Page 6 | What is the weirdest thing that bugs people on MN?

CruCru · 2023-10-14T18:31:24+00:00

I remember a poster saying that it really stressed her out to see a woman outside the house with wet hair as no one should be too busy to blow dry their hair. This was weird to me because I have shoulder length hair and never blow dry it. What about you?

DrivingAgain · 15/10/2023 05:55

Thinking that someone who doesn’t drive is deficient in some way. I have always driven, but I don’t get the criticism and scorn of those who haven’t/don’t want to learn. (As long as they don’t expect endless lifts). It is seen as an almost moral failing by some!

DrivingAgain · 15/10/2023 05:57

Agree about the turning 18 thing. Some seem to think that something magic happens at 18. And that if you ever do anything for your 18/19 year old, you will be infantilising them, and they will never ever be able to cope alone as an adult in life again.

DrivingAgain · 15/10/2023 06:00

Dogs are better than people, and the world should revolve round dogs. As young children are more of a nuisance in cafes than a biting, drooling, pooing and barking dog ;-)

AnImaginaryCat · 15/10/2023 06:23

I recollect a poster declaring it's child abuse to give a child a sandwich in their packed lunch every day.

Do feel that daily sandwiches is an odd thing to be bugged about. Especially to that extent.

WhatNoRaisins · 15/10/2023 06:30

For me it's that rule that you absolutely must attend a family wedding regardless of any circumstances. It can become almost like a competition with posters suggesting increasingly bizarre solutions that I doubt they'd consider doing themselves.

southlondoner02 · 15/10/2023 07:15

So many people seem to be very unsociable on MN. Don't answer their door, hate attending social gatherings such as weddings. Won't go out of their way to cater for people with basic dietary requirements. It's like they hate people. Also not being able to go to a social event without their partners always seems odd- do they spend all day just talking to their partner at weddings?

marshmallowfinder · 15/10/2023 07:30

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 14/10/2023 21:42

Once saw a thread saying people who don't work for whatever reason including SAHM, the disabled, the elderly shouldn't be allowed in supermarkets on weekends

How they thought this could be organised and implemented I don't know

A fairly common view. I work in a supermarket and it's so busy and stressful on a Saturday. The amount of tutting, sighing and eye rolling from mainly elderly people trying to get around in there is really silly. I have suggested to some that Monday and Tuesday are much quicker and quieter and they are usually surprised to hear this. It would vastly improve things for everyone to do a different day if you're able.

Saturdayandallasleep · 15/10/2023 07:32

Vegans / vegetarians - even of they don’t come across either in their lives. Quite bizarre.

Oh and dogs (obvs) 😉.

Bunnyhair · 15/10/2023 08:06

Any ‘American’ turn of phrase - the assumption being that the poster has allowed their pristine British mind to be corrupted by vulgar American influences, rather than that the poster might actually be American.

Similar pass agg sniping at any poster whose first language is not English. ‘I’m terribly sorry, I simply can’t understand anything you’ve written, it doesn’t make any sense at all.’ When the OP is perfectly intelligible to anyone with even a passing interest in understanding it.

Fizbosshoes · 15/10/2023 08:09

Agree @CinnamonBear
I used to have an ED and some threads are basically like a pro Ana site. There was a thread recently about how long could you go without eating, and many posters saying 3 days, some said up to 9 or 14 days. Tbf the OP had some medical condition that was apparently more manageable if they fasted....but lots of the replies didn't mention any medical reasons. Anyone mentioning disordered eating was quickly berated and given an explanation of the benefits of fasting. (I thought IF was generally fasting for 16-20 hours out of 24, not several days...)

Also there is a thing about not wanting to be friends or socialise with mums from baby groups, school mums, work colleagues, neighbours and probably most of your family because they don't need friends

....But also lots of posts that have some non issue - that for most people the obvious answer would be "ask a friend or neighbour to watch your baby for 5 min/take in a parcel/give you a lift somewhere" but the OP is always at pains to explain there is absolutely noone at all that could help with said "problem"

Mrsjayy · 15/10/2023 08:13

@Fizbosshoes I recently reported (repeatedly) 1 of those threads and not only was I told that mumsnet were "monitoring " the thread was moved to the health section because well "fasting" is healthy .

WhatNoRaisins · 15/10/2023 08:14

Oh definitely the smug, victim complex "introverts". Wanting friends is a weakness and having other people in your home is weird apparently.

Daffodilwoman · 15/10/2023 08:19

Agree with lots of these in particular:
Once you child turns 18 they are completely self sufficient. You must not help them in any way. They can leave home and buy their own house the day after they turn 18.
Hatred for hen dos. In the real world I see most people loving a hen do wherever it is, the people attending love the fact they have been asked to attend and can’t wait to celebrate with the bride to be.
Travelling hours and hours and spending a fortune to attend the wedding of someone you are slightly related to. Doesn’t happen in the real world. Most people if asked to attend a midweek wedding which involves using up 3 days annual leave, leaving their children with a babysitter who barely knows them, travelling for 4 hours each way, spending a fortune for their dad’s half brothers, sister’s son’s step daughters wedding who they last saw 10 years ago would just decline the invite.

Daffodilwoman · 15/10/2023 08:20

Another one. Friends you meet at work or through your dcs are not real friends. Ok…..

fuckssaaaaake · 15/10/2023 08:23

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 14/10/2023 22:02

One thing I particularly hate - is when people post rude and snide comments about people who aren't big eaters. 'Teeny tiny' type comments really get on my nerves. If you don't consume a big mac meal and 4 donuts and a massive milkshake to yourself, followed by a half pound block of Cadburys Dairy Milk, you're a 'teeny tiny,' and guilty of competitive undereating. 🙄

I saw a thread the other week mocking people who buy a bag of chips and one large battered fish, and share it with their partner/husband. One poster said 'why are you doing this? No-one does this unless they're a pensioner.' Then someone else said 'must be poor if you're sharing a meal meant for one.'

It's not the done thing to mock and deride people for eating a lot, or being overweight, but it seems to be fashionable on Mumsnet to mock people who aren't big eaters. Boils my piss to be honest. Seems some people have an issue with people who don't eat a lot. There are many reasons for it, ranging from people having an eating disorder, to people not wanting to gain weight, to the fucking obvious fact that some people just aren't big eaters.

People who ARE big eaters love to project their issues onto the ones who don't eat a lot/eat small portions by mocking them, and posting snarky, sarcastic jibes about their 'suppose' competitive undereating. When people project snide comments onto people who don't eat a lot, it speaks volumes about them to be honest.

I agree with you in that, Chios portions are massive in my local, but I also HATE when people say boils my piss. Gross 😂

WideLegPant · 15/10/2023 08:32

DrivingAgain · 15/10/2023 05:55

Thinking that someone who doesn’t drive is deficient in some way. I have always driven, but I don’t get the criticism and scorn of those who haven’t/don’t want to learn. (As long as they don’t expect endless lifts). It is seen as an almost moral failing by some!

Agree. DBILs don't drive because when he was young there was no way he or his family could've afforded driving lessons. When he was older working FT he had no need as living and working in a city with good public transport and bike network. Then older with kids and working FT literally no time and not a financial priority!

Manages fine though.

qwerty123454 · 15/10/2023 08:33

The way that most people's advice is "get a divorce"

Husband asked me to put the bins out..

Get a divorce!

Whydoifeelthisway · 15/10/2023 09:16

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 14/10/2023 22:02

One thing I particularly hate - is when people post rude and snide comments about people who aren't big eaters. 'Teeny tiny' type comments really get on my nerves. If you don't consume a big mac meal and 4 donuts and a massive milkshake to yourself, followed by a half pound block of Cadburys Dairy Milk, you're a 'teeny tiny,' and guilty of competitive undereating. 🙄

I saw a thread the other week mocking people who buy a bag of chips and one large battered fish, and share it with their partner/husband. One poster said 'why are you doing this? No-one does this unless they're a pensioner.' Then someone else said 'must be poor if you're sharing a meal meant for one.'

It's not the done thing to mock and deride people for eating a lot, or being overweight, but it seems to be fashionable on Mumsnet to mock people who aren't big eaters. Boils my piss to be honest. Seems some people have an issue with people who don't eat a lot. There are many reasons for it, ranging from people having an eating disorder, to people not wanting to gain weight, to the fucking obvious fact that some people just aren't big eaters.

People who ARE big eaters love to project their issues onto the ones who don't eat a lot/eat small portions by mocking them, and posting snarky, sarcastic jibes about their 'suppose' competitive undereating. When people project snide comments onto people who don't eat a lot, it speaks volumes about them to be honest.

This!

I posted something in reply to a woman who couldn’t lose weight.

I said people eat way more calories than they think they do and that the calories I needed were actually lower than the 2000 a day quoted ( this was from a website and is based on your height and weight- I wasn’t suggesting I was special!)

a load of people accused me of competitive under eating!

Whydoifeelthisway · 15/10/2023 09:19

Daffodilwoman · 15/10/2023 08:20

Another one. Friends you meet at work or through your dcs are not real friends. Ok…..

i also wonder how awful their workplaces must be! I pity their co workers- god forbid they suggest a quick drink after work or ask about their weekend!!

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CruCru · 15/10/2023 09:23

I do get a bit cross when posters tell someone who is having a hard time (and is clearly quite poor) that they need to seek intensive therapy or counselling. Therapists / counsellors are people who need to be paid and the NHS are not going to provide intensive counselling while someone is able to continue with their life.

In fact, it also irritates me when someone posts “Are you getting help with your anxiety, OP?”. What help? The NHS will get involved if someone needs to be sectioned (although that won’t be pleasant) but they aren’t going to be all that interested in someone who doesn’t much like motorway driving.

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CruCru · 15/10/2023 09:29

I don’t think that is all that weird though.

I find people getting cross about others parking outside their houses a bit weird. But perhaps that is because I live in a city where finding any parking space is a glorious relief.

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Bunnyhair · 15/10/2023 09:29

Another one I see on here a lot: colleagues who have a longstanding friendship outside of work and sometimes go out together without inviting you are bullying and excluding you and undermining your mental health on purpose. Same for colleagues who are perhaps a bit grumpy and don’t greet you every day with a heartfelt smile and abundance of chit chat. These people must be dragged before HR and forced to be your friend.

ISawAStarFall · 15/10/2023 09:32

Childfree weddings.

If you have a childfree wedding on MN, you're a selfish bridezilla who only cares about having an 'instaperfect' ultra formal black tie wedding that's completely joyless. And the marriage will only last 2 years.

Or you're a childless woman, so therefore you're automatically completely clueless about kids.

In real life, I know plenty of people who've had childfree weddings and no-one seems to care that much or find them joyless.

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 15/10/2023 09:35

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 14/10/2023 22:34

@10hailmarys

I’m always baffled at how genuinely furious people get on Mumsnet about other people’s utterly harmless choices, which affect them in no way whatsoever

eg the people who are absolutely apoplectic about things like other people choosing to wear pyjamas to relax in their own homes.

Yeah that IS weird.

Something else I don't understand, is why some posters get so salty and annoyed, that OTHER posters don't want to answer the door unless they are expecting someone or expecting a package or delivery. Why do you care LOL?! I can only surmise the people who get annoyed, and make snide, sarcastic, derogatory remarks, are the irksome, irritating popper-inners who just turn up at someone's home, and expect them to drop everything for them and accommodate them. Coz they are soooooooooooo important!!! And clearly the person they are visiting has fuck-all else to do with their life but bow down to them!

I don't answer the door if I am not expecting anyone/a package/a delivery, and I don't give a fat shiny bollock what anyone else thinks. I don't answer because, it could be .........

A sales rep.

Someone saying they are an ex con trying to better themselves, and trying to get me to buy shit off them.

An acquaintance who is uninvited expecting me to drop everything for them and let them in.

A scammer pretending to be from my energy company.

A fucking Betterware, or Bodyshop rep!

A neighbour asking me to take a package in for them as they'll be out when it comes. (No fuck off I'm not waiting in for YOUR package!)

Someone saying they have just finished off Mr Miggins driveway and have some tarmac left and will do mine for £300 cash.

Someone wanting to cut my conifers down by 2 feet. (If I want them cutting, I will contact someone myself!)

Someone saying they have spotted a loose roof tile on my roof, and will get up and fix it for me for £50. (Only to come back down and say £900 worth of work needs doing, and demand £200 off me for the 'work' they've done.)

Someone expecting me to spend half hour of my day doing a survey.

Someone trying to convert me to their religion.

A delivery driver dropping off a package for someone else. (NO! I cannot be fucked to wait for said neighbour to come get it, OR have to take it to them, AND be responsible for their shit, AND have to spend my valuable time chatting shit to random neighbour when the package exchanges hands.)

Someone trying to sign me up to the county newspaper that I haven't purchased since 2007, as they only sell 973 copies a day now, compared to 23,000 twenty years ago!

Someone who has got the wrong house.

Etc etc etc............

If I am NOT expecting anything or anyone, no I won't answer the door. And I don't have to explain myself to anyone.

You literally have just explained yourself 😄

Zwicky · 15/10/2023 09:37

Another one. Friends you meet at work or through your dcs are not real friends. Ok…..

Yes this. Nearly all my friends are people I’ve met through baby and toddler groups, my kids school or are colleagues. I’m in touch with a couple of school and uni friends but they live far away and I rarely see them. My actual bread and butter support network, nights out and mini break friends are through kids and work. I don’t like or get on with every school mum or colleague but I do like and get on with loads of them.

And the “clique” thing - at work but mainly school mums. Like it’s cliquey and bitchy for a few women who have known each other for a decade - who might even be sisters or sisters in law, to chat at the school gate.