What is the weirdest thing that bugs people on MN?

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I remember a poster saying that it really stressed her out to see a woman outside the house with wet hair as no one should be too busy to blow dry their hair. This was weird to me because I have shoulder length hair and never blow dry it.

What about you?

I agree with this. The conversation can go off at a tangent and a fresh answer to the question without the bias of reading others' answers is more truthful, imo.

But, as PP said, the problem is that they aren’t fresh answers – they’re the same old stinking obvious things that were said by dozens of other people from the start. Or they’re totally irrelevant and can be very insensitive indeed.

Probably the worst example of this was one thread that had been started by a much-loved terminally-ill MNer, asking for recommendations for where to go on holiday in Anglesey – a ‘bucket list’ scenario. Sadly, the inevitable happened and she never actually managed to go to Anglesey at all

Once the sad news had been shared by a friend of hers, the thread developed into a tribute to her, with many people sharing their beautiful heartfelt memories of what she’d meant to them; but there were still a lot of people chiming in breezily with inadvertently upsetting suggestions of where this now-deceased lady could go on her holiday.

Conversations going off at a tangent or developing is exactly what the nature of a conversation is.

My question in this scenario is always: if you think the thread is already far too long for anybody to bother reading it, what makes you think that adding to it and making it longer is going to achieve anything? Who are you expecting to read your post?

Someone has probably said this but….
When people ask for specific advise such as..
”My dd wants a blue dress where can I buy one?”
And the replies are
“Err blue is awful why do you want to do that…?!”
”A dress? Shorts would be better!”
”Why are you buying her things you evil witch?!”
Nothing about the actual question.

They need to just click on "see all" to see the OP's updates if they CBA to read the entire thread. I do this in case I have missed anything.

Someone daring to be a step mum who isn’t going to be treated like shit.

I hear you with the young mum thing, I had my son at 19 too and posters in the past have tried to say that clearly means I was a wayward teen and an easy lay. It's disgusting

People who make up dramatic posts and never update what has happened
Ridiculous in the moment ones like today's chicken one, or should I take my child to A&E - where answers won't be relevant in a few hours.
Posts where spelling and grammar is so bad that the title does not make sense,
Posts where the OP complains that relatives interfere too much in their lives. They do not realise the obvious thing that they either see them too much or tell them too much.

So quite a lot really!

The take over of pensioners on every thread. It should be called pensioners net nowadays. Can’t be a family struggling or a worker paying eye watering levels of tax. It all comes down to the pension and whatabouterry on every thread. Can’t say anything though as the claxon starts going off for ageism 🤫

Being a SAHM. Totally against the Mumsnet rules

So is being a happily married woman. According to many women who claim to be single on here, every married woman they know is a miserable, dowdy, downtrodden, haggard bag of shit, who is a slave to her husband and children, and hates her life. And the single women are all deliriously happy with their wonderful, illustrious lives - full of wonder, excitement, dozens of friends, a £125K a year job, and lots of travelling around the world, and crazy, fun nights out.

Apparently some random straw poll from some years ago (that interviewed mostly single women!) put single women as the happiest demographic. The single women on here cling onto this desperately, and use it like a weapon, to 'prove' single women are the happiest.

In real life, there are single women who are miserable, and single women who are happy, and there are married women who are miserable, and married women who are happy. Being single does NOT automatically = happiness, and being married does NOT automatically = misery!

Also, in real life, most people are in relationships, or have been. And those NOT in one wish they were. (Most of them anyway.) Yet if the threads on mumsnet were to be believed, 50% of women are single, and gloriously happy about it! And all married women hate their life!

On some threads if you say you feel safe living with a Husband & Sons you are told you are niave. Then they call them Nigel. Yes we are aware there are some weirdos out there.

@WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff Agreed! I got told I was a terrible friend because I said I'd rather spend my time and money going on holiday with my DH and kids.

Actually - yes, this annoys me. People answer the question they want to be asked rather than what was actually asked.

No. Depending on the weather, my hair will dry in between 15 minutes and one hour. If I’m walking, that is enough to keep me warm. If I get the bus or tube, it will definitely be warm enough.

It's like the old joke, where some people are lost in the middle of the countryside and ask a farmer for the best way to get to X town - and the answer comes "Ooh, I wouldn't start from here!"

The assumption that the childfree or childless have lots of money to splash about. Apparently nobody CF has ever been stuck in low-paid jobs!

not sure why but theres some resonable posts without any malice, etc on different threads at times and for some reason they are deleted ?

I let my hair dry naturally in the house I'd maybe go out on a warm day but generally I'd be frozen😄

Well when they're all done laughing at us they will see that we are free of parenting.
And they will still be dealing with kids way in their 50s.
They may say we missed the best years but i did not miss anything because im more confident now than what i was back then.
And the best years are to come im Watching my son build his own life now.

I used to drive to work with the windows down to dry my hair if I'd washed it in the morning, worked fine.

Of course it isn't weird but nor is the corollary, when I wrote that I hadn't 'shared' the finer details of my life outside work with work colleagues and I was quite comfortable not to have people round all the time I was asked if I had one of those conditions with lots of letters. The general MN rule seems to be that we are all supposed to be the same and live the same way, a bit like Maoist China, but a don't look good in a boiler suit.

only on MN are people "free of parenting" because their child becomes an adult.😂

Back in the real world, the older they get, the more they cost (car, university, house deposit, weddings..) and then they have their own children and you as a grand-parent try to help.

Not wanting the luxury of the freedom of child-free years, building your own life, your own career is fine. I wouldn't have missed these years for the world. It's good for children to know their parents have an independent life.

I would NEVER have known seeing people with wet hair could bug anyone 😂.

It reminds me of the thread where a neighbour was outraged about outside laundry, and how clean bedding drying in somebody else's garden was unbearable to her

Back in the real world, the older they get, the more they cost (car, university, house deposit, weddings..) and then they have their own children and you as a grand-parent try to help.
Back in the REAL real word, you allow your adult offspring to pay for their own car, deposit and wedding.

I am with these weird people who HELP out their children, even after their 18th birthday.. Match the deposit on their car, help with uni so they have a much better career opportunity, ENJOY helping with the weddings.. whatever they can afford to help with.

It would be a pretty shit world if adults didn't help family because they are adults, the kids when you can afford to help, or your parents if they need a little boost.

Barbecue smoke from neighbours gardens. People in real life can't seriously be bothered by this