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My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 10:18

it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and
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LylaLee · 20/10/2023 11:03

Imagine punishing your own young child (by not giving them adequate food), in order to punish your partner (who did the hard work of giving birth), for having the audacity to ask you to be a parent (making breakfast for a child in your care).

And to pp who said 'why was the junk in the house?' Give over. Adults are allowed treats and snacks.

Seaweed42 · 20/10/2023 11:03

Wow. I'm stunned.
I'd keep a box of Cheerios there or something else handy when its his turn.

The child has gotten to 2yrs of age and he's never given them breakfast before?
That's the shocking part.

A sausage roll for breakfast??

Growlybear83 · 20/10/2023 11:04

I completely agree that it's a dreadful breakfast for a young child, but as far as we know, this was a one off. The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top. I'm surprised that no-one has suggested the OP should leave her husband yet 😆😆😆

FoodEtiquette · 20/10/2023 11:04

DH likes to give them an assortment of fruit with their breakfast, usually about 3 portions each which drives me crazy, as fruit is still sugar and they don't need 3 in one go!

I will no longer mind as I now know how much worse it could be!

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 11:07

Seaweed42 · 20/10/2023 11:03

Wow. I'm stunned.
I'd keep a box of Cheerios there or something else handy when its his turn.

The child has gotten to 2yrs of age and he's never given them breakfast before?
That's the shocking part.

A sausage roll for breakfast??

What's wrong with a sausage roll? It's not ideal, but neither is cereal.

McIntire · 20/10/2023 11:07

Nowherenew · 20/10/2023 11:00

A grown adult can eat whatever they want and buy whatever food they like.

It has nothing to do with the toddlers diet.

I’m sure there’s also alcohol in the house, it doesn’t mean it should be given to the child.

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I disagree. It’s not good for anyone, adult or toddler and surely we should be setting a good example.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 11:07

Growlybear83 · 20/10/2023 11:04

I completely agree that it's a dreadful breakfast for a young child, but as far as we know, this was a one off. The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top. I'm surprised that no-one has suggested the OP should leave her husband yet 😆😆😆

It's about the intention behind it, surely that's obvious?

I'm assuming that OP's DH isn't stupid. He knows that a child doesn't eat that for breakfast so why did he do it? I'm assuming he withheld nutritious food from his child so he could continue to be lazy and not have to make breakfast again.

If he did take the picture to show OP, he also did that for a reason too.

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 11:08

Growlybear83 · 20/10/2023 11:04

I completely agree that it's a dreadful breakfast for a young child, but as far as we know, this was a one off. The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top. I'm surprised that no-one has suggested the OP should leave her husband yet 😆😆😆

> The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top

So only when people do awful things MULTIPLE times does it become a problem. Got it. Contempt is fine the first, what, four times?

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:09

Apologies as I haven’t had time to read every response yet. I took the photo because I couldn’t think of how to accurately describe it. My two year old didn’t even eat it in the end, just nibbled the biscuit. She is a fussy eater.

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porridgeisbae · 20/10/2023 11:10

Thing is oats/ready brek are very carby and will cause insulin spike and crash.

No as it's a complex carb so has a slower release.

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:10

I replaced it with some fruit which is currently sat on the table while she screams for crisp 🫣

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takealettermsjones · 20/10/2023 11:10

Growlybear83 · 20/10/2023 11:04

I completely agree that it's a dreadful breakfast for a young child, but as far as we know, this was a one off. The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top. I'm surprised that no-one has suggested the OP should leave her husband yet 😆😆😆

It's hardly hysteria. It's just many people all answering the question "is this shit?" with "yes it is shit."

CurlewKate · 20/10/2023 11:10

@TerfTalking unless you make them yourself a sausage is a sausage.

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 11:11

McIntire · 20/10/2023 11:07

I disagree. It’s not good for anyone, adult or toddler and surely we should be setting a good example.

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There are people who can't stop at one and who will eat an entire packet of biscuits in one sitting. That's a problem, but that's not what this thread is about. Most people can have a biscuit or slice of cake with tea. It's a treat. It's normal.

A biscuit in the house is not 'a bad example'.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 11:12

Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:09

Apologies as I haven’t had time to read every response yet. I took the photo because I couldn’t think of how to accurately describe it. My two year old didn’t even eat it in the end, just nibbled the biscuit. She is a fussy eater.

Honestly, I had assumed you weren't there so DH took the picture. I would've asked him what does he think he's doing right there and then and pointed him to the bread, fruit or whatever she normally eats for breakfast.

porridgeisbae · 20/10/2023 11:12

Fruit is great BTW.

Pancakefam · 20/10/2023 11:13

He couldn't have made it clearer that he thinks breakfast is your job.

Nowherenew · 20/10/2023 11:14

Godwindar · 20/10/2023 11:00

Thing is oats/ready brek are very carby and will cause insulin spike and crash. Better as there is protein with them as it will level it a bit, but still very carby.

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Carbs are fine and should be the main macronutrient, especially for a toddler.

Isheabastard · 20/10/2023 11:16

If my ex was looking after our toddler Dd and I wasn’t around, he’d just ‘forget’ to feed her.

He likes three meals a day, and never goes without breakfast. But my Dd just didn’t have a big appetite. So she hardly ever pestered for food.

Itisyourturntowashthebath · 20/10/2023 11:16

Your DH gave the toddler some random crap out of the cupboard.
He doesn't have a sweet tooth so the random crap is not for him. Your DD is a fussy eater and will not eat the random crap. Just don't have so much random crap in the cupboards.

Nowherenew · 20/10/2023 11:17

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 11:08

> The level of near hysteria about a couple of biscuits and a chocolate roll really is over the top

So only when people do awful things MULTIPLE times does it become a problem. Got it. Contempt is fine the first, what, four times?

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@Growlybear83

The issue is not the fact she’s been given a couple of biscuits.

Its the fact that he was asked to make her breakfast and instead of making her one that was half decent, he did the shittest job he could.

It would have taken the same amount of time and effort to make her something healthier.

But he chose not to because that means OP may ask him to do it more often.

This way OP still had to make her LO breakfast.

LadyLapsang · 20/10/2023 11:17

I’m with @Jellycats4life, it’s weaponised incompetence designed to make you do it in future.

landbeforegrime · 20/10/2023 11:20

LTB

HoppingPavlova · 20/10/2023 11:20

I would have done this roughly once a year when my kids were young. Same sort of breakfast complete with soft drink with funny straws and ice cream as well, eating it as a picnic on the floor. Kids absolutely loved it, and I figured it would be really memorable moment, to the point, when I die I’d be quite gutted if they don’t mention that in my eulogy. To me, it all depends on how often, once a week - horrific; once a month - yeah, nah; once a year - shit yes. None of my kids have grown up to be unhealthy adults who eat unhealthy breakfasts, but they do have some fond memories.