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WWYD if you found high heels in your husband's car?

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ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 13/10/2023 17:51

If your husband told you he was going to a work related black tie ball with colleagues (happens a few times a year) and the following morning you found a pair of ladies high heels in a bag on the ground in the back of his car how would you react/what would you think?

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Nanaof1 · 13/10/2023 22:20

dannyufcfan · 13/10/2023 22:12

Drunk not angry.

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Aaahhh..thank you! I missed the ONE post of the OP where she said it was 5 years.

That makes the wife even more batshit crazy and a touch of nasty-azz-bitch to boot.
Five years and she's still upset? That's holding a grudge or working hard to stay offended.

OP--Glad you didn't go to the retirement party. Sounds like the wife needs some serious MH help.

Debini · 13/10/2023 22:25

Why wouldn’t you go? You’d done nothing wrong? You should’ve gone and held your head high.

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ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 13/10/2023 22:26

@Nanaof1 No idea if she's still mad. A colleague just sent the picture.

@Ducksinthebath Are you her? It's not mean, it's funny.

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GirlOfTudor · 13/10/2023 22:44

That he gave a colleague a lift. But why didn't you go to the event with him?

theduchessofspork · 13/10/2023 22:45

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 13/10/2023 22:00

Last update, I'm clearly missing a good night and colleagues are pissed. Just got a WhatsApp from with a picture of the wife from the ankles down with caption "Your shoes are way better!"

😁

Anyone with a half-solid relationship would assume someone getting a lift had left them. (Is there a woman on earth over 30 who doesn’t take flats to change into? No.)

So it’s about him them not you. I’m sure they’ll have a LOVELY retirement in each others company 24/7.

smithsinarazz · 13/10/2023 22:45

No helpful advice here, but... DH sometimes asks me questions to which I have a perfectly rational answer (i.e. "What's this small plastic thing in the cutlery drawer?") and despite the fact that I know it's not a loaded question, I can't help jumping. (Before you say anything, he's the nicest man in the world.) So do be careful how you put it.
Wouldn't someone who was cheating be a little more careful about leaving a trail behind him? I'd be inclined to suggest it's innocent just because it isn't hidden, IYSWIM. But in your place I'd certainly ask.

MariaLuna · 13/10/2023 22:46

Maybe gave a cross dresser a lift home. Maybe not.

You are with a man who you cannot communicate with?

I think a pair of shoes is the least of your worries.

smithsinarazz · 13/10/2023 23:07

Oh, hang on, I'm an idiot, just read the rest of the thread. Yes, the others are right. Your colleague's wife should **ing well give it a break and your colleague should stop giving you a hard time for an innocent mistake. You've done nothing wrong.

Whydoiwearsomuchleopardprint · 13/10/2023 23:30

DustyLee123 · 13/10/2023 17:52

As they are in a bag I’d assume he’d given someone a lift.

This!

Maray1967 · 13/10/2023 23:31

Mycatshandbag · 13/10/2023 17:53

That he dropped off a female colleague who swapped into comfie shoes and left her heels in the car by mistake.

This.

Notaggain · 13/10/2023 23:40

Flickersy · 13/10/2023 18:09

Why does everyone always assume the worst instead of thinking of all possible options? The amount of relationships where there seems to be zero trust and constant suspicion is quite shocking.

Unless he was missing all night or has been dodgy with his phone or came home smelling of another woman's perfume / with lipstick on his face, I'd guess he'd given someone a lift and just ask him.

Well, actually everyone hasn’t assumed the worst. If you’ve read the thread, you will see that most have thought that he has given someone a lift, the person who got the lift had taken her high heel shoes off and changed into other comfy footwear and forgot to take her high heels, when he dropped her off.

Just wondering what this says about you? You have automatically assumed that everyone assumed the worst, without actually reading that to be the case! Just your presumption (wrongly, I may add) that people are going to find this suspicious.

Really doesn’t paint YOU in a very nice light, does it?

JFDIYOLO · 14/10/2023 00:03

First I'd check the size.
Then ask him whose they are.

Changeling78 · 14/10/2023 00:24

Meh, you chose not to go. She has probably forgotten all about it. Sounds like you are holding on to it though?
I remember my friend saying that she’d deliberately left her belly button ring/bar thing in the car of her mate because she wanted his girlfriend to think he was cheating. She didn’t think they were suitable together (or probably she had feelings for him). People do stupid things.

Wanttobefree2 · 14/10/2023 00:36

She might also have dumped the shoes in the car for safe-keeping, I wouldn’t be concerned unless I had a reason to be worried

saythatagaintome · 14/10/2023 00:38
  1. I’d think he went dressed as a woman 😂
  2. I’d be questioning why he didn’t bring me to an event like that!?
smilesup · 14/10/2023 00:38

Nanaof1 · 13/10/2023 22:10

What the hell? She is batshit cray-cray (as my DGC would say). She's wearing your shoes? I don't understand.

Why are colleagues pissed and who are they pissed at?

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Surely being an Nana you know what pissed means!

junbean · 14/10/2023 00:54

First reaction is he gave someone a lift and they took their shoes off because they hurt, they were tipsy and forgot them.

Ducksinthebath · 14/10/2023 01:17

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 13/10/2023 22:26

@Nanaof1 No idea if she's still mad. A colleague just sent the picture.

@Ducksinthebath Are you her? It's not mean, it's funny.

No, I’m not. But I don’t find taking a sneaky picture of someone at a social event and sending it on to someone else to laugh at all that funny.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 14/10/2023 01:22

CaughtUpInYourWishingWell · 13/10/2023 17:52

Either a cheater or cross dressing. Probably the former.

Or he can't a colleague a lift and she forgot the shoes in the car.... There's more than 2 possible options.

Maddy70 · 14/10/2023 01:25

I'd assume he'd given a lift to a colleague

Isittimeformynapyet · 14/10/2023 01:41

@Flickersy
"Why does everyone always assume the worst instead of thinking of all possible options?"

Actually, all the responses before yours are from people assuming the best.

EliflurtleTripanInfinite · 14/10/2023 01:53

She's either batshit or he has form for cheating.

Fionaville · 14/10/2023 02:03

If he's already said that he gave a lift to a female colleague, I wouldn't give it too much thought. If he hasn't, I'd ask him him how the ball was. Did anybody get drunk and did he have to give any lifts.
It all depends on his answer to that question.

Blueink · 14/10/2023 02:12

I’d think the wife was batshit, sorry the working relationship never recovered and u missed a good night.

StarlightLime · 14/10/2023 02:17

It is a shame you missed the night because of this woman's nonsense, op.
I'd have gone without a second thought.