The mum didn’t remember me.

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Weird, slightly awkward incident.

Dd started school last year, I saw a few mums at pick, exchange pleasantries etc, there isn’t really a big group of mum friends there, which I’m fine with as I have my friends outside of that, most of them with kids who Dd is friends with.
Dd had her birthday party at the end of the year, I invited all the class, lots came and it was a nice day. One of the mums I’ve said hi to came, my Dd likes her son, I chatted to her at the party, offered drinks etc, she was nice but didn’t join in massively, which is fine and I totally get it.
Saw her the last few days, said hi etc, then today my Dd wants to walk out with her Ds, they walk out holding hands which was very sweet, so we start to chat and then she asks if my dd started this year or if she was in school last year 🤷🏻‍♀️I was a bit surprised and confused and said that she was here last year.
Now I’m thinking I must be so unmemorable 😂how can you literally forget a person whose party you went to
Felt so awkward

I have memory problems and often don’t recognise people in a different context and I can forget events in my life. Don’t get me started on my anxiety about names, so it may well not be you aren’t memorable so much as they can’t remember you.

Op could you guarantee you would remember everyone you have ever spoken too yourself? I couldn't

Tbh I think this 'who are you' thing is a technique some people use when they don't want to be too friendly with someone.

May she have memory issues.many meds cause these or is she just very awkard

Op, is there a reason you’re still confused about this when every other post is explaining face blindness to you? Maybe you have a similar issue with reading comprehension?

I've spent my life pretending to know people. It's not you op.

I am awful at remembering names and faces. Seeing someone out of context, with a different haircut, wearing glasses or sunglasses or a hat really can bamboozle me. Getting into a conversation with a stranger and then realising that they know me has not been an unfrequent occurence in my life. I don't mean to be rude!

Not the same but I once had my DS's primary school teacher, who I thought I knew quite well, muddle me up with another mum. She grabbed me to talk about DS behaviour of some concern and, it was only when she mentioned his twin, I twigged that she had got it wrong - she was very red faced when I explained. The other mum had bright red hair (not my colour) and was physically disabled (had to use crutches) which I'm not - I was a bit surprised at her confusion!

I think it’s weird to not remember going to a party and not remembering the host or your child for that matter. She surely wouldn’t have changed that much .

I can't recognise faces. It's awful at the school gates.

This is a bit cancel the cheque. Is there a support group for this condition? It only hit me as an adult.

I think it’s weird to not remember going to a party and not remembering the host or your child for that matter.

Great, thanks.

Is there a support group for this condition? It only hit me as an adult.

Not that I've ever come across. Shame there isn't more support, as this affects people in day to day life! I'm definitely much more socially awkward because of it and will avoid people in gatherings just because I don't know who they are but know I should - it's embarrassing!

I do still find it weird

OP, really? Even though facial blindness has been quite clearly explained to you now? What are you not understanding?

Be reasonable - there are 29 other mums in the class and I expect that if she has other dc or has used other childcare settings then there are even more people in her mental register of ‘other mothers of kids same age as mine’. I find it hard to match faces to people, particularly out of context. I wouldn’t dwell on it.

I'm like this - I used to do Ann Summers parties, and I could tell you names of guests at a particular person's party and where they were sitting, maybe even their order, but I wouldn't be able to recognise them. I have ADHD and possible autism, and far from a PP saying about people taking pride in not bothering to remember details, I find it infuriating and embarrassing.

I’m face blind. I recognise people by hair styles, voice, mannerisms, the way they walk etc. Sometimes even by their car or something said in conversation. Even people I know quite well I’d struggle to pick out of a line up. I am quite good at the tiny signs so most people don’t realise. My close friends know as I’ve told them in case they think I’m acting odd sometimes 😂😂