To ask What's the most pressing thing on your mind at the moment?

[girlfriend44]

What's happening in your life?
What's your most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it, if you can that is?

On my mind - Empty nest - everyone has gone: children, parents, husband, dog, cat.

Good distractions- children thriving, parents and animals not in pain, husband doing what he needs to do; knitting, tele and about to retire; plans for retirement.

Challenge - the empty nest is a bit intense.

Please don't think that you shouldn't be. You are worthy.

bills to be paid
Daughter, her education/ future and terrible relationship we have
Wanting to divorce husband
My eldest son and his mental health
More bills
Happy times 😳

Getting organised for our October holiday tomorrow.
Whether my DCs will survive with my DM and DF for a week
How glad I am to get DD away from her friends for a bit, tween nastiness.
Work stuff as soon as I get back
My DS1's mental health with his exams coming up
The fact that DS2 with ASD has told me that after coming to the top of the waiting list, he won't even think about art therapy.
Israel/Palestine

Husbands happiness right now. Dog needs operation. Law suit pending.

Whether adult dd will ever be able to get on the property ladder.

my constant health anxiety made so much worse by bloody menopause.

my new line manager. Initially I thought she was nice but starting to realise she’s a bit of an arse and very patronising.

@Iguessyourestuckwithme

I feel so sad reading your post op

Why do you feel that way?
Is it a multitude of things weighing heavy right now?

Off on holiday next week and don't know where I put the passports.

How and when to tell my in-laws that I’m moving in with DP (DH died 3 years ago). How I’ve boxed myself into a corner with my career and although I love what I’m doing, it means I’m putting up with being treated pretty badly because I don’t know where I’d go next. How hard I’m finding it to find the energy to maintain friendships. How I’ve put on weight and I need to get it off again. How much I need to do in my new house and how little time I have to do it.

I distract myself with work, mostly, and then wake up at 4am every morning in spiralling panic. FUN.

My worries right now

Paying my tax bill

Playing catch up financially all the time even though we earn well our outgoings have gone thru the roof so I'm constantly doing sums in my head.

My parents stress levels dealing with an adult dd with severe mental health issues

Said sibling above and how things are going to end

I wrack my brain daily at least thinking there must be a solution somewhere somehow to take all that stress on my parents away but there's literally nothing

Having to lower a staff members hours in January due to soaring costs

Always worrying if my dc are happy and ok.

How I deal with it?

Unfortunately I'm a smoker which is ironically yet another worry of mine but I just don't seem to have the control or mental motivation to deal with ir right now

I have signed up to a local swimming pool which I haven't done for years but is something I really enjoy and it's helping me get fitter again

I listen to podcasts a lot

I spend a lot of my evenings cuddling my dogs

I'm waiting for some urgent gynae investigations which could be something but could also be nothing.

Currently not doing a good job at managing my anxiety around this!

Money or lack of, single mum working two jobs and coming out minus still every month. My son's bday is coming up and I just can't see how I'm spose to do it 😭😭😭can't even begin to think about Xmas. The thought of getting up again tomorrow to go to my job which I hate seems so pointless. I just want to lock myself away with my children and live in a little bubble with them I need a lotto win 😅😭

I have a small business that has struggled over the recent years and peaks at Christmas. Every year the run up to Christmas leaves me with so much anxiety and pressure and sleepless nights. On top of this my home is pretty much inhabitable and i've put on a lot of weight.

Hi have you tried applying for any extra benefits? Finding extra work from home? Try to stay strong.

So sorry you experienced this

DD16 and her significant mental breakdown- she has become a totally different person, can’t cope with me leaving the room, lots of paranoid delusions, Suicide ideation and attempts. So scared for her future (and if I’m honest mine). I really need to go back to work but can’t see how it will happen. Life feels very bleak right now. Also concerned for the impact on DS. Our lovely happy family of 4 seems to have collapsed.

Workload and DD health.
Been the same for years.

Have just moved 3000 miles to be with DH and I've realised after three weeks my new job takes the piss. Spoke to DH and I won't be completing my probation. Hopefully there won't be too many visa implications.

There's always about a million things in my mind but the main ones

My sons UCAS application and how best to advise him. Trying to keep myself informed so I can help but also not make decisions for him!

Situation with Hamas. Honestly I'm not watching too much about it. Maybe that makes me weak and selfish but my mental health has been very bad lately and I do appreciate this is a luxury I have to turn it off.

Israel

So much at the moment!

Horse stood on my foot Wednesday evening. I've had an X-ray and two bones are broken plus it's swollen something wicked - you won't believe how awkward/painful it is going for a pee or trying to take a shower on one foot.

I'm off work because I can't stand on it and the painkillers are making me feel sick.

My husband works in the aviation industry and is currently in the Middle East. He says everything is OK where he is and not to worry but I'll be glad when he's back on Monday.

Luckily the kids !!! ( 19,16 &14 ) seem to be organizing themselves quite happily.

Youngest’s career prospects.

DH’s terminal diagnosis.
Hoping he won’t suffer too much.
What will happen to me and DC.
How I will cope emotionally and financially.

I numb myself by endlessly scrolling on MN, Insta and TikTok.

The most pressing thing in my mind at the moment is getting my outfit together for my daughter's wedding in four weeks.