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Woken in hotel room

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Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

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justanothermanicmonday1 · 11/09/2023 02:17

Definitely your own room next time. 9am isn't late for a long lie when you didn't get to sleep until 4am lol. It wouldn't irritate me this much, however I would told her there and then to take it outside and gone back to sleep.

NowWhattt · 11/09/2023 02:27

ShowOfHands · 09/09/2023 12:09

It simply doesn't matter for some people. If the sun's up, my Mum's up. Doesn't matter when she went to bed. My brother and I like to go on holiday with her but learned the hard way that we get separate accommodation. The second it's morning in her mind, she starts flinging curtains open, cranking up the radio, bashing about in the kitchen.

We get separate cottages now.

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My sister is like that. Fuck everyone else- she’s up and that’s all there is to it.

JanglingJack · 11/09/2023 02:33

Premier Inn?

I didn't even get under the covers of that lovely bed before my my brother was knocking on the at 9 to see if I was ready for breakfast. Fuck off am I. It's unlimited - eat mine!

Boredombeckons · 11/09/2023 05:37

KateKateLee · 10/09/2023 21:07

Why? What did I miss?

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Not that you have to, but seriously, wouldn't it have been easier and faster to click read all than type a whole new reply?

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 07:10

The day is half gone by nine o’clock. You can’t expect everyone to tiptoe around past a certain time, life is going on

bluejumping · 11/09/2023 07:16

This would have pissed me off too

who calls their husband at 9am anyway? Just a text at that
time. Or go into the bathroom

rude

AuntieEsther · 11/09/2023 07:52

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 07:10

The day is half gone by nine o’clock. You can’t expect everyone to tiptoe around past a certain time, life is going on

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

T1Dmama · 11/09/2023 08:43

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 07:10

The day is half gone by nine o’clock. You can’t expect everyone to tiptoe around past a certain time, life is going on

Half gone at 9am when they didn’t get in from drinking till 4am? 😂 are you for real? The only people who the day is ‘half gone’ for at 9am is farmers!
OP says she’s usually up at 6am but after a late night out was just hoping for lay in! That really isn’t unreasonable and her friend was rude!

T1Dmama · 11/09/2023 08:51

If she invites you to go away again I’d be putting in ground rules….
I would literally say ‘if we’re staying out late can we please agree phones are on silent and we don’t wake each other before 10am?? I’d tell her you really want a lay in and expect not to be woken! I wouldn’t say anything this time as it’s too late now, but if plans are made again I would…. Unless you can afford your own room, but that makes it an expensive couple of nights!
I do think at the time I would’ve told her to shut up though!…. But I’d have been too cross to go back to sleep probably. Was the other friend annoyed too?

MargotBamborough · 11/09/2023 08:57

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 07:10

The day is half gone by nine o’clock. You can’t expect everyone to tiptoe around past a certain time, life is going on

What specifically do you think is going on before 9am in a hotel room occupied by three people who were out drinking until 4am?

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 09:12

In response, fair enough having a lie in, of course, but there comes a time when the day needs to start for some, and if , like plenty if others have said, you choose to share a room with others, you can't expect everyone to have the same ideas/freedoms (even if only temporarily)/norms/expectations as you do. Of course I'm coming from my perspective, but I'm aware that life is short and posting about only getting a little lie-in rather than a long one seems a bit of a shame. I'm genuinely sorry the OP didn't get what she hoped for, but life's like that. If you pay for a room on your own and get woken by the hotel staff, different matter.

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 09:18

blahblahblah1654 · 10/09/2023 22:31

Why would you share a room with 2 other people and expect to sleep past 9? It sounds like they were considerate enough to not phone earlier. I would hate to share a hotel room with anyone other than my DH.

Quite

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 09:19

Mariposista · 10/09/2023 21:08

Tbf of sleep is a priority on a trip, don’t stay out until 4am

😂

MargotBamborough · 11/09/2023 09:21

midlifemaid · 11/09/2023 09:12

In response, fair enough having a lie in, of course, but there comes a time when the day needs to start for some, and if , like plenty if others have said, you choose to share a room with others, you can't expect everyone to have the same ideas/freedoms (even if only temporarily)/norms/expectations as you do. Of course I'm coming from my perspective, but I'm aware that life is short and posting about only getting a little lie-in rather than a long one seems a bit of a shame. I'm genuinely sorry the OP didn't get what she hoped for, but life's like that. If you pay for a room on your own and get woken by the hotel staff, different matter.

Right, but you can start your day without needing to wake other people up who are clearly still sleeping. She could have made her phone call in the bathroom or even, you know, texted her husband.

Making a phone call in a room where people are sleeping is just rude. It doesn't matter whether you think they need to get up and start their day because it's 9am. If they thought they needed to get up and start their day by 9am they would have set their alarms for 9am.

Purpleturtle45 · 12/09/2023 09:00

I don't think you are being unreasonable. I would never do that if someone I was sharing a room with was still sleeping no matter what the time.

SamW98 · 12/09/2023 09:08

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all but I’m not a morning person and being woken up before I’m ready really makes me grumpy.
Ive shared with friends many times and we respect each others different sleep patterns. My lark friends have a quiet shower and slip out to breakfast barely making a sound and is night owls tiptoe into bed without waking the others.

Ita really not difficult to respect others body clocks and act accordingly. Making a phone call while someone else is asleep is rude IMO. My early waking friends would have probably gone to breakfast and chatted on phone outside

Onionsandplaydoh · 12/09/2023 09:32

I never sleep well in a hotel and definitely not if I was sharing with 2 others. 9am is a dream of a lie-in though!

Katbum · 12/09/2023 12:06

YABU - 9am is a lie in for
most people. If you wanted a nice long sleep into the late morning you should have booked your own room. Or at least told your friends. However, what are they supposed to be silent for hours after waking? 9am to check in on kids and get ready for the day seems fine.

SamW98 · 12/09/2023 12:17

MargotBamborough · 11/09/2023 08:57

What specifically do you think is going on before 9am in a hotel room occupied by three people who were out drinking until 4am?

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When me and my friends went away in March we fell into bed about 4am Saturday morning and first one surfaced about 11. She sat on balcony with a cuppa until the rest of us emerged - the 4th and final one being just after 1 🤣

Sunday morning, 2 of us were awake early (for us) at about 10.30 so we sloped out and had breakfast and left the other two asleep.

How difficult is it to be considerate to people who are asleep and who actually realise half the dsy hasn’t gone until midday? 😀

MrsB74 · 12/09/2023 12:34

LittleMissUnreasonable · 09/09/2023 12:09

Also on MN, 7am is a lie in and most people have done 3 loads of washing, and made a week's worth of meals for the slow cooker by then, so answers may be skewed

So true 😂

Jitterybugs · 12/09/2023 14:55

If I’d been on a night out and had a fair bit to drink I’d have been down in the hotel dining room for 9 hoping for a big fry up 😋

RichardMarxisinnocent · 12/09/2023 19:08

Onionsandplaydoh · 12/09/2023 09:32

I never sleep well in a hotel and definitely not if I was sharing with 2 others. 9am is a dream of a lie-in though!

5 hours of sleep is a nice long lie in?

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 12/09/2023 19:14

RichardMarxisinnocent · 12/09/2023 19:08

5 hours of sleep is a nice long lie in?

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On mumsnet it is! Also, as has been said, why oh WHY are people not getting that the OP didn't go to bed til around 4am? So, being rudely awakened at 9am IS too early.

SO many people work different hours and different shifts. It's incredibly ignorant and narrow-minded to say anyone who sleeps past 9am is lazy, and that it's a lie in! Hmm

Delatron · 12/09/2023 19:25

I think there was a bit of a ‘I’m
awake therefore you all shall be’ vibe from your friend. Which is out of order.

My body clock is stuck so I’d wake early in that situation but I just lie there and try and get back to sleep/rest until others stir. I wouldn’t dream of waking my friends up by having a phone call!

You could have had another half hour sleep at least. As it was 5 hours sleep
means the second day of your holiday would be affected.

I tend to just book separate rooms these days as I’m such a light sleeper. 3 people all in one room is tricky!

SamW98 · 12/09/2023 19:37

MrsB74 · 12/09/2023 12:34

So true 😂

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And anyone in bed after about 7am is lazy, probably unemployed and must have MH problems.

Had anyone mentioned ASD/ADHD yet?