To display a boudoir photograph with a child in the home?

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I ‘won’ one of those boudoir shoots and bought some pictures. It was just a bit of a fun, but the pictures are AMAZING. They honestly make me feel capable of anything and really brought home to me that everyday me isn’t all I can be. That with a little extra expertise and resource I can do something very, very different. It’s such a great concept to get my head around and apply in general. (Also, I look smoking hot and who doesn’t love that?!)

I really want to display some of the pictures. They aren’t tacky or sleazy. I’m wearing more that I was on the beach last month. Full Bra, brazillian pants, and a jacket in some shots. No stockings, thongs or bondage type undies. No handcuffs, but some hobby props (a hat and a book. Some pearls) She sees me naked all the time (but I respect her privacy however she prefers and I don’t brazenly wander about naked. We have dogs that open doors, it’s unavoidable, not deliberate or overtly liberal. She locks the bathroom, but will happily yell for me to get her a towel etc. All no big deal in an all girl household) But the pics are overtly sensual. I don’t have a partner and her father is permanently out of the picture for over than a decade. I do sometimes date and she knows about that in age appropriate detail.

My biggest concern is that she will connect it with my dating (which is fairly new and not unconnected in that both are because I feel more sexy than I have for years) but it’s not that dating leads to needing to change to be attractive for dates. It’s feeling more attractive and exploring that through dating AND how I present myself now I have a bit more freedom from lone parenting. How much do I share?! Is it creepy? Is it tacky, even though the pic itself isn’t? Or is it empowering and celebrating myself? (I could have one without my face in and make put it’s not me, but that seems even weirder!)

I’m not going to hang it in the sitting room, but she’ll see it often in my room. So will her friends as they come in and out of her room, because the only blank wall faces the door and our dogs open the door. We’ll have to have at least a chat about not telling my mother/all the neighbours/the greengrocer’s cat about it, what to say to her friends and not to let them photograph it! I just don’t think she’ll get it. I wouldn’t have got it at her age. (I wouldn’t have got it 12 months ago!). Is it unreasonable to expect her to get it with the right framing or should I wait? Until
when?!

All views welcome, but be polite! (Apologies for length, I’m thinking out loud)

Wow those photos really look nothing like the untouched photo. My husband wouldn't like that sort of thing because he would want me to look like me.

If I could pick I'd get someone to take outdoorsy action photos of me with amazing views in the background. They can make me look fresh, not like I just walked up a mountain. haha

Put them in a draw.
for someone to win as a prize??
🤣🤣

THIS.

As an aside ‘boudoir shoot’ is excruciatingly vommy - twee and euphemistic, but also somehow deeply creepy. Something that Alan Partridge’s sex people would say.

😂How did I miss this. So funny.

And so not needed.

Made me laugh. One of my favourite Alan Partridge episodes.

Those photos are cringe making.

This and your later post sum up the issues precisely. You're right about gas lighting.

The woman looked better in her dressing gown. I didn't think it was the same woman after.

They aren't for you.

They aren't for young teenage Daughters either or their mates.

For about the 12th time, that's a separate issue.

Although to be fair, it's the one OP asked about. So it's interesting that so many posters had to go on instead about how awful it is that some women do boudoir shoots even though they don't like them. Definitely a trigger in there for a lot of people.

Not a trigger for me. I honestly think women should do what ever they want to make them feel good. You can't stop people expressing that they wouldn't it and prefer more natural photos.

That women in the dressing gown is really pretty but is unrecognisable in the 2nd photo.

Not a trigger for me.

Mm hm.

😂

You are losing the argument and this all you can come up with.

Explain what you mean by triggering.

Can't wait for this......

Yes that one. Really? I honestly thought they were the same three women. Looks like a trip to Specsavers for me.

Tell me at least that they look alike? <cries>

Honestly, Paula, if you've been following the last 25 pages keenly - and we know you have - and you really truly have missed all the veiled and overt insults and irrelevant diatribes about how terrible boudoir photography is even though OP wasn't asking for opinions about that on literally every one of those 25 pages, then nothing I can say here will make it any easier for you.

I don't think you have, though.

Let's put it this way @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe if this was a court of law you would be a terrible witness

I would indeed, JaneJeffer. I would probably also be sitting in the wrong court waiting patiently to be called...

I think boudoir shots can look good on others, but as someone who hates looking on the mirror, and refuses to have any photos of myself on display, I think the contrast between looking halfway presentable and being the minger that I know myself to be would be too cruel. And as for my daughters or her friends seeing it, I wouldn't open myself or her to ridicule so that I could pretend not to be a minger.

You know, although boudoir shoots are very popular, there are lots of other options if you like the idea of having some nice photographs of yourself in a positive place but lingerie isn't your thing. Since boudoir is so popular, it does tend to be a bit generic...so many photographers would love the chance to do something a little more unusual.

You can have just plain portrait shoots where you are made up and posed nicely but it isn't sexualised, or photos of yourself doing some sort of activity that you enjoy. It isn't just about the aesthetic, as I keep saying... it's about expressing a certain part of yourself and having a photographic record of a positive experience.

Might not be for you, fair enough, but boudoir isn't the only option for nice photos that make you feel happy.

but boudoir isn't the only option for nice photos that make you feel happy.

Oh, so you can just get nice, normal photos done of yourself?

I’m fairly certain everyone who thinks the idea of ‘boudoir shots’ is cringe/funny is already in possession of this knowledge.