To think having a marriage and kids and a FT job is just too hard

[JimRoyle]

I’m at breaking point. Argued with DH all evening over something pathetic. Just feel at all times like I’m exhausted, he’s exhausted, working 50hr weeks, never have time for each other. Snap at each other, life is just monotonous jobs, housework, being shattered. Feel like a worthless person who just exists to work and be a mother. I don’t bring anything to the world.

I can’t cope with it all anymore. I just want my relationship back.

These messages are making me cry, there’s so much solidarity out there and it makes me feel so much less alone. Thank you ❤️❤️

I took your advice and instead of watching telly last night we had a bottle of wine, played some games and chatted. It was absolutely what we needed and we wouldn’t have done it if Friday night wasn’t so awful so in a way it’s been what we needed to happen. Silver linings.

I’m confident we will get there. Best wishes to you all in the thick of it too. X

Just to add to the solidarity because I remember this stage very well, and it's so hard. I remember feeling I'd outgrown parenthood (it was such a long hard slog) long before my children had outgrown the need for my parenting.

They're in their 40's now, and we have a good relationship. We (my DH and I) eventually came out the other side to a much closer and happier place but we only got there by scheduling frequent special time together to have fun, which meant a regular babysitter and lifesaver occasional short breaks in a hotel to look forward to when Grandma came to stay.

We adored each other but really had to prioritise our marriage - not at the expense of the kids, but to ensure the stresses and misunderstandings that arise in any relationship were regularly aired and defused, so the family as a whole could thrive and continue to be a happy one.