What is the weirdest thing that bugs people on MN?

[CruCru]

I remember a poster saying that it really stressed her out to see a woman outside the house with wet hair as no one should be too busy to blow dry their hair. This was weird to me because I have shoulder length hair and never blow dry it.

What about you?

The ‘healthy’ food obsessions. Why do so many MNers get so upset at the mention of fast food or ‘processed’ food or additives?

I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s nothing to do with health at all, but snobbery.

The idea that fruit is somehow akin to injecting heroin and should be avoided at all cost!

Unless its a very hot day my hair takes a good 2-3 hours to dry naturally.

People on MN are often very upset by people not only liking their partner, but also happily doing things for them. I was once told I’m in an abusive relationship because I sometimes iron our bedding as I know my husband really likes ironed sheets.

Any helpful links to fashion items contains fugly clothes and shoes that cost more than the average Terrace up North.

Mums that have children when there knocking on 50 but have already raised a family.
But turn their nose down at younger mums.
And when mental health is used to excuse bad behaviour.
Not everyone has a MH issues there just twats.
People that dont wash there face in the morning.
If you dont work and dont say why your looked down on.
How men are always the wrong one he cheats or says something out of line its abuse and she should leave.
She cheats shes told not to tell him and its self defence.
And men dont have feelings like the rest of the world.
Dont answer the doors or phones take weeks to reply a message.

Most recent.
can i watch my 12 year old piss.
What can my toddler call her privates.
And young mums get stigma.
My partner is not wiping is backside properly.
Mumsnet is a strange place.

Armchair diagnoses of all varieties - I do despair when I see another post of

But they sound like they might have... ,

And don't dare say that you prefer going out with or spending time with your husband. That makes you are terrible friend.

The poster who was furious that her colleague disrespected a chef by putting salt and pepper on his christmas meal before eating, therefore meaning that he mustn't have thought the chefs cooking was up to scratch. Batshit.

I hate it when I spend ages preparing a meal and someone puts S and P on it before checking whether it's actually required. Totally fine if they taste it first and want some - it's always on the table - but the assumption that they are going to need more salt without tasting is irritating..

*People who post "rtft". Who reads the whole thread before posting? Do people really aways do this? Smacks of "do as I say not as I do"

I agree with this. The conversation can go off at a tangent and a fresh answer to the question without the bias of reading others' answers is more truthful, imo.

People who think tilting your head, and asking someone if they meant to be so rude, is the ultimate comeback.

Cue bafflement.

I hate it when I spend ages preparing a meal and someone puts S and P on it before checking whether it's actually required. Totally fine if they taste it first and want some - it's always on the table - but the assumption that they are going to need more salt without tasting is irritating..

I know that MN is strongly divided on this, but I'll never understand why some people take it so personally as an unequivocal insult.

If you know that you like food significantly saltier and/or peppery than average, why wouldn't you be conscious of this and thus prepare automatically to season your own food in accordance? I like absolutely shed-loads of pepper - even on things like baked beans or mashed potatoes, which many people (as is their absolute prerogative for their own food) look horrified at. It could not possibly be too peppery for me. To the extent that they will often make the 'hilarious' quip of "Are you sure you've got enough [name of main food/dish] with your pepper, there, ho, ho ho?!!"

I wouldn't dream of assuming that my outlying preferences are normal - and thus I would never consider serving up food to others seasoned as I would choose to season it for myself; but equally, I reserve the right to have my own food seasoned as I wish and would view it dimly as controlling for somebody else - even the chef - to try to tell me exactly how I should enjoy my own food.

Similarly, I know people (one very close friend in particular) who find the idea of any amount of medium-strong condiments appalling, and cannot understand why I would enjoy ketchup, mustard or horseradish at all. We both know and completely respect each other's choices for our own food, but I'm not going to bother tasting various foods that lack these (imho delicious condiments) first, as some kind of bizarre social custom, before deciding to get/order some of the abovementioned (to me, essential) accoutrements.

Do you similarly take offence when people know that they want to add these sauces straightaway and, if so, what's the difference?

To be honest, I don't really see it as any different from a vegan moaning at an omnivore's desire to eat meat or an omnivore's jibes to a vegan that "that's rabbit food, didn't you want a proper meal".

You could also take it ad absurdum by getting offended at anybody ordering something 'standard' rather than something à la carte or on the 'chef's specials of the day' board - or a fellow diner ordering a dish but asking for it without one particular stated ingredient that they are not allergic to or ethically have any objection to, but simply know that they don't like the taste of.

Even if the chef is left feeling grossly insulted and wanting to scream "Well, you say instantly that you don't like mushrooms; and yet you've never yet even tried my mushrooms, or seen/tasted the way that I prepare them!"

To be fair, families where mummy is doing adult children's laundry are very very rarely operating as a team.

To be fair, families where mummy is doing adult children's laundry are very very rarely operating as a team.

That is true in many cases, but there are still plenty of families where the adult children AND daddy do other important chores for everybody.

There are even households where older parent(s) live with their older adult children in their (children's) own homes - where they pay the mortgage/rent, council tax, utility bills, do much of the house admin - and they are happy to contribute by doing the laundry, having meals ready for when the others return from work, mow the lawn, do the hoovering etc.

There was one very recent thread - about OP's sibling inheriting when she wouldn't iirc - where she mentioned that she and her DH lived with his DM. People were making assumptions and scoffing about them living rent-and-bill-free with (his) mum, until OP responded that it was their own home that they paid for fully, and they had invited (her) MIL to come and live with them.

When people moan about their mum/aunt/neighbour doing something dreadful and “toxic” only to be told that they are lucky because their mum/aunt/neighbour is dead and the OP should be grateful to have someone still living to be toxic to them.

Yes and it’s usually the people who literally write that they have no clue or experience what it’s like to deal with such toxic people in the first place.

*People who post "rtft". Who reads the whole thread before posting?

Agree, however not to at least read the OP’s posts (if possible) is a bare minimum since it ends up being a lot of posters asking the same questions. Even worse when the OP found a solution, situation has been sorted, and posters are still coming in and going off the first post pages later.

People who turn anything in a epic saga

Made up example - my husband always loses his car keys

Omg he does it deliberately so you can find them then he go go off with his girlfriend he met when at the petrol station you need to leave now!

Not sure it’s weird but it’s very aggressive…. Any poor person who goes on the dog board and has got a puppy instead of travelling to Bolivia and saving one from a gang of drug dealers will be flamed!

This calls for a Discworld quotation!

Mustrum Ridcully, Archchancellor of Unseen University, was a shameless autocondimentor.*
*Someone who will put certainly salt and probably pepper on any meal you put in front of them whatever it is and regardless of how much it’s got on it already and regardless of how it tastes. Behavioural psychiatrists working for fast-food outlets around the universe have saved billions of whatever the local currency is by noting the autocondimenting phenomenon and advising their employers to leave seasoning out in the first place. This is really true. - Terry Pratchett, Reaper Man

There are people with thicker hair you know. In this climate my hair takes over a day to fully dry. I'm not going to hide out for a day on the off chance my natural hair offends someone. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I think a lot of the posters that go on about healthy food here have, at best, disordered eating. There's plenty that are hiding full blown eating disorders behind IF and obsessions around highly processed foods.

There's nothing wrong about being concerned about heath btw - it's the obsession and inflexible rules that give the game away

One woman was berating her dh for automatically putting salt on every meal before tasting.

Only later did she confess that she refuses to use salt at any point in the cooking process.

@CruCru going out with wet hair is considerdd an abomination in Italy, as I found out. I'm like you - never dry my hair. It's going to dry naturally so why bother...

Vile. Everything is vile.

How everyone is an armchair economist and a foreign policy expert on here. Just read the middle east threads on here. It’s like you’ve stumbled into a jackanory version of international relations commentary.

Haitch.
Hallowe'en.
Trick or treating.
Any 'American' turn of phrase.
Santa Claus (vs 'Father Christmas').
American customs like gift registries, wedding showers, and baby showers.

Loo brushes.
Pedal bins in bathrooms where female guests can deposit used tampons or pads.
Making it clear where sanpro is kept in a bathroom so other women or girls can help themselves if needed.

Being 'that' parent - sticking your neck out is not approved.

People accusing others on Mumsnet of "screaming" about x or y , just because they have a different opinion. I've seen it a fair bit recently.