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Original poster

Woken in hotel room

262 replies

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

OP posts:
Zerosleep · 10/09/2023 19:21

It would have annoyed the hell out of me at any time I was still asleep, thoughtless

Boredombeckons · 10/09/2023 19:55

I can still easily sleep till 1pm, hell 3pm even, after a late night out. That said many of my friends and partner have aged out of this since uni - even if they hit the sack at 5am now, they're up by 9am. So maybe your friend just assumed that would be the case.

That said, I think the time is a red herring. Any time someone else is asleep in a shared space, I speak really softly to not wake them up. Even if I privately think they should get up. The only exception would be if we're really close (eg partner, family) or if I know beforehand that they can sleep through anything.

Boredombeckons · 10/09/2023 20:01

Also I never nap and when people around me (at a gathering, on holiday, etc) take a midday siesta I'm careful to be quiet even after over an hour when I think it's high time they should get up.

KateKateLee · 10/09/2023 20:52

What time was check out? It’s often 10am. Wouldn’t you have been struggling for that if you weren’t woken up at 9am?

Boredombeckons · 10/09/2023 20:53

KateKateLee · 10/09/2023 20:52

What time was check out? It’s often 10am. Wouldn’t you have been struggling for that if you weren’t woken up at 9am?

RTFT...

Original poster
Dyinforaliein · 10/09/2023 20:53

KateKateLee · 10/09/2023 20:52

What time was check out? It’s often 10am. Wouldn’t you have been struggling for that if you weren’t woken up at 9am?

😀

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neighboursmustliveon · 10/09/2023 21:02

9am? Most hotel rooms require you to be out by 10am. I think yabu. Any time after 8 is fine.

KateKateLee · 10/09/2023 21:07

Boredombeckons · 10/09/2023 20:53

RTFT...

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Why? What did I miss?

Mariposista · 10/09/2023 21:08

Tbf of sleep is a priority on a trip, don’t stay out until 4am

MargotBamborough · 10/09/2023 21:13

I'm with you OP.

I wouldn't talk on the phone in the same room as people who were trying to sleep at any time of day, and 9am is quite early when you went to bed at 4am.

I swear some people just have no awareness when it comes to their phone use though.

Mothership4two · 10/09/2023 21:34

I would have been mildly annoyed to be woken by a phone call, in her place I would have either gone out or had a very brief hushed convo. I would have forgotten about it pretty quickly though. If I went to bed at 3/4 am I would be dead to the World at 9 am, but I am a light-weight!

GorgeousPizza · 10/09/2023 21:35

I think everyone on here has missed the part where you said you went to bed at 4am! I’d be fuming! I’d be very tired on 5 hours sleep after drinking.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 10/09/2023 21:45

neighboursmustliveon · 10/09/2023 21:02

9am? Most hotel rooms require you to be out by 10am. I think yabu. Any time after 8 is fine.

Please for the love of God, at least read all the OP's posts even if you can't/don't want to/don't have time to read the whole of the thread.

JMSA · 10/09/2023 21:47

YANBU. Of course it was rude and unnecessary. You don't do that when others are still sleeping, regardless of the time!

Bellyblueboy · 10/09/2023 21:53

regardless of what time it was your friend was ride to have a phone conversation in a room where other people were sleeping.

Mummydrama · 10/09/2023 21:56

To be fair I usually share a room with friends I am totally comfortable with. I would of told them that I wanted a lie in, am not to disturb me the night before. If they did wake me I would of just said "shhhhhush" my friends are comfortable with me like that so they won't take offense nor I if it was the other way round.

EggInANest · 10/09/2023 22:24

If I woke up and others were sleeping I wouldn’t wake them up.

LaDamaDeElche · 10/09/2023 22:24

If I’d been out until 3/4am, then I would be quiet if there were other people in the room and I was up while they were still sleeping, for any reason. Just basic manners really. I certainly wouldn’t talk on the phone in the same room others were sleeping, no.

NotStayingIn · 10/09/2023 22:26

I'm with you, I think it's really inconsiderate.

LaDamaDeElche · 10/09/2023 22:28

Mariposista · 10/09/2023 21:08

Tbf of sleep is a priority on a trip, don’t stay out until 4am

Why not? You can go to bed at 4am and get up at 12 and have had loads of sleep. That’s a normal time to end a night out in many countries. They were staying for two nights.

blahblahblah1654 · 10/09/2023 22:31

Why would you share a room with 2 other people and expect to sleep past 9? It sounds like they were considerate enough to not phone earlier. I would hate to share a hotel room with anyone other than my DH.

Passthegin99 · 10/09/2023 22:39

I don't think you were unreasonable at all! If I woke up and my friends were still asleep no way would I get on the phone knowing I would wake them! I'd be tiptoeing out the room being careful to let them sleep! But then I have an over developed sense of fair play so I get extra annoyed when people are selfish!

Dunnoburt · 10/09/2023 22:42

I'd have been pissed off too OP so I don't think you are being unreasonable

LaDamaDeElche · 10/09/2023 22:58

blahblahblah1654 · 10/09/2023 22:31

Why would you share a room with 2 other people and expect to sleep past 9? It sounds like they were considerate enough to not phone earlier. I would hate to share a hotel room with anyone other than my DH.

Because they went to sleep at 4am. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect to sleep for at least 6 hours after a late night drinking, at the bare minimum. I’m one of those weirdos who always wakes up at 8, even if I go to bed at 4am. I don’t disturb others because I’m a normal, respectful human being. I’m not going to be silent until 2pm, but 6-8 hours is polite, surely?

T1Dmama · 11/09/2023 01:47

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect others to be considerate at all!
if someone is sleeping even if it was 2pm I wouldn’t have a conversation without stepping out!
I guess lots of people just think they don’t need to consider others!!