Do most grown men know how to wipe properly?

[Fartymcnarty]

I swear I’m not a poo troll, I don’t post often but this is really irking me!!! My partner often leaves “marks” on the sheets, even towels after he’s had a bath. He just went to the bathroom whilst I was in the bath (issue in itself) and he wiped once, put the paper straight in the toilet, wiped a second time- straight down the toilet. Was about to pull his pants up when I lost it!! I asked how he knows it clean!!!??? We’ve had this conversation before due to marks left etc! He sighed and said he’s a man! Sat back down and wiped and looked at the paper, 4 more times until it was clean! This is a deal breaker for me now! I seriously cannot be with a grown man who can’t wipe his own backside properly!!! Tell me this isn’t normal and is not a “man” thing? I have two adult boys, I taught them both how to wipe as part of toilet training so what the hell is wrong with him?!!

@AgnestaVipers the womens toilet at our work is left horrendous at times and public toilets so def nit just men

Some people with medical conditions my have small accidents/ skid marks but that can’t be helped and would normally not leave for partner to clean. But never checking you are clean is weird. Maybe by some toilet wet wipes for him to use as well, thats what we have to freshen up.

I had a short lived relationship with a lovely guy last year. Short lived because after the first time he spent the night at mine, I noticed skid marks on the sheets. Lovely or not, I couldn’t get past that.

It wasn’t just the mess, which was bad enough. It was the idea that he was either completely unaware he wasn’t clean, or he was aware and he just didn’t care 🤢

More fibre in his diet needed, maybe?

I must store this thread on my phone to look at every time I feel like eating.
I will quickly lose weight.. 🤮

Oh yes and I'm joining a nunnery

In some cultures, unless you actually wash yourself after using the toilet. it’s not deemed as being clean.

The hairy hole thing is why I think all bathrooms should have bidets. No excuse then.

Of course nowadays some men can identify as women, which isn't really a thing.

It's probably more common than you think. My DH is incapable of wiping his arse properly, shit marks on towels. He sleeps in the spare room.

You've got him well trained ! Seriously though if they soil the house like an animal they need treating like an animal. Sleeping outside would be a great idea.

I couldn't tolerate this behaviour from anybody old enough to have been toilet trained to be honest.

Hairy arse?
WHAT! 😫

Absolutely not, ive got an arse like chewbaccas armpit - you wipe till its clean!!

After spending many years / decades sharing male toilets I can confirm some men dont even wipe, i'd describe it as giving it a quick dust off or dab with some scrumpled paper and bounce back out to go about their day, presumably stinking of hot shit.

And shit on the bedsheets!? Why were mushroom clouds not laid!

This thread is making me glad I'm single!

My husband has seen everything with me.. more recently after major surgery, supporting
me whilst I was in agony as the nurses took the catheter out.

The line is drawn at going for a poo and arse wiping though. That is private.

You’re right to be concerned if there’s skids everywhere but not to have witnessed it quite so blatantly. Honestly, it’s grim.
Also sex, does he shower before ? I couldn’t have sex with my husband knowing his arse was smelly and shitty. Just no , even going no where near his arse. I just couldn’t do it 🤢

Ewwwwwwwww. That’s just gross 🤮🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Have you posted this before?? I recall another post about marks in the sheet. How in earth is this even possible unless he sticks the sheet between his crack??

I have heard stories including my own of friends being with men and being able to smell their ass during sex
Some men are gross

Never in 39 years. No skid marks or marks anywhere else. A couple,of marks left in the toilet, ok, but no more than a couple of times. He knows where the Harpic is and how to use the toilet brush (YES WE DO AND I DONT CARE WHAT MN THINKS).
And going by the time he spends in the bathroom whenever he thinks he might get lucky (increasingly rare these days) I am very unlikely to come across odour or owt else when in the vicinity of his nether regions.
You younger women seem to put up with a lot.

Shitting next to you! How did this ever start???

My H also leaves skid marks on the sheets. He is also incapable of using a toilet brush to get rid of the shit that he magically fires at an angle so that it sticks all around the bowl. Needless to say we no longer have sex and I will leaving the fucking lazy and revolting man very soon.

My ex used to have some leakage every now and then and it turned out he had bowel problems. Is if definitively him not wiping property? Maybe buy him some wipes and see if that solves it?

...living on my own has suddenly gained infinite appeal.