What is the weirdest thing that bugs people on MN?

[CruCru]

I remember a poster saying that it really stressed her out to see a woman outside the house with wet hair as no one should be too busy to blow dry their hair. This was weird to me because I have shoulder length hair and never blow dry it.

What about you?

Washing up bowls.

@KarmasOnYourScent

That's a big explanation for someone who says they don't have to explain themselves to anyone. 🤣

Ooops. 😂 You're not wrong! 😆

You'll alaysfind a few on the threads ranting against scented sanitary towels...🤢

Cash as wedding present it's grabby and greedy where as most people are fine about it.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4801679-you-know-that-thing-about-spiders-willies-on-your-washing

I don't mind seeing it at all but I always shout in my head: aren't you freezing?! Won't you be sick tomorrow?! (I know the latter is an old wives tale but still... it does look and feel cold-y)...

I'd love not to dry my hair as I'd have nice curls. But how... just how to survive with wet hair for a few hours and not be freezing/sneezing from the cold... 🥶

I think it might be what happens to your laundry if you leave it outside overnight.

Spiders crawl on it dragging their willies on everything.

@YetMoreNewBeginnings

That nobody over 15 should ever expect a birthday card from their nearest and dearest.

@SacAMain

that anyone who likes birthdays is a pathetic attention-seeker

Yeah this. ^ I always find it's people who are jealous and bitter because they have no-one in their life who cares about them enough to make a fuss of them on their birthday, and buy them a card of gift. So they're projecting.

I knew a woman once who I worked with (5 years older than me, single, child free.) She was always so spiteful and catty towards me and the other 4 women there who were all married - or in relationships, because our men made a fuss of us on birthdays, at Christmas, and on Valentine's. Her jealousy was FIERCE!😆

She would mock and deride and make NASTY comments. One lass got a lovely unicorn beanie from her fiancé (they were both 22,) for her birthday. And this woman laughed spitefully, and said LOUDLY 'fucking hell Hannah, you're not FIVE!' Jealous cow she was. Awful woman.

These same type of people always mock anything nice - or good fun - like Valentine's, Christmas, birthdays, hen parties etc, because they jealous and bitter. No other reason for it. Why are you so mean and catty towards someone else having fun, and being loved by others??? 100% jealousy and bitterness through and through.

I am not saying ALL single women are jealous of the married women/women in relationships by the way. I just mean the ones who are spiteful and mean and catty towards women in relationships who get spoilt by their men.

I agree @CruCru until I was on MN I ever knew that people might judge others for having wet hair. (I often leave the house with wet hair) If I saw someone with wet hair I would assume either they didn't want to/didn't have time to dry it or they had been swimming or just exercised and showered, and think nothing else about it.

And lots of people seem aghast at the idea of ensuite bathrooms (even though everyone seems to earn 100k + so would likely have a large house that might well have a ensuite (or multiple ensuites!)

SAHM who come onto the salary threads to talk about their husbands salaries.

People who don't know the answer to question so just respond with the wrong one.

People who say "my husband (who has no experience of this issue) says" as if its the end of the conversation because a man has spoken.

Yeah that baffles me too actually. I am more than happy to give cash for a wedding gift, and think it's sensible to ask for it.

I also see some posters getting arsey when engaged couples have a wedding gift list. Surely that is a good idea so people don't buy something someone else has bought, and/or what the couple already have.

My niece and her (now) DH, had a wishlist on Amazon and sent the link to the list to everyone invited. (55 people... And a choice of around 80 things.) Ranging from £17 items through to £90. So if you were a bit brassick you didn't have to spend a lot. The gift went straight to them, (to their home) so everyone else didn't see that Carol only spent £19, and Jan spent £90!

Heh, thanks Dedsec2023 & SacAMain. I’m LOLing!

It feels like the one place where there are strong, often negative or extreme opinions about SAHM vs working mums (just thought a platform called Mumsnet would be beyond this!).

Posts about working as a mum are often followed by majority comments along the lines of “why do you have children then”. SAHM are often told there is more to life.

Most of the time the OP’s question doesn’t get addressed because everyone uses the post to express what team they are on.

The idea that any kind of compromise in a relationship or family = coercive control or abuse or being a pushover. The concept of family responsibility does not exist here. It's always: don't go on holiday if YOU don't want to, don't invite your inlaws over, just leave him if he likes the radio on louder than you do, go NC with mother if she irritates you. Sometimes people just piss us off! We do not always need to take drastic action. Also if OP states they just want to have a rant or moan and instead of solidarity or scrolling on people start to give advice (usually LTB) when that's not at all what's being asked.

100% agree @toadasoda

This is hilarious

Every dog is evil

toilet brushes

dog bowls going in the dishwasher with other human utensils.

Or the ones who debate how much to charge their kids for rent as soon as they get so much as a paper round.

Why do so many women feel they can police other women's dress and appearance?

I never understand how a woman who isn't wearing makeup often supposedly looks 'ill'; yet 99.9% of men never wear makeup and are never told that the lack of it makes them look ill.

Not just 'unpretty' or 'unfeminine' or any other specifically misogynistic complaints; but your actual skin actually looks actually ill when it's in its normal natural state?!

What gets me also - going back to @toadasoda 's comment. When a woman says she cooked dinner for her husband, or did his washing... she gets posters posting this >>> and saying 'WHY are you doing his washing and WHY are you cooking his dinner?!??!' Like er coz she's his wife and they live together and doing washing separately is just batshit. And realistically whether we like it or not, the woman will usually do the cooking. Not always but more often than not.

Some posters act like the poster is letting the side down by having the audacity to do something nice for her husband. Like 'he is mugging you off' and 'what are you his servant?' and 'sounds a bit stepford wives to me OP!' and 'why is he not doing YOUR washing?! They don't address the OP's issue in the original post on the thread, they just bash her for doing anything for her husband!

"LTB" over every minor marital conflict.

You can't insist people get married (which is a commitment to remain faithful for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, until death), and then tell people to LTB because he leaves his towel on the floor or votes Tory.

Or the ones who debate how much to charge their kids for rent as soon as they get so much as a paper round.

An awful lot of parents don't actually appear to like their children all that much, as soon as they reach adulthood.

They seem to deliberately want to make their lives as hard/uncomfortable/challenging as they possibly can - and I'm not talking here about bringing them up with discipline, consideration for others and good work/social ethics, which they should have dealt with long before now - just wanting to inject random misery into their lives as punishment for the sheer audacity of having lived 18/20/22 years or whatever.

The accusations of “grabbiness” for having perfectly normal expectations around gifts. It’s completely normal for people to give and receive birthday and Christmas and wedding presents.Ditto inheritance. So many “Aibu to be upset that my parents have left their million pound house and all their savings to db and nothing to me.” Followed by 1000 people pretending to be shocked and horrified that it would ever occur to anyone to expect any inheritance at all and what possible problem could being treated so differently from a sibling be.

I think it’s weird that all individual members of a family do their own laundry. But I haven’t quite arrived at colour catchers and still separate stuff out and it would kill me to not do a full load.

When people moan about their mum/aunt/neighbour doing something dreadful and “toxic” only to be told that they are lucky because their mum/aunt/neighbour is dead and the OP should be grateful to have someone still living to be toxic to them.

To be honest I can sometimes smell it when people wear the scented ones but then I can also smell illness in my children and when the kids were small used to identify clothing left at parties by the smell of the child/washing powder.

People 'othering' their MiLs and teenage stepdaughters.