Husband fed me a food he knows I have never eaten and never willingly will

[Anon39]

I came back from taking our son to training and as I walked back in my husband asked me if I wanted a sausage sandwich I immediately said yes

started eating it and he said do you know what those sausage are? And I replied in the negative and he started to chuckle and said “do you like it?” So my hackles were up I stopped eating and asked for the package of sausage

he started getting defensive and I just knew it was black pudding (which I do not eat and have never eaten and he knows how I feel I have no feelings if you do eat it and that’s not the point of my post)

I found the package and it was black pudding sausage I was so upset he knew I would never have willingly eaten black pudding. I feel so betrayed and I’ve ended up crying and he has basically told me to grow up and stop being so dramatic he can’t understand why I’m so upset

it’s not really about the food it’s about the breaking my trust I would never think to question him about what type of sausage they were because I trusted him

not to drip feed I am Autistic so I am aware I have issues around food

yes you’re being unreasonable and should have checked (after 20 years of marriage)
no - your partner deliberately betrayed your trust

It’s not a ‘different part of the pig’, it’s blood. Did you know that to eat it is against many religions - including Jehovah’s Witnesses and Judaism? And it doesn’t matter what the food is. It’s the principle. Everyone has the right to decide what they do and do not want to put into their bodies, and not be deceived into eating something they don’t want to. It’s not fussy eating, it’s a conscious decision and should be respected, not belittled and mocked.

YANBU, that was a dick move!
It doesn't matter what your reasoning, if there is something you don't want to eat then you shouldn't be tricked into eating it!
There are lots of things I don't eat for differing reasons. I also look after children for a living and follow various dietary requirements, I would never dream of feeding my vegetarian child meat just the same as I wouldn't feed my allergy children with something they are allergic to!

If you don't want to eat blood, don't eat meat. It's not rocket science @Rosscameasdoody

Im with you when it comes to black pudding (only ive tried it once and brought it back up straight away) this would be a case for divorce for me!!

i am with you

Exactly. It’s not just about trust/consent. It’s about ‘ick’.

Hugely overblown.

It is a sausage, get over it.

Omg that's absolutely awful. I got some veggie nuggets for me and my little man on Friday as a change the Heinz ones curried veg carrot and parsnip and a cauliflower cheese one. we are not veggie but they looked appealing and a change to the normal Friday fakeaway but I know my DP will not eat anything like this veg is not his thing but I didnt force them on him or wouldn't want to. Hes a grown adult and knows what he likes ECT.

I don't understand this, is eating or not eating black pudding a controversial thing in the UK?

He is a prick

Oh dear, now you're going to have to pee in his lager. Shame that

What he did was childish, stupid, and nasty, esp as he must now you have issues with food. He needs to say sorry (properly) , be sorry, and not do that sort of thing again. All the same, unless this is his regular MO, I would be careful not to make more of it than necessary.

Apparently… Weird, isn’t it?

He is a dickhead. Just go and rub his tootbrush all around rim of toilet, sorted. Do not tell him. He has got a kick out of this, is he always a dickhead and this is not funny. How are things in the relationship otherwise, does he think he is so clever and funny and tries to bring you down.

I wouldn’t say it’s controversial. It’s not weird though is it ? It’s a blood product and many people don’t want to eat it. Many people don’t eat it for religious reasons. It’s a personal choice.

It's a cheap and despicable joke at your expense. And it isn't funny. How would he like dog dirt in his shaving bowl just for a laugh? I'd have trouble coming back from this.

Its like marmite (love it or hate it)
Sorry this was a reply but it didnt quote, still learning on here.

Its like Marmite - love it or hate it

I bloody love black pudding so can’t see the issue if you’re a meat eater.

But it’s clearly a big deal to you and he should have been aware of it and reflected your food issues.

*respected

Depends on why you don’t eat it . If it’s a case of you being vegan and nit eating meat or similar then yes he is a idiot , if you are a picky eater and you convinced yourself it’s disgusting when you actually like it then it’s simple the same thing we do to kids to try and make others realise something is actually nice .

I don’t think it’s a massive betrayal by any means . Just tell him you are very disappointed

He’s a prick! And needs to grow up too!

Well… he didn’t do it because he respects you and wants you to be happy 🤔 so, I’d be wondering what he’s going to do next. He doesn’t get to decide that your feelings don’t matter.

My wonderful abusive ex-wife tricked me into eating lamb (which I can’t stand at all, not the smell or anything) a couple of times in order to prove that ‘I actually did like lamb and was just being a diva and pretending not to for attention.’ Her mother did it too- she made soup and gravy from lamb, put it in front of me and dared me not to eat it.

Vomiting later was supreme evidence of attention seeking. I heard ‘Why couldn’t you have married a PROPER man….?’ floating in from the kitchen…