However, men whose wives have affairs will typically direct most of
their anger to the woman anyway, (to the point of violence and even
murder in some cases) due to the belief that other men will try it, and
its up to the woman to refuse. So I suppose misogyny will factor to an
extent.
I don't agree, the majority of women I've known who have had affairs either have cuckholds as husbands who are willing to forgive, or they have alpha males who inflict punishment on the om.
In my case the ow's husband had my h beaten up, he was a wealthy man who's pride had been hurt, believe me he hated my h.
The misogyny requires them to be viewed as equally if not more wrong than the men lying and breaking their vows.
Again I disagree, men will blame om and women will blame ow. Younger alpha men talk of the bro code and run in packs, if someone is known to have hurt their friends, they exact punishment. Younger women also have each others backs when infedelity is found out within their circles.
Marriage and later years with children throw a different sphere of support, extended families and children will actively hate the ow or om, both sexes are hated.
As for OW being misogynist, as you suggest in your later post, there may
be some cases where internalised misogyny plays a part, manifesting in
the desire to compete with another woman for a man. But in most cases,
the OW is not motivated by hatred for the spouse, who is likely fairly
irrelevant to her.
I suppose I agree partially with this, but in many cases I would say a wife is known to the ow, be it personally of just by hearsay, they will amass information about the wife, social media, from friends of the couple, colleauges of the lover, it's usually a capaign of information to possition themselves effectively. I agree, they don't give a fuck about how the wife feels, there seems to be a lack of empathy which enables them to switch off for their own selfish wants, just as the men do.
Neither one of their actions of ignoring the pain and suffering of others is a polite thing to do.
I have empathy, I wouldn't intentionally harm someone even if I didn't know them personally, would you ?
All this crap really about women just enjoying sex for the sex of it like men, I personally think is rubbish, no matter what sphere or situation, if a woman is willing to have an affair then she has thought about making a new choice for herself, a different life, an exit, a better financial possition, a fitter body to gaze at, a stronger male for genetic reproduction, someone to emotionally allow her precedence and priority, a rise in status.
More so than a man who are fully capable of having an affair and dumping them.
Women very much think of their advantages more than men I would say, and I would say women's desire is far more pre meditated than mens.
Women think more carefully about their sexual partners than men do, I suppose that's what hurts, the vetting process that wives used to father their children is being played out by another woman but on someone who already has children and a family, namely their husband, it makes no sense to many women that another woman could be happy to contribute to a family break up.
To me he would be seen as faulty male, a poor specimen, not something to fight over, a defunked man who has failed in the upbringing of his children and ruined their success to thrive.