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Woken in hotel room

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Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

OP posts:
Original poster
Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 19:05

Does the hotel actually allow 3 adults in 1 room?

Yes, hotels allow 3 adults in one room!

OP posts:
inthvalley · 09/09/2023 19:50

And the second lesson to learn, rolling in at 3-4am is NEVER going to be conducive to a long, luxurious sleep.

Definitely this! Going to bed at that time I'd fully expect to feel like shit regardless of what time I woke the next day.

inthvalley · 09/09/2023 19:50

Oh and I always want my own room. Always.

LuciferRising · 09/09/2023 19:59

OP you're clearly very lazy for wanting to sleep in beyond 9am. Don't you know marvellous MNs have ran a marathon by then?

Cherrysoup · 09/09/2023 20:04

She was very unreasonable to make/take a call when you two were still asleep. Selfish.

mydogspooeybum · 09/09/2023 20:51

YABU. Don't go away with others then

Missingmyusername · 09/09/2023 20:54

Cosyblankets · 09/09/2023 12:16

Was no one having breakfast?

My first thought 🤣 but seriously- shared room! Forget that lie on….

greyhairnomore · 09/09/2023 23:03

LovesJaffaCakes · 09/09/2023 17:39

I just think it's pretty weird that 3 women (who must be late 20s or older?) shared a double bed, and 1 in a single bed in one room.
Was this a family room? (the clue is in the name.)

Why on earth did you all choose to do that @Dyinforaliein ? To save money?

Does the hotel actually allow 3 adults in 1 room? Usually 3-beds are two parents and a child.

Not weird at all. Lots of hotels have triple rooms.

greyhairnomore · 09/09/2023 23:04

@Dyinforaliein regardless of the time, it's rude to talk when people are asleep. You need your own room next time.

melj1213 · 09/09/2023 23:05

YANBU

Regardless of the time - whether it was 3am, 9am or noon - if two people are sleeping then you do not start a phone call that is probably going to disturb the other people from sleep, it's just inconsiderate.

Having said that, I'm surprised you hadn't discussed plans for the morning beforehand. Whenever I go away with friends or my sister/cousins, if we are away for more than one night then we are more than likely going to have plans for the middle day - whether it's that we are at a spa hotel and have afternoon tea/spa treatments planned; a theatre weekend where we have lunch reservations and matinee tickets etc; or just a stay in a fancy hotel with nothing specific planned - so we'd still discuss morning/breakfast plans even if it's just "Is anyone setting an alarm/What time should we set the alarm for in the morning?" so we can decide the general idea of the time everyone wants to get up and usually agree that early birds will either chill quietly in the room, scrolling socials or get up and take themselves to breakfast while they wait for us late risers but either way they won't purposely wake the others up.

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 23:23

OK so it's Premier Inn, not a Hotel then. I guess there check out times are much later then.

Frazzledmummy123 · 09/09/2023 23:32

As others have said, I don't think 9am was being unreasonable and when sharing with 2 others, I'd not assume a lie in.

At least you got some sleep, I once went away overnight with 2 friends and shared a room, with some hope of a lie in. I didn't even sleep.as both of them snored loudly the entire night and it was horrendous!

RichardMarxisinnocent · 10/09/2023 00:13

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 23:23

OK so it's Premier Inn, not a Hotel then. I guess there check out times are much later then.

Since when was a Premier Inn not a hotel? I have just checked checkout time for the Savoy hotel in London, which I trust you'll agree definitely is a hotel, and it also has a 12pm checkout time.

TastingSinister · 10/09/2023 07:42

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 23:23

OK so it's Premier Inn, not a Hotel then. I guess there check out times are much later then.

What do you think a Premier Inn is then?

Is a Hotel something different?

Sayitaintso33 · 10/09/2023 08:03

Unforgivably rude to talk on the phone when others are sleeping in a shared bedroom.

Sceptre86 · 10/09/2023 08:04

It's like the posters completely missed that you only got in at 3 or 4am. Of course yanbu she was rude but the time to say something has passed. If she mentions going away again say you'll book your own room as you don't fancy waking after5-6 hours of sleep. She should have text her dh instead. I can understand the still feeling pissed off though.

@ReadingSoManyThreads I agree. A great example of one person saying 9am is late despite completely ignoring op didn't get in till 3-4am and the next however many posters jump on the bandwagon.

CasperGutman · 10/09/2023 08:11

You were, perhaps, slightly unreasonable to expect a bigger lie in than this when sharing with two friends. But that pales compared to your friend's unreasonableness at chatting away when you were both trying to sleep. That's just rude. She should have made an effort to avoid disturbing you. Even shutting herself in the en suite would have helped - and just as importantly it would have been respectful to the needs of the other people sharing the room.

For context, I'm an early riser. It doesn't really seem to matter what time I go to bed, I'll wake at about 06:30 just the same. But that's irrelevant. You just don't conduct a conversation in a room where two other people are sleeping.

AuntieEsther · 10/09/2023 08:11

YANBU!
it doesn't matter if it was 7am or 11am, it was selfish and dickish of her to have a phone call when you were both still asleep.

KittensandPerverts · 10/09/2023 08:18

I'm away with girls at the moment. Regardless of what time I go to bed once I wake up (today was 6am for a wee) I'm awake. While 9am is late for me I wouldn't dream of making a noise. I have showered, dressed in the bathroom and am now sitting outside on this beautiful morning with a coffee. They'll be up when they're ready.

Qilin · 10/09/2023 08:35

Well I certainly wouldn't be in the phone talking when other people near to me were asleep. That's just impolite. You'd just text.

9am isn't a lie in if you've not got to bed til 4am.

Qilin · 10/09/2023 08:44

LovesJaffaCakes · 09/09/2023 17:39

I just think it's pretty weird that 3 women (who must be late 20s or older?) shared a double bed, and 1 in a single bed in one room.
Was this a family room? (the clue is in the name.)

Why on earth did you all choose to do that @Dyinforaliein ? To save money?

Does the hotel actually allow 3 adults in 1 room? Usually 3-beds are two parents and a child.

Lots of hotels allow 3 in a room, in the uk and abroad.
You end up saving half the accommodation costs, despite all still getting a proper bed.

We do it often, dd is 21y. Means we get much more for our money when away. Dd is more than happy to share if she gets to have a free holiday/break.

Dd and her friends often book a room for 3/4 people to share. Again, it can save plenty of money.

Even in a premier inn, if you online up, they'll let you book more than 2 adults in a room. Sometimes they just tell you to put one down as a 'child' but no one actually checks/cares if said 'child' turns out to be an adult.

Qilin · 10/09/2023 08:47

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 23:23

OK so it's Premier Inn, not a Hotel then. I guess there check out times are much later then.

Since when was a PI not a hotel? You best call them up and let them know, as they are clearly misnaming themselves online: https://www.premierinn.com/gb/en/home.html

I mean I've stayed in hotels of all qualities for 2 star to 5+ star. Regardless of their check out time they've still been a hotel Hmm

And they weren't checking out that day anyway, so the check out time was irrelevant.

FettleOfKish · 10/09/2023 11:12

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 23:23

OK so it's Premier Inn, not a Hotel then. I guess there check out times are much later then.

A) Premier Inn is a hotel

B) A big part of my job is working with hotels, and the majority these days have 12noon check out. Just the odd smaller family owned place that insists on 11am.

C) The OP wasn't checking out anyway.

toomuchforonewoman · 10/09/2023 18:36

I would be really really really really pissed off.

DandDoodlz67 · 10/09/2023 19:14

I would think 9am was a long lie in lol but I do have a very young child!
however I think it was selfish of her to do that when you’re both asleep and she could have gone out if she was awake to take the phone call!