To display a boudoir photograph with a child in the home?

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I ‘won’ one of those boudoir shoots and bought some pictures. It was just a bit of a fun, but the pictures are AMAZING. They honestly make me feel capable of anything and really brought home to me that everyday me isn’t all I can be. That with a little extra expertise and resource I can do something very, very different. It’s such a great concept to get my head around and apply in general. (Also, I look smoking hot and who doesn’t love that?!)

I really want to display some of the pictures. They aren’t tacky or sleazy. I’m wearing more that I was on the beach last month. Full Bra, brazillian pants, and a jacket in some shots. No stockings, thongs or bondage type undies. No handcuffs, but some hobby props (a hat and a book. Some pearls) She sees me naked all the time (but I respect her privacy however she prefers and I don’t brazenly wander about naked. We have dogs that open doors, it’s unavoidable, not deliberate or overtly liberal. She locks the bathroom, but will happily yell for me to get her a towel etc. All no big deal in an all girl household) But the pics are overtly sensual. I don’t have a partner and her father is permanently out of the picture for over than a decade. I do sometimes date and she knows about that in age appropriate detail.

My biggest concern is that she will connect it with my dating (which is fairly new and not unconnected in that both are because I feel more sexy than I have for years) but it’s not that dating leads to needing to change to be attractive for dates. It’s feeling more attractive and exploring that through dating AND how I present myself now I have a bit more freedom from lone parenting. How much do I share?! Is it creepy? Is it tacky, even though the pic itself isn’t? Or is it empowering and celebrating myself? (I could have one without my face in and make put it’s not me, but that seems even weirder!)

I’m not going to hang it in the sitting room, but she’ll see it often in my room. So will her friends as they come in and out of her room, because the only blank wall faces the door and our dogs open the door. We’ll have to have at least a chat about not telling my mother/all the neighbours/the greengrocer’s cat about it, what to say to her friends and not to let them photograph it! I just don’t think she’ll get it. I wouldn’t have got it at her age. (I wouldn’t have got it 12 months ago!). Is it unreasonable to expect her to get it with the right framing or should I wait? Until
when?!

All views welcome, but be polite! (Apologies for length, I’m thinking out loud)

I did a photo shoot a few years ago to celebrate something extremely positive in my life at the time. Wasn't a boudoir shoot but some of the pics are sexy. I also did pregnancy and newborn shoots with both my children. Some of the shots are implied nude.

I love them. They remind me of the happiness of the times and the positive experience of the shoot itself. I felt pretty doing them and I remember that feeling now when I look at them.

Some people can't understand this; that's their problem. Feel sorry for them. Imagine getting so angry and spiteful because a woman had some private photos taken that make her feel happy.

Those poses hurt. My core stability isn't amazing, but even so. Ow! Anyone who thinks it's just lighting and make up should try it or STFU.

You're off your trolley, OP.

Lol.

I've got a couple up in my bedroom - the one closer to the door is a pregnancy one, the more seductive one is in my walk-in wardrobe. The kids have never mentioned them. I do keep the door shut though - is there anything you could do to your door to stop the dogs opening it? I feel like you, I'd like them up as it makes me feel good about myself, and despite kids I'd still like a bit of space for myself.

Imagine getting so angry and spiteful because a woman had some private photos taken that make her feel happy.
Nobody is angry or spiteful and the OP wants to put her photo on public display.

Laughing at the fact that if you have no wish of having one of these boudoir photoshoots it means you are puritanical.

You have no idea what other posters are into or what their partners have photos of them doing.

There are posters getting angry but it's not the ones disagreeing with the OP.

It is more backward to have your teenage kid cringe every time they see it

I wasn't even really talking about the photos/pictures. I just get the sense you are dying for a bit of personal space and time to yourself.

I don't see why they have to be for men. I'm very sex-positive and body-positive, but I don't do things for the adoration of men.

OP, can you explain why you thought all the other women's photos weren't that great? I didn't think that was very kind.

twinset and pearls brigade
uptight
outraged
offended
puritanical
narrow minded
closed mind
sheltered little lives

U okay, hun?

@Wasjumpking there's a sex board?!

Great thanks love.

I'm happy, laughing with my mate and loving my life.

You?

How on earth are people looking at the last 25 pages and denying it?

Most of the comments are nothing to do with putting up the photo; they are just attacking OP for having done the shoot. And her own home isn't "public display".

And her own home isn't "public display".
Try telling her doggies that

Not laughing at your absolute lack of reading comprehension. I've never done a boudoir shoot either.

What's puritanical, as I clearly said, is being so offended by the very concept that you have to attack OP in the manner she's been subjected to for the last 28 pages and that some people are still, incredibly, denying has happened.

Why does the very thought of a boudoir shoot make people see posts that aren't there and not see 600 posts that are?

What?

I just asked the Husband if I should put a picture of me in sexy underwear posing seductively on the landing wall. He said I don't think your Son would be very happy.

I'm a swinger, but I've asked my teenage children not to tell their friends, because they know I do it, but only in the bedroom.

Or maybe that should be dogging.

OP you've literally said this is a flirty picture that 'showcases your sexyness'. This is not something that should be shared with a child.

i have a friend and his wife who do boudoir photography, and i have on occasion helped out with shoots (And had one done). They are empowering, and its amazing seeing the women glow during the shoots, and see the finished pictures afterwards (he's even done some portfolio shoots for lingerie models/won awards for them)

I think you have every right to display a picture in your own bedroom, but i do think it'll mean having a conversation about your room or even the upstairs in general, being off limits to people who aren't part of the household.

My bedroom door is always kept shut when we have guests, and my kids aren't allowed in there. While my kids are a smidge older than yours, i have artwork/paintings on display that are slightly more adult in nature and i dont feel that everyone who comes into the home needs to see how i choose to decorate my personal, private space.

Can't you just keep it on your phone to look at/save it as your wallpaper/screen saver?