To not have eaten this chicken?

[ShitChicken]

Long story short, I'd bought a deli chicken for tea. I'd had a really busy day and haven't had anything to eat yet. We got home and I nipped next door to collect a package they'd accepted while we were out.

By the time I got in, DH had opened the chicken and had his mitts in it. I said "have you washed your hands?" He initially tried to say he had earlier, but admitted shortly after that he hadn't washed them since he got in. Bleurgh, bleurgh and bleurgh again.

He KNOWS I'm funny about hand washing, he knows I'm even funnier about hand washing and food. I accept this is a me thing, but I say I now can't eat the chicken.

As far as I'm concerned, it's contaminated. It's germ infested chicken now. He gets mildly miffed with me refusing to eat the shit chicken, this is more because he feels bad about (as far as I'm concerned) smearing poo on food and expecting me to eat it.

I'm moderately precious about what I eat anyway, having recently lost a not insignificant amount of weight. I was looking forward to this chicken. It was part of a cheat meal, I really wanted some chicken skin.

AIBU?

(I'm writing this and realising that I'm clearly having a bit of an OCD flare up.)

He puts the teabag in with the cold milk first.

This makes me scream silently.

I've asked him enough times in the 12 years we've been together not to do it this way because it tastes different. He won't have it. But it turns my stomach.

Exactly! Public transport! He used to work on public transport, he knows how gross people can be!

😂 at your sister!

I’d genuinely have a look into NOCD.

So not only did he not wash his hands immediately before touching food, he didn't wash them when you got in from the shopping centre?

I wouldn't eat that either.

I was taught to washhabds when coming in from school, public transport, playing out etc. Same as talking shoes off.

I was also taught to wash hands directly before preparing or eating food.

Surely this is normal hygiene? And I say that as someone who is a bit lax on other things.

RE: the tea thing......just go into the kitchen and make another.

"Why are you pouring it away??"
"You put the milk in first and I hate it that way. You keep doing it even though I have asked you not to so now I just throw it away and make my own".

That will work. Betcha.

12 years in and many, many times of being asked.

I wish it would work, he wastes my teabags 😂 It's nearly caused divorce more than once!

YABU and wasteful. Get some more help and stop berating your partner for your own issues.

Milk in first is just disgusting 🤢 ffs.

Every time he asked if I wanted tea I'd say no thanks, I'll make my own, you put too much milk.

I had to do that with my dh, I like no more than a teaspoon of milk, I use a teaspoon to do it. He was putting a big glug of milk. Now he uses a teaspoon.

Sorry, I meant you say to yours, no thanks, you put the milk in first and its disgusting.

As the OP referred to gluten containing products, it made sense that not many people are deemed 'safe' or trustworthy, as when you get to autoimmune diseases, you find out that a significant proportion of the population either don't understand or think it's all a bit of faddy eating that could be solved with a piriton.

I'm also, like many people, taking medication to suppress my idiotic immune system, which again makes food and other hygiene more important.

Clean hands, clean surfaces and clean utensils seems to me to be the bare minimum to expect.

(I also get the tea thing, too. The too much milk and letting the kettle go off the boil is a regular disappointment for me, interspersed with absolutely perfect ones).

I wouldn't want to eat it and I don't have OCD. I did have part time jobs as a teen involving food prep training that stuck with me. Ironically one role involved cooking rotisserie chicken in a supermarket deli. I would never eat it unless straight off the rotisserie. It's also one of the few foods that has given me food poisoning (not from my shop).

Also, we wash hands as soon as we get home from anywhere (unless we have stayed in the car the whole time) and also wash hands before any food prep. It is habit and we don't think twice about it, it's not a big deal or a sign of mental health issues/covid paranoia

Depends - does he work in a dirty job or not wash his hands after going to the toilet? If yes then yanbu. If not, then you're prob right about it possibly being a bit of an overreaction. I would be annoyed either way but would prob still have eaten it esp if starving hungry.

He contaminated it. I wouldn't of touched it and told him to get a replacement. Every one else in the comments is just bloody gross if that's acceptable to them.

This is normal so you don't cross germs over . People who think this is ocd etc need their heads read themselves.