What is the weirdest thing that bugs people on MN?

[CruCru]

I remember a poster saying that it really stressed her out to see a woman outside the house with wet hair as no one should be too busy to blow dry their hair. This was weird to me because I have shoulder length hair and never blow dry it.

What about you?

Presumably the person who called you "scum" was deleted. MN don't allow personal attacks like that.

We've all been unfairly attacked for no good reason on MN at times (if we've been here a while). If the person who called you "scum" was reported then they would have been deleted and possibly banned.

So don't judge the whole of MN on the basis of one horrible comment.

No, some people can, batshit people but they're out there

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@lovewintertime
"Well when they're all done laughing at us they will see that we are free of parenting.
And they will still be dealing with kids way in their 50s."

I'm sorry you were spoken to in a way that was disrespectful.

Your comment here was no better.

Women have children at different ages for many reasons. Just as it's inappropriate to assume you are incompetent at 19, so is it inappropriate to assume we are senile at 50.

And you'll still be dealing with kids at 50, they'll just be older and you may even have grandchildren by then! Parenting doesn't stop at 18!

I will always be a parent but im not gonna do parenting as hes has his own life now. ( i dont go round parenting grown men that have wifes)
And i did not say anyone was senile it was a point saying dont look down at someone else.
no offence in any of what i said.

@lovewintertime I was referencing the fact that you've assumed everyone on Mn thinks you're incapable at 19, and showing that your comments about 50 y/o mothers was equally unfair.

I live in the real world but my kids stand on their own feet im there if they need me and ill help if they need help.
But if you give a child every thing thats the worst thing a parent can do.
My child pays for his own car/bills etc because hes adult.
If i have grandchildren I will be there for them but im not gonna be my grand childs mum.
I wanted my children to be independent and independent they are.
I`ll always be a mum but i dont do parenting anymore.

No it was not meant to all on MN im sorry if it comes across like that.
But i have had a few comments about it and so have many others on here.
Its like some of us have to just take the comments and not react back.
It was not a direct hit at you or anyone else just saying what ive seen and my own experience.

You are too defensive and twisting everything to make a credible argument.

I am talking about helping children - and there are enough threads on how difficult it is to buy your first home without parental help to prove my point.

You twist that into "give everything to your child".

It's not quite the same, and you know it.

Sorry you feel that way hope your ok but im really not twisting anything you do sound defensive yourself.
You dont have to prove your point I no how hard it is to buy a home and your very lucky if you can afford to buy a home.
I dont argue i dont like Arguments.

Fair enough @lovewintertime - my ex stepsister had her first when we were both 19 and I used to look after him (and her next) when she was working and when I eventually had my own at 32 it was amazing the difference in my outlook compared to when I looked after her babies (obvs looking after others' kids is not the same, I know) but there's pros and cons for both.

You can be a great parent at 19 and a shit parent at 32. Or vice versa.

I'd have had kids earlier if I could've but it didn't work out that way and now im 54 with my youngest of 3 at 15 and im knackered!

We're all doing the best we can I reckon!

Your doing a brilliant job dont tell yourself any different. ( its hard work )

But there is always gonna stigma no matter what age we have children.
I had my first at 19 conceived by rape thats why i dont look down at any young or older mum because we dont know the story.
My sister had her last at 40 last year my mum had her last at 36 so im not against it.
I work with young mums now have done for years.
But no one nos what the next one has been through.
Thats why when i see or hear something i speak up because i never had that.

@lovewintertime ❤️

lots of posts on here tonight not understanding that some people have genuine issues around the sense of smell.

My autistic teenage daughter is one of them.

It's quite disabling in many ways.

Anyone using the loo at work, especially for 'number 2'.

People who can't or don't drive.

People who don't host or attend big parties or celebrations. Sometimes there is an assumption that friendship is entirely about such celebrations.

The vitriol directed at people who can't or don't drive.

The assumption that EVERYTHING that other people do is done to show off; that people who are a bit too loud in public are 'attention seeking' or, if parents, 'performance parenting', rather than often being insufficiently aware of other people's presence; that practically everything others say is either a direct boast or a 'stealth boast'/ 'humblebrag'.

People getting angry about a poster saying that they do their husband's/partner's/children over 18's laundry. By this,I mean the act of loading up the machine and setting it going,not the sorting it out afterwards, ironing it, putting it away etc. I mean seriously,do households really do each person's laundry separately? As a previous poster said,don't households work better as a team?

Oh god yes; just mentioned that! PS: not all disabilities that prevent someone from driving are visible, and not everyone wants to discuss their medical history with random, judgemental people.

Sorry I haven't rtft.

I once read a thread on here detailing how rude it was to phone someone out of the blue. This was particularly aimed at work colleagues. Everyone should book their phone calls in advance.

It made me feel ancient at 47yo. I have a youngish team and I have to specify "please ring xyz" rather than "contact".

This is a development that has passed me by. If I want an immediate response, I ring.

I am the height of rudeness!

People that join a thread that already has hundreds of posts - don't read any other OP's updates and then say the same thing as 90% of other posters or something that's no longer relevant - why?

People that urge an OP to contact social services because of things like their child's friends mum smokes, or think that there's huge teams of social workers just sitting around waiting for a call that someone has a teenager who is moody to spring into action and offer magical support.
It's so detached from reality.

People on threads particularly GC threads that have valid points I align with but then start to spiral into sounding like school girl bullies making personal comments and patting each other on the back for it then still believing with total conviction they hold the moral high ground.

People that join a thread that already has hundreds of posts - don't read any other OP's updates and then say the same thing as 90% of other posters or something that's no longer relevant - why?

As several of us have already said upthread

Yeah, I get a bit cross with the people who seem to expect SS to leap into action at all times. There have been a couple of threads where a daughter’s friend is spending too much time at an OP’s house - seriously, SS aren’t going to be interested.

@FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper the posts I saw about it seemed to be defending it 🤔

@CruCru I'd like to exist in their world where I believed such safety nets existed.

Special extra marks for idiots who ask questions that are actually answered by reading the OP.