To ask What's the most pressing thing on your mind at the moment?

[girlfriend44]

What's happening in your life?
What's your most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it, if you can that is?

I have a couple of family biggies. But it’s mostly my brother who is in a bad patch with his mental health.

i manage by staying in contact. Focussing on my work. And getting outdoors. But if my phone rings at an odd time and it’s a family member I slightly panic until I know it’s not bad news.

My bloody ear. I'm very prone to outer ear infections.

Apart from that I'm trying not to let things worry me, I have a lot of work coming up I need to not get overwhelmed.

I have family members in both Tel Aviv and the West Bank.

Haven't heard from some of them since before the weekend.

I swing between not being able to distract myself from it and not wanting to.

Mumsnet scrolling, trying to work, trying to cook. Honestly today I returned to social media for the first time since Saturday and it was a mistake. It hit me like a tonne of bricks – I've just wanted to sleep all day.

Oh that must be such a worry for you natura. I really hope you hear from them soon.

Trying to find/buy/actually afford a house we actually like.

Distractions include doing extra hours at work. MN scrolling. Christmas planning. Basically just occupying my mind, because if it's not, I'm just on Rightmove constantly looking at the same old properties wondering why nothing is coming on the market and why we like nothing listed on there.

@girlfriend44 are you looking for a filler for a newspaper article? or can you share what's your 'most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it ?'

@natura I can't imagine what you're going through - let's pray that everything is okay with your family xx

Getting all my births to qualify as a midwife

Whether people I care about survive the night.

Whether my DC and DH will be safe to walk down the street tomorrow.

Whether to be alive or not

@natura my thoughts are with you and your family.

im worried about an interview I have tomorrow, and I’m being made redundant.

Upcoming mediation with dh's ex wife
My terrible acid reflux
Israel/Gaza
Dd2 who is doing well at the minute but who is showing signs of falling back of the rails.
The fact I need to lose two stone.

@natura it's a horrible, horrible situation. I hope your family members are ok.

Israel.

Israel.

Israel.

My mum is terminally ill. Can't really stop myself ruminating.

Thoughts with you Natura and anyone else who is on danger or who had family members at risk.

Are you ok, Iguess? Do you need to talk?

Thinking of you and yours, Natura. X

Finishing an assessment I started ages ago. My mind is so brainy foggy I feel like I'm walking through treacle.

The war in Gaza/Isreal. Its really upset me and I can't sleep.

Worrying about my kids.

My kids. Always my kids. Are they happy, healthy and thriving? And the same for my DH

That and the fact I think that society as a whole is crumbling before our eyes (Healthcare and education being a prime example) But that's too big a worry to focus on and it's out of my hands.

The daughter.
The leak.
The friend I'm losing.
The smoking.
The sex life.
The finances.

Take your pick. It's all weighs on me. Hence the smoking.

No.im not, do you ask everybody who posts questions the same thing?

Got a rejection after an interview today for a job that was literally perfect for me, including logistics and hours. Flopped the interview, recovering from a chest infection and had the heaviest day of my (heavy) period that day. Had four infections in the last month. Dental abscess is still there but can’t afford to go back as don’t have the form for free treatment sorted. Currently in insecure 0 hours work since being made redundant last Christmas and had no work for the last month. Single parent. Spend most of my time by myself, communication skills down the toilet. I don’t know how to interact with people anymore. Now have time but no money for any hobbies. Can’t do/finish degree as maxed out student finance. Feel like I’m losing brain cells by not using them enough. Can’t stop thinking about a solution.

My DS was close to submitting his UCAS application and has been certain what he wants to study for years. And today he tells me he's changed his mind. We've done the rounds of uni open days at great expense for possibly the wrong department! Super stressed & to add to it DH is constantly absent due to a busy period at work. Taking my mind off it with mindless TV!!

A good friend of DH died today. One minute a fit & healthy 38 year old, 24 hours after a catastrophic brain haemorrhage he's gone. A lovely lovely guy, can't stop thinking about his poor family. A couple of days ago I would have said DH. He's desperately unhappy at work and constantly stressed and irritable but isn't ready to start job hunting yet because we're nearing the end of our fixed term and he doesn't want to be in a probationary period job wise when we're taking on a new loan. This however is something that should work itself out in time and suddenly seems ridiculous. When I was going through a rough patch a few years ago I put up a "gratitude board" on my wall, listing things I thought I should focus on instead e.g. family still healthy, stable employment, that sort of thing. I also try to pause mentally by going for a walk say and focusing on the sound of birds singing taking along a coffee and trying to just experience my surroundings instead of worrying. Hope you're ok OP.

Whether to leave dh or not. I keep trying and trying but starting to think it's pointless

Distractions are walking the dog, throwing myself into my new business and stupidly I've started smoking again after more than 5 years off the cigs only one or two a day but I know where that ends up!