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girlfriend44 · 2023-10-12T19:17:46+00:00

What's happening in your life? What's your most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it, if you can that is?

CrackersCheeseAndWinePlease · 13/10/2023 06:15

My main worries at the moment are
: my eldest DD's mental health
: second DD's eating disorder
: money, or lack of

I have plenty of others but these are the main ones at the moment.
I distract myself by scrolling MN and throwing myself into work

shalva · 13/10/2023 06:19

So many,
my son in law who was called up to reserve duty and not knowing where he is.
my daughter trying to hold it together for our grandchilden
The parents of friends whose funeral for their 19 year old soldier son was this week
My dear dear friend who has had no contact with her child since saturday
Another daughter living close to central Israel with young children who has only left the house this week to run to the bomb shelter
The faces of the familes that have been evacuated to our small village from the troubled areas..
so much more to write but you get thet the picture..we are heartbroken, our souls are broken ...

flashbac · 13/10/2023 06:28

The (biased) media reporting on the conflict in the Middle East. The fact that some lives are more worthy of others.

PictureFrameWindow · 13/10/2023 06:36

Will I pass my probation and get to keep my job?
Will the builders do the front cladding properly? They have not done a good job on the side.

Why is the climate data so extreme for this month? What's causing the huge spike in heating?

How will the Israeli-Palestinian conflict ever end? The cycle of violence is horrifying.

Bearcub101 · 13/10/2023 06:47

I’m an over worrier, so currently have a lot:-

-Is my youngest son happy at university in his first year and away from home
-How am I going to finish the qualification I’m doing? It’s relentless
-Ukraine/Russia and Israel/Gaza so so many innocent people caught up
-a family members cancer diagnosis
-my parents health even though I’m low contact I still worry
-will my car get through the MOT without costing me a fortune
-nephews mental health and general well-being
-my mental health
-cost of living
-new work colleague who’s a ‘in my opinion…’ person

But a lot of my worries are insignificant compared to others.

How I keep my mind off things? Reading, watching box sets, going out for meals and days out with DP, lots of snuggles,
gym (though I’m finding harder with the dark mornings and evenings), cooking (just wish I had more money to cook more!)

Truthseeker456 · 13/10/2023 06:55

Poor children being killed in gaza

thishasnotmyweek · 13/10/2023 07:56

I’m mainly worrying now about

My friend who has been arrested in a foreign country for something stupid but serious and if they are okay / what is going to happen to them

How lonely my mum is and how it’s partly my fault because I moved away. What will happen when she needs help.

I’ve had an argument with my sister and I’m not sure it can be repaired, but I miss her :(

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:19

Preschoolmum78 · 12/10/2023 20:52

Got a rejection after an interview today for a job that was literally perfect for me, including logistics and hours. Flopped the interview, recovering from a chest infection and had the heaviest day of my (heavy) period that day. Had four infections in the last month. Dental abscess is still there but can’t afford to go back as don’t have the form for free treatment sorted. Currently in insecure 0 hours work since being made redundant last Christmas and had no work for the last month. Single parent. Spend most of my time by myself, communication skills down the toilet. I don’t know how to interact with people anymore. Now have time but no money for any hobbies. Can’t do/finish degree as maxed out student finance. Feel like I’m losing brain cells by not using them enough. Can’t stop thinking about a solution.

Sorry about your interview
Just want to say I hope you get sorted.
Keep at it.

Favouritefruits · 13/10/2023 09:21

I’ve just started a OU degree and I feel like a fraud! I feel so stupid and thick and wish I hadn’t started it, but I know it’s a lot of money so can’t waste the opportunity!

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:22

Hedjwitch · 12/10/2023 21:02

If I will be sick if I eat this entire bag of Galaxy Minstrels?

You will be fine
Go for it

MonikerBing · 13/10/2023 09:27

my to do list (long)
work
The Tories
The weather
Tidying the house
things breaking down in the house
dating
My weight
what I'm going to cook
the pets
my to do list
guilt about not exercising
GC stuff
where can I get rid of books
my daughter and her mental health
where shall I go on holiday next
which Christmas pyjamas shall I buy

That's a few things I've thought about this morning (as Iay in bed not doing anything!).

I find yoga, meditation and walking with loud music/podcasts on really helpful to distract me from my thoughts

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:37

If you'd asked me a week ago :

The sudden need to put a beloved relative into a care home.

My adult child's partner has decided they need some time apart.

This happened on the same day and floored me.

I have been having very intense dreams about being lost and trying to find my way home - so I guess it's all relative.

To distract myself, I've thrown myself into work.

Got outside - walking/ gardening
Played some of my favourite music while doing cooking / housework
Reading a good book in bed / watching some of my favourite series on sky / Netflix/ Disney.

It's hard to feel helpless but by recharging my batteries I will have the strength to do what needs to be done.

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:43

Kenwoodmixitup · 12/10/2023 21:58

On my mind - Empty nest - everyone has gone: children, parents, husband, dog, cat.

Good distractions- children thriving, parents and animals not in pain, husband doing what he needs to do; knitting, tele and about to retire; plans for retirement.

Challenge - the empty nest is a bit intense.

Empty nest is the worse.
I found gardening helped. (Or any hobby you're in to)
It's taken a long while (parenting is so rewarding) but now I can appreciate having time to myself - and enjoy the moments when they ring / visit me.

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:48

@FutureUncertain
This must be so hard

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:51

Lubrana061302 · 13/10/2023 01:36

We've just found out my husband has liver cancer and it's spread to his lung. He's 37 years old and we have 3 young children. 4, 5 & 6 years old.

Oh lovely
I'm so sorry

EasternStandard · 13/10/2023 09:51

The state of the world and current atrocities

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:54

shalva · 13/10/2023 06:19

So many,
my son in law who was called up to reserve duty and not knowing where he is.
my daughter trying to hold it together for our grandchilden
The parents of friends whose funeral for their 19 year old soldier son was this week
My dear dear friend who has had no contact with her child since saturday
Another daughter living close to central Israel with young children who has only left the house this week to run to the bomb shelter
The faces of the familes that have been evacuated to our small village from the troubled areas..
so much more to write but you get thet the picture..we are heartbroken, our souls are broken ...

I hear you

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:56

thishasnotmyweek · 13/10/2023 07:56

I’m mainly worrying now about

My friend who has been arrested in a foreign country for something stupid but serious and if they are okay / what is going to happen to them

How lonely my mum is and how it’s partly my fault because I moved away. What will happen when she needs help.

I’ve had an argument with my sister and I’m not sure it can be repaired, but I miss her :(

Please reach out to your sister ... I miss mine everyday

Goneforaride · 13/10/2023 10:06

DH's mounting health issues, hospital appointments and tests, waiting for results and more appointments to see what (if anything) can be done to help him. Getting him on board with helping himself by actually committing to doing the things the doctors are recommending. Feel like I'm climbing an endless spiral staircase!! Also, now my friends are starting to tell me I look skinny and washed out (I've dropped nearly a stone in the last year - and I was on the slim side before) ... but I'm not surprised. Worry and not sleeping adding up to incurable tiredness.

I get past it by walking my dog twice a day, as we're lucky to live in a nice rural area with good walks, meeting friends for coffee/lunch (I'm retired), trying to keep the house from getting too squalid, having an occasional G&T.

Thank you for starting this thread - it's been therapeutic just to rite that down.

C1N1C · 13/10/2023 10:09

Goldfishonabike · 12/10/2023 21:08

…most of us worry about our relationship, children and wars. Same as women have worried about through all
time. Wonder what a list would
look like for men?

Speaking as a man (as you indirectly 'asked')...

Unemployment is a big one. That fear of not being able to take care of the family... As I found out recently.

TurquoiseMermaid · 13/10/2023 15:28

My lovely kitten has a terminal illness.

There are much bigger things in the world but it's just so shitty. I have animals who are very elderly and still in perfect health who aren't really that friendly or cuddly, and it's just so so shit and unfair that the best pet I've ever seen, the most friendly, most loving, most affectionate little creature who just wants to be cuddled and sleep on my lap or in my hand every moment doesn't even get to celebrate her first birthday.

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girlfriend44 · 13/10/2023 17:53

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Validus · 13/10/2023 18:09

Whether DD1 will get one of the state schools she needs.
Linked to that, whether I have to continue in a job in starting to dislike for another 7 years to pay for private school.
Finding time for my degree.
Sorting the garden out.
Finishing building the bike shed.

Noleafclover1 · 13/10/2023 18:19

Climate change
Awful events in Israel and Palestine
The possibility of Trump getting in again

The implications of all the above for my children's future

Distractions - gym, work, scrolling Mumsnet...

Moveoverdarlin · 13/10/2023 18:22

Getting a job. I’m a SAHM at the moment and I really need to get back out there for my own sanity and our finances. But I’ve lost my confidence and think no one would want me.