Dh going to get takeaway pizza when I already made pasta

[Chocolatewarerfalls]

Made pasta an hour ago for all of us, Dd (5) and I ate ours as we sometimes do before Dh gets home from work, I put a dish out for Dh for when he got home.
Im in the kitchen washing up, feeling full
and hear Dh come in, Dd comes running in saying we’re getting takeaway pizza, I say I’ve made dinner and we’ve already eaten though 🤷🏻‍♀️Dd starts crying and shouting how she wants takeaway pizza and daddy says we’re having it. Dh says he didn’t know I had made any dinner. Dd decides to be cheeky and says we’re getting pizza, Dh agrees with her and she shouts to me that we’re getting pizza.
Aibu to feel completely undermined here?
Its not about the pizza itself…or am I being petty?
Also bearing in mind that we’re trying to save money and I suggested getting a pizza maybe tomorrow night as I’ve made dinner for today and we’ve eaten ours and now feel full?

Suppose it depends on the hours both work outside/inside the home? If dh is out of the house 8-6 say and op 9-3 doesn't it make sense she cooks if she wants to eat at 5?

it’s my bedtime with Dd anyway tonight

The wording of this reads to a few of us that it's your bedtime. Aka, you and dh each go to bed when you take dd up.

Do you mean it's your turn to tuck her in rather than actually go to bed?

So if it was your turn to do bath and bedtime you were going to ignore that and “leave them to it” as some sort of punishment trying to stick it to your DH for getting a takeaway? Such an overreaction.

Sorry @Chocolatewarerfalls it did sound like you went to bed with her ie went up and didn’t come down rather than my turn to tuck her in.

@catmothertes1 Why is it sad?? We met a friend after school for a play and drink, came home had pasta with my daughter, then will put her to bed in a minute 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LorraineBainMcFly Exactly that, I’d we waited for Dh to get home and cook we’d be waiting a long time, my child would be hungry, plus he can’t cook

Yes, but I'm not sure why he has to eat the same. Communication rather than expectation would be a handy thing

Save leftover pizza for yourself for tomorrow, DH can cook whatever for him and DD tomorrow (or eat leftover pasta) and you eat the pizza.. I think that's what I'd be doing.

I'd be annoyed too, but in fairness, it sounds like a misunderstanding that he wouldn't back out of, if he makes a habit of not backing out / backing down against DD, there's really no point you taking an opposing stance on it in the moment, because if it means DD having a massive strop there really is no winner, you could have chewed his ear off about it later though and DD would be non the wiser.

Does he make a habit of letting her get her way / easy life sort of thing?

Why is it 'vile' the next day reheated but OK later that day reheated?

@Coffeerum ? I’m not going to leave them to it, I’m going to do her bedtime as usual as it’s my turn tonight

Instead of letting him be a child and cooking for him, let him get on with it and learn.

@GotMooMilk Thats ok, no worries

Cook yourself something nice tomorrow.

Serve them the pasta.

Oh completely agree @Lilithlogic he shouldn't have to eat the same, meant op is complaining about cooking but if she wants to eat when he's at work what else is there to do?

He is the child's father and is entitled to make decisions about her too. Sounds to me like he wanted pizza and as part of the pizza fun, the child went to collect the pizza with dad. Its not her double dinner, she might have a small amount, she's 5, shes not going to be sharing half a mega pizza. She'll probably have a bit and then go to bed nice and full up

All this talk from OP of 'disrespect', its like reading about the mafia or something.

OP you keep saying heated up pasta is not going to be eaten by anyone, so what was your OH going to eat tonight - heated up pasta surely?

A bit annoying but I also don't understand why they're going out to get takeaway pizza, defeats much of the point surely

Or don't serve them anything and let dh sort a meal out

I get it OP, I’m surprised so many don’t.

He should have fully expected that you’d cooked dinner for him, after all, you do it every single day.

He now gets pizza tonight, instead of tomorrow night, when you’d have had a night off cooking.

You can’t really justify pizza two nights in a row, so you - the one who cooks every single day - are the one who misses out.

You’re not saying he can’t have the pizza - you’re just saying, can we please have it tomorrow night, since there’s good food already prepared tonight, and I also get to enjoy it tomorrow night.

So, what’s now going to happen for dinner tomorrow night? He makes his own? And you get accused of being petty when you make something just for you and DD?

Nice.

Horses head on toast springs to mind

I wouldn't want to sit on my own eating pasta that's been made an hour ago- sounds grim. Could you not eat with him rather than with DD?

I wouldn't want to come home to a dish of pasta that had been left out for me. It sounds horrible.

@GodDammitCecil Thank you 🙏this is it. This, plus the horrible attitude from
my 5 year old who doesn’t speak to me like that normally

I also want pizza now 😂😂

i wonder how you cook your pasta that it can’t be eaten the next day? Do you eat it dry without a sauce?

And YABU and making a big deal over nothing really. Cooking pasta is hardly slaving away in the kitchen for hours.

@sandyhappypeople Its been happening a lot recently, I’m always the bad cop

So he didn’t know you’d made dinner, mentioned pizza as a nice idea, child heard and clearly now wants pizza. No one did anything wrong here…you’re just jealous as you’re full and he’s eating pizza!