Just a cup

[Huromjuicemaker]

MIL lives nearby and sometimes comes over to our flat while we are out (with the excuse of) to drop off some eggs or washing we'd put on her line etc. While she is in she will potter a bit, have a cup of tea and wash anything in the bowl. She is just bored really and we don't mind.
Yesterday we couldn't find DH's favorite mug which I bought him as a gift, hand painted, not cheap china etc. MIL sent DH a message to say she'd accidentally broken it. He sounded annoyed but we agreed its not the end of the world. But I saw his messages later and their conversation went like this:
MIL. btw I broke your mug, i was washing up and it just slipped, sorry
DH. that's ok i didn't like it that much
MIL. worked out ok then!

Now I feel so betrayed, can't even look at him and don't want her in the house

Flicking her bean by the sounds of it.

Have you still got all the pieces? If the mug is really special you could get a kinsugi mending kit, obviously it won’t work as a mug again but could be used for pens or something.

Sounds like he told a white lie to spare your Mom's feelings and to stop her worrying.

The fact you are looking at his messages without you knowing.

Storm in a tea cup.

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I was being kinder than most of the comments on this thread. It’s a mean girls coach party outing.

By mending a cup? That’s a low bar for degradation!

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It’s a fucking mug 😂😂 honestly your being unreal let alone unreasonable!! He was trying to not make his mum feel like she was in trouble over an accident get a grip

I think it’s mostly just that you’ve seen a throwaway comment that wasn’t meant for you. Yes, not ideally worded if meant for you. But it doesn’t sound like it was.

Sounds like he was stuck between a rock and a hard place with 2 people whose feelings he appears to care about. and he has told both of you what he thought you each needed to hear.

Did he contradict himself a bit and say something to each of you that would make the other feel worse if they knew - yes. But doesn’t sound like it was done with malice. Sounds like he was just trying to save both your feelings.

And he walked this tightrope over a broken mug! Kudos to him for having the patience!

I don't agree that the OP would be degrading herself but I can see if she had to fish it out of the trash that someone might see it that way.

What you need to do is to hold your left wrist with your right hand and Get a Grip

Its just a cup...
No it's a fucking cup!
Who else can only hear this!
(Watch the goat video if you haven't already its great)

Imagine your utter disgust when you find out sometimes men lie when they say they like your nails/hair/outfit...
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Why would OP mend a cup that MIL broke and DH says he didn't like anyway?

I agree with pp, your suggestion is degrading to OP.

Can you link? Searching for it's just a up on YouTube brought up this New Zealand Women's refuge ad. Terrifying.

Get a grip and get a real problem. You're massively overreacting.

If anyone accidentally broke anything of mine, and owned up to it, then the only acceptable response in my opinion is "don't worry, it was nothing". You can't fix it or go back in time and why make someone feel bad over an accident? It's not like she was a child being careless with other people's belongings.

I would consider myself very fortunate if something so trivial as a broken mug was my biggest problem in a marriage!