My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

[Teegan89]

it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

I'm assuming that OP's DH isn't stupid. He knows that a child doesn't eat that for breakfast so why did he do it? I'm assuming he withheld nutritious food from his child so he could continue to be lazy and not have to make breakfast again.

Yep.

This is lovely. But OP's kid is two. She's not going to remember this. It will just harm her teeth, make her grouchy mid-morning, and (hopefully not, but maybe) set up an expectation!

I wasn’t there. He is WFH on a Friday and was kind enough to get her dressed and ‘fed’ this morning while I got myself ready which I really do appreciate as I was working late last night. I got a shock when I came downstairs to see her breakfast. We both struggle with our weight and I really don’t want the same for dd. I will need to chat with him about this.

We both struggle with our weight and I really don’t want the same for dd. I will need to chat with him about this.

Then the best thing is for you as a family not to have those items in the house at all.

If you are overweight, why are you (or him) buying ultra processed biscuits and cakes?

It's only you or him making the choice and putting them in your trolley.

What do you mean kind enough? He's her dad?
Does he say you're kind and he appreciates it every time you make her breakfast?

Why is it kind of him to dress and 'feed' his own daughter?

It's actually quite scary how an adult man with a weight issue can reach for that crap and feed it to a 2 year old.

Seriously, OP, if you are both overweight, ATOP BUYING THOSE THINGS.

Change your eating, change what you buy, set an example to your child.

He's being lazy. If you both struggle with your weight cutting out processed sugar will help massively. Get rid of that stuff; children learn these things from their parents.It sounds like you at least are trying to provide nutritious food for her.

@Teegan89 - I would step back from the post - you seem to be getting quite a few vitriolic responses now and some are very harsh. I would just say to your DH not to give DD these biscuits in the future.

I was going to weigh in about how terrible this is but then remembered we gave our kids waffles with cream and chocolate sauce this morning for the end of term!

To me, if the person who gets a child ready every single day did this once because there was a particular rush on, and the child was refusing to eat anything else (and was older than 2!) it might be ok. Not ideal but you could understand.

If the person who hardly ever does breakfast did it, then it’s really very crap indeed. A person who hardly ever does a particular job relating to a child needs to make the extra effort, no less or no effort

Things that never happened #70986543

😂😂

Is "weaponised incompetence" the new saying?

Exactly. It was calculated to put the parenting burden squarely back on OP. What a pathetic arsehole.

Italian children are routinely given biscuits for breakfast.

That is exactly what our Ukrainian guests had for breakfast every day. They loved a custard creme and cake bar breakfast. And my Dutch relatives slather chocolate spread and sprinkles all over their morning toast, which is pretty similar really. As a pp said, in other parts of the world this would not be shocking behaviour.

Not condoning it by the way. I’d be pretty cross with him.

@Teegan89
"I wasn’t there. He is WFH on a Friday and was kind enough to get her dressed and ‘fed’ this morning while I got myself ready which I really do appreciate as I was working late last night"

Kind enough to get her dressed and fed?
He's her fking father fgs

Men i dont understand their brains.
But i would just laugh it off as a one off dad moment just tell him to do toast next time.

It looks better than the porridge my mother would force down my neck.
I did love grandad cooking chips & sausage in the pan for breakfast though at 6.30 am gran mum not too chuffed with it.😂
But yet she would bake fresh muffins and flapjacks for breakfast at 5.30 am.
OH how times have changed in 40 years.

As a one off I wouldn't mind , mine usually have a healthy breakfast but there's been the odd occasion where we've overslept and they have had a cookie or some other sugar laden treat.

ColleenDoaghy geez bit harsh

Kind enough to dress and feed his child?! Wtf? Does he also babysit when you go out?

Is he doing that ‘if I do a really bad job she won’t expect me to do it again’ thing?

This is part of the issue.

He's KINDLY fed YOUR child as a FAVOUR and you have to be GRATEFUL that he's deigning to do YOUR job.

You worked last night, late. You were getting ready, he was down with her. He should get breakfast because he's a parent and his kid needed feeding. Then he would a. know what to give her b. Not give her crap to teach you a lesson / because he's lazy.

DH gets the kids breakfast every day because he's up first and I dress them. A appreciate what he does and vice versa. He doesn't feed them for ME because they have two parents and it's a shared responsibility to look after them.

How often does he care for her totally alone inc over meal times.

As an aside, if you both struggle with your weight, and you can't trust him, just don't buy it for the house.

Kind enough?!?

To get his own child dressed? And to feed her a thoroughly shit breakfast?

Why do you consider that kind?

I'll say it for @Growlybear83 - LTB. You will in the end anyway, might as well get it out of the way.

My child, also autistic usually eats Yorkshires puddings for breakfast 🙈 or dry pancakes. I'd love to be able to make him healthy and fresh meals!