26

A should have notified B. My DH WFH and often would not be able to take in shopping, he's in meetings or giving presentations a lot of the time.

Sounds like a stupid argument though. Why wouldn't A just apologise and say they'll tell B next time, and B apologise for being grumpy about it?

PrincessHoneysuckle · 20/10/2023 15:28

Both need to get a grip

Tinkerbyebye · 20/10/2023 15:28

B is an idiot and sounds very hard work and needs to grow up

SaracensMavericks · 20/10/2023 15:29

It takes several minutes for the driver to unload all the shopping @Gwenhwyfar. It's not like a single parcel, which you can just take and return immediately to your call.

TheresaBouvey · 20/10/2023 15:29

Pointless bollox indeed

insisting someone apologise is always such a weird thing only a very insecure controlling person would do

if your relationship cannot survive such tiny hiccups it was not meant to be maybe?

Garlicnaan · 20/10/2023 15:29

I'd expect both A and B to be grateful that this is all they have to get annoyed about. It's such a non issue and not worth the grief.

MargotBamborough · 20/10/2023 15:30

bathrobeandpie · 20/10/2023 15:25

Not really, if he books a delivery without telling me and he's not even in to receive it, it's not my problem.

If he tells me we're expecting one, and my schedule is busy at that time, I tell him "I am not here".

Non-issue, but we both agree that WFH means we're working.

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If you were my husband and you said that to me I would tell you to do the food shopping instead then.

Passepartoute · 20/10/2023 15:30

SaracensMavericks · 20/10/2023 15:29

It takes several minutes for the driver to unload all the shopping @Gwenhwyfar. It's not like a single parcel, which you can just take and return immediately to your call.

IME they usually unload it all before they ring the bell, so you only have to bring the stuff in.

DinnaeFashYersel · 20/10/2023 15:32

This squabble happens every Friday morning in our house.

Let it go. Life is short.

Blackcatballoon · 20/10/2023 15:32

I don't really get it. It's a row over nothing.

JudgeJ · 20/10/2023 15:33

misssunshine4040 · 20/10/2023 14:02

Such a non event. Do people have no real problems to get angry about?

I can't even imagine being any more than mildly irritated by this and then that's it.

On MN they certainly do then complain about lack of time, stress etc,! The OP summed it up in the first sentence, I realise this is a ridiculous thing to be arguing about.

thequeenoftarts · 20/10/2023 15:33

Unless B was doing cpr then there is nothing that cant be stopped for 5 - 10 mins in life

2023shady · 20/10/2023 15:36

Ladybughouse · 20/10/2023 14:45

What happens if work on a call centre, phone line.
Also I wouldn’t be happy having to take 15 minutes out of my lunchtime. So only having 15 mins for lunch.

I work in one and WFH. Can't answer the door so no, couldn't have taken shopping in

Doris86 · 20/10/2023 15:36

OneTC · 20/10/2023 13:57

Pointless bollocks

Absolutely. What a complete non issue. Some people have real problems in their lives.

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