To think women who constantly say on social media they love being single don’t actually mean it

[TitusMoan]

… and often run off with the first man who asks them out?

There’s too much protesting with some people.

I was single (and celibate!) by choice for about 4 years and absolutely happy. I never posted about it on social media though so I can't speak for people that do 🤷🏻‍♀️

While I’ve been happily married for years.. I was also perfectly happy when I was single.

and to be honest: the more I hear of how so many men behave… I can completely understand why many women are happier being single

I know just one person like this. She’s very much a minority.

So YABU. Do you struggle to enjoy your own company OP?

@DorisTheRidgeback · Today 15:45

I agree.

Then when it all goes wrong they pop back up with “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” or something similar, followed by a quote about being a “strong woman”, usually accompanied by a photo of a wolf.

LOL! 😆

I agree in the sense that anything someone constantly spouts about on social media is usually as a way of aspiration as opposed to reality. But I do think some women are happy being single. They just don't mention it on social media.

I've been single for 4 years now and honestly i'm pretty fine with it. I'd never live with a man again and wouldn't want to give up all my free time to one. But i rarely get free time with work, household stuff and autistic DD.
I would like a sex life though.

Oh but i never put anything about it on SM except MN.

I think it can be a defensive thing. I have gone out of my way to emphasise my utmost satisfaction about being child free, but only around people who’d tend to make it clear how pitiable and half-lived my life is without children 😫.

The truth is, I’m generally happy and have no regrets but from time to time feel there’s something missing.

The ones who are over 35 and divorced usually mean it in my experience.

If MN is anything to go by, they're happier divorced!

I tend not to really believe anything I read on social media tbh.....

I’d have thought the fact that they’re single means they haven’t run off with the first guy who showed an interest! I’m no oil painting but I’ve finished two flings who would have been happy to stick around if I’d let them,
purely because I’d rather be single than with a crap man.

I’m still hoping to meet someone but in the meantime I have great friends, some single, some not, I have two “friend with benefit” guys who I can have sex with, go for dinner with, hang out having a chat and a cup of tea etc but just don’t want to settle with them long term, and I have a great job and 3
fantastic kids I’m proud of. Why wouldn’t I be happy with that?!

Same. I'm lonely but I'm lonely because nobody else seems to be single long term or wants to be. I just wish I had a bunch of friends where we have such a big thing in common.

Totally doable! I’m 49 and have a 40 year old hottie and a gorgeous 44 y/o who are both lovely guys, very good looking, but just not entirely relationship material, due to lifestyle and emotional availability. Met both through online dating a few years ago, and then kept in touch.

what’s the saying? “Dick is abundant and low value”, if you want a shag you can 100% get one. I was hesitant as I’d heard about men all wanting anal and choking etc these days. But these guys are both very respectful and decent, no sleaze, big emphasis on my pleasure etc. don’t believe the horror stories about Middle Aged men and sex! They’re just like us really, they want the closeness and fun too.

I agree, having single friends is a huge help. Luckily I met some neighbours on a Business course who happened to live nearby and be single, and it’s been such a help having people who understand to talk about it all. Smug marrieds don’t have a clue! Still, I wouldn’t swap with them.

Not me! Genuinely happy on my own for 12 years. Plenty of interest from guys. Not in the slightest bit interested. Life is good. I don't want or need anyone, and am not prepared to sacrifice any area of my life to make time for a guy.

Stop judging women, and projecting onto them and then judging them on your baseless projections. Mysogyny 101.

I'm the opposite. I'm very happily single and have no wish to ever live with a man again but I don't say this because people won't believe it or try and set me up woth someone. So I keep it to myself.

I would certainly say that the louder one shouts on social media about how great life is, the less likely reality is to reflect the posts.

See also: "boy done good" on Valentine's Day, when for the other 364 days it's a constant drip feed of moans.

After all, the more insecure you are, the more you feel the need to compensate.

I feel the same about older parents who claim they've done things the best by waiting and how wonderfully happy they are with every aspect of their life.

Maybe they are.
I was 41 when DD was born. I don't think that's the best for everyone but I've loved raising her. She's off to uni soon and, at 60, I've got lots of plans for the future.

T lots of women are very happy to be single. Some may say they are when they are not. Lots of women are perfectly happy in a relationship. Some may say they are when they are not.

lumping all single women together and making wild generalisations about all of them is clearly very silly

@BigPussyEnergy i'm 8 yrs older than you so it prob makes a difference. Also couldn't have men over

I believe loads of women are perfectly happy single. I know lots of women like this. Why wouldn’t we be? Not all of us measure our worth by whether or not we are attached to a man.

It’s just that so many women of my acquaintance say one thing on social media and behave another way in real life.

This is so well said.
Being single is not the problem, not having like-minded people around you is.
That’s the hardest part.

I had to learn to be good at being single.
I didn’t want to be one.
I always wanted a simple life, with loving kind husband, in a house near the forest.
But I’m strongly sex-repulsed, and no man wants somwone like me. I’ve been told many times.
One told me I’m ’useless for a man if I’m not gonna give p*y’, that destroyed my belief that love even exist.
So, in a way I am thankful for that man, it hurt at the time, but helped me to move on.
I mean why would I want a partnership if they can’t even ’love’ a woman if they can’t get p*y?

That being said.
I think op just wanted to hate on single women, it has been in fashion since, well forever.
I’ve never understood the hate and shaming that is aimed at single women. It’s always women. Never at men, why is that?
Hard to believe op/people like op are very happy in their own life, whatever that might look like.

I am single and this is definitely not the case for me. But then I don't post that kind of thing on social media. Being single is the least interesting thing about me. People are obsessed with being in relationships but there are pros and cons to every set up. People can be happy without being in a relationship though, wild theory I know....