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Lost my cool with school run mum

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Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:18

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

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WorseDecision · 15/09/2023 10:32

Do it, slash her tyres. 😂

I would park yours or your husbands car across the driveway on the path at school run times. She'll soon find somewhere else to park.

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MsFogi · 15/09/2023 10:33

Take her reg and call the school every single time she parks on your drive (and keep calling until it becomes easier for them to deal with her than to keep taking your calls).

WorseDecision · 15/09/2023 10:33

Or ring the school and ask them to send out a message about blocking residents driveways. I used to live next to a school and that's what we did. Problem was solved.

TawnyLarue · 15/09/2023 10:33

Is she just doing it to annoy you at this point!?

I’d shame the twat on Facebook tbh.

MintsPi · 15/09/2023 10:33

Park across your drive. This is the only thing that will stop it. There is a house right next to my daughter's school that parents constantly park in front of blocking it. The school reguarly post about parking on the school newsletter. It gets ignored. They send round pcso's. That sometimes puts off one parent if they get 'told off' but other parents still park there. The owner put cones out at one point (I believe that might be illegal but I don't blame them) which worked briefly.

Notes about being a nurse won't make a difference. They know they are blocking you in but their time is more important so they won't care. The type of person who does this sort of thing does not care about others.

Stroopwaffels · 15/09/2023 10:33

I feel your pain, we live very close to a school and a lot of the parents park like twats. Their only concern is to get as close to the school gate as humanly possible, they don't care about local residents.

I think appealing to the school will have limited effect in my experience, all they can do is ask nicely to consider local residents when parking. Cheeky fucker parents will not geed their polite requests. Photographs and reporting to the police is the only option.

(And before anyone starts, yes the school was here when we moved house. But the roll has doubled since we lived here and what was once not a problem, now is)

edited to change spelling.

JudgeJ · 15/09/2023 10:34

Dizzydahlias · 15/09/2023 10:21

Have you mentioned it to the school yet? Perhaps they can arrange a traffic warden to patrol.

Oh yes, because they've nothing better to do! It's a policing matter. Take photos of her, her car parked across your drive and post on local social media.

VeridicalVagabond · 15/09/2023 10:34

Someone did this to my aunt many years ago, she's a midwife. She'd asked them politely not to block her drive many times, had a bit of a spat with them, reported it to the school etc. The woman never stopped.

One particularly warm and muggy day my aunt marched out and poured two tins of oxtail soup through her sunroof.

I'm not saying do that, but to be fair it worked.

ohhnoo · 15/09/2023 10:34

If there's one job in the world that deserves the worker to get there on time without stress it's your job
If I were you, I would have opened her car door the 2nd time and made sure she understood
The 3rd time I'd have made a scene

pinkyredrose · 15/09/2023 10:35

She's a fucking entitled bitch. Report her to the school.

Can you park over your drive yourself sp that she can't park there?

Needmorelego · 15/09/2023 10:35

@WhateverMate oh I didn't know that about cones. Still a really really BIG sign should be put up.

JudgeJ · 15/09/2023 10:35

VeridicalVagabond · 15/09/2023 10:34

Someone did this to my aunt many years ago, she's a midwife. She'd asked them politely not to block her drive many times, had a bit of a spat with them, reported it to the school etc. The woman never stopped.

One particularly warm and muggy day my aunt marched out and poured two tins of oxtail soup through her sunroof.

I'm not saying do that, but to be fair it worked.

If your aunt needs a witness..................................

Confuddledandmuddled · 15/09/2023 10:35

Email your local PCSO with a pic. If you go on your local police website you can normally pop your postcode in and see who covers your area. They absolutely would deal with this - entitled cow 🙄. Also as people say notify the school with her details 👍 x

teenysaladandsniffofarose · 15/09/2023 10:37

VeridicalVagabond · 15/09/2023 10:34

Someone did this to my aunt many years ago, she's a midwife. She'd asked them politely not to block her drive many times, had a bit of a spat with them, reported it to the school etc. The woman never stopped.

One particularly warm and muggy day my aunt marched out and poured two tins of oxtail soup through her sunroof.

I'm not saying do that, but to be fair it worked.

I like the sound of your aunt🤣

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Eyesofdisarray · 15/09/2023 10:38

VeridicalVagabond · 15/09/2023 10:34

Someone did this to my aunt many years ago, she's a midwife. She'd asked them politely not to block her drive many times, had a bit of a spat with them, reported it to the school etc. The woman never stopped.

One particularly warm and muggy day my aunt marched out and poured two tins of oxtail soup through her sunroof.

I'm not saying do that, but to be fair it worked.

Love that, reminds me of a Better Caul Saul. It wasn't soup though..

DoDoDoD · 15/09/2023 10:38

MintsPi · 15/09/2023 10:33

Park across your drive. This is the only thing that will stop it. There is a house right next to my daughter's school that parents constantly park in front of blocking it. The school reguarly post about parking on the school newsletter. It gets ignored. They send round pcso's. That sometimes puts off one parent if they get 'told off' but other parents still park there. The owner put cones out at one point (I believe that might be illegal but I don't blame them) which worked briefly.

Notes about being a nurse won't make a difference. They know they are blocking you in but their time is more important so they won't care. The type of person who does this sort of thing does not care about others.

But the OP said it's also when she's trying to drive into her own drive after a night shift

Eyesofdisarray · 15/09/2023 10:38

*Should say Better Call Saul anecdote

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Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:39

Thank you so much for the good advice. There’s lots of things you’ve mentioned that I haven’t tried so that’s what I will do next. Plus you’ve all made me feel better about my burst of anger. Thank you! X

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Dizzydahlias · 15/09/2023 10:40

JudgeJ · 15/09/2023 10:34

Oh yes, because they've nothing better to do! It's a policing matter. Take photos of her, her car parked across your drive and post on local social media.

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All schools my children have been to have tried to help local residents with parking issues. Sometimes the staff stand on the street making sure that parents aren’t blocking driveways. They also send reminders in news letters.

Meeting · 15/09/2023 10:40

Some excellent advice here, definitely within your rights if it's the same woman doing it after repeatedly being asked not to.

Minfilia · 15/09/2023 10:40

Agree that contacting the school is the way forward. We get communications on poor parent parking every term!

You could report to the police but chances are they won’t do anything.

Personally after reporting to the school I’d take photos and post them on the local Facebook group and WhatsApp chats. Then I’d park across my own drive to stop the CF parking there anymore.

Ireallydontwantto · 15/09/2023 10:41

Needmorelego · 15/09/2023 10:24

Email the school so they can put in their newsletter telling people not to park inappropriately.
Get cones to put across your drive with a giant sign saying "Access needed at all times. Emergency nurse on call. DO NOT BLOCK THIS DRIVE"
(Actually put the whole thing in capitals).
Make the sign HUGE.

Love this!! Yeah make it dazzlingly obvious, cones, signs, hazard tape the whole 9 yards! Photos on fb ect
Good luck, keep us updated

Frosty1000 · 15/09/2023 10:42

Definitely let the school know and I'd also drop into the message about her attitude towards you as that was uncalled for. I'd also look at getting some cones to put outside 🤣