Page 3 | I have a training tomorrow and my 16 dd has just been sick

Pinktrousers2020 · 2023-09-09T02:47:34+00:00

She has d&v like I had the last couple of days. I have a training all day, what would you do ? Stay with her or go ? I was really sick with it at first. I don’t know what to do

LaydeeDi · 09/09/2023 08:30

YearoftheRabbit23 · 09/09/2023 07:17

Please do a COVID test on both of you, more and more people are getting stomach bug symptoms with COVID, as discussed on the thread about the bride having D&V on Thursday before her wedding today.

Make sure to swab your cheeks and throat and nose.

God, it just keeps getting worse and worse, doesn't it? So much for all the shit we were fed in 2020/21 about being able to move on and forget about it after the vaccines.

I wouldn't go OP, because nobody wants to catch your D&V bug.

JudgeRudy · 09/09/2023 08:31

I think it's likely that your daughter has the same 'bug' as you had. She'll have 24hrs of feeling crappie then be fine. At 16 I don't think she needs 'looking after'. I mean,what can you do anyway. I'd go out and buy some stuff (that you probably wouldn't have bothered about for yourself) to make the next few hours more comfortable...some skin friendly wipes maybe, a couple of meal deals and plenty of drinks. It's hot, and coupled with the D&V she'll likely be a bit dehydrated. Clean sheets also feel comforting to me too.
Other than that, feel free to attend (and focus on) your training. She'll be fine.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 09/09/2023 08:39

Are you giving their training or receiving it?
Assuming you are receiving it

is it safety critical? Business critical?
just for awareness?
is it repeated often?

Fififafa · 09/09/2023 08:43

Mariposista · 09/09/2023 08:28

People on here can be horrible. Focusing on ‘she’s 16’, banging on about covid and being contagious. Regardless of age, this type of illness is vile and can leave you very vulnerable. At 19 I had severe food poisoning and became so weak I collapsed in the bathroom trying to get to the loo. Fortunately it was uni holidays and was at home. So assess it yourself, if she is ok to sleep it off, go, and check in on her by phone every couple of hours. But the OP is not being unreasonable to wonder whether she ahould stay.

Get a grip. This isn’t about being horrible, it’s about being practical. What age do you think we can start leaving our sick kids at home alone? I see you think 19 is too young. I mean a 25 year old will also feel rough when they have D&V. Is it ok to leave them home alone?

sleepyscientist · 09/09/2023 08:44

@LaydeeDi actually it moving into a more D&V like bug is a good thing! OP I wouldn't want to leave her but would break the 48hr rule for an essential course. Can anyone sit with her?

itsgettingweird · 09/09/2023 08:52

At 16 I use to get annoyed at my parents if they didn't leave me to be ill alone!

Plus after a few hours she will have stopped because she's empty.

Go to your training as long as you are past the 48 hours clear.

IsobelNecessary · 09/09/2023 08:57

OP I wouldn't want to leave her but would break the 48hr rule for an essential course

So for your "essential course", you'd happily pass noro onto a load of other people whose courses might be equally essential, or who quite reasonably would rather not catch noro if they can avoid it?

Nice.

Appleontherocks · 09/09/2023 09:06

I'd stay with a 16 year old to make sure they have enough fluids and don't deteriorate but I had a close childhood friend who died of meningitis in my teens so I'm always worried about complications from what seem to be a simple virus.

Summerishere123 · 09/09/2023 09:08

When I was 13 i had a water infection. My mum left me a jug of juice and went to work! She will be fine!

zeibesaffron · 09/09/2023 09:09

I am in the minority I think but I wouldn’t go - D & V is horrid and I wouldn’t leave a 16 yo with being ill, feeling awful and then cleaning everything up - which has to be done properly if you don’t want to infect anyone else! My 17yo has awful tonsillitis at the min so I changed everything at work yesterday to be at home as we live rurally with no buses and its 6 miles to the GP - who did want to see her before prescribing antibiotics.

You also have to be clear of your symptoms for 48hrs.

HRTadvicepls · 09/09/2023 09:10

If your own last 'episode' was less than 48 hours ago, you wouldn't be permitted to attend workplace or face to face training in our organisation.

Cornettoninja · 09/09/2023 09:18

I’d go and leave her with bowls/buckets, towels and water. I’d also make sure I’d left her with a big glass of dioralyte to sip on.

How long are you realistically going to be away from her? Eight hours at the most? Check in on the phone every couple of hours if it helps but I’d imagine she’d mostly be sleeping.

Again - don’t give Imodium for diarrhoea caused by illness. The body is trying to expel whatever’s causing it, let it do its job. Your job is to keep your body hydrated.

ilovesooty · 09/09/2023 09:21

Mariposista · 09/09/2023 08:28

People on here can be horrible. Focusing on ‘she’s 16’, banging on about covid and being contagious. Regardless of age, this type of illness is vile and can leave you very vulnerable. At 19 I had severe food poisoning and became so weak I collapsed in the bathroom trying to get to the loo. Fortunately it was uni holidays and was at home. So assess it yourself, if she is ok to sleep it off, go, and check in on her by phone every couple of hours. But the OP is not being unreasonable to wonder whether she ahould stay.

Why? What's wrong with the OP being aware that covid is a possibility or that she might be contagious?

Why is it horrible to feel that an NT 16 year old doesn't need constant supervision?

Megifer · 09/09/2023 09:32

Its probably a bit pointless telling op she should steer clear of work for 48 hours, I'm guessing if that was a possibility she'd have done it.

Unless people can WFH or they have company sick pay or the company enforces the 48 hr 'rule' not many could afford to lose the pay, and if its a mandatory time limited course needed to do her role, she might not be able to afford to not work until she can do it again.

Its rubbish but that's just how it is for a lot of people.

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 09:33

I will stay home if I think there’s a chance my DD can turn worse but usually I will carry on going to work as planned and let them rest.

With covid I stayed home as she was very poorly with it but most of the time I go.

As you’ve already had it you know it’s probably just a bug and it’s not a symptom of anything worse.

She will just want to spend the day in bed.
Get her her favourite drink like apple juice or lucozade which she can and put a bucket by her head.

Tell her if she feels worse to ring you or a family member but it sounds like it’s just V&D so would prefer to be left alone.

Is her dad involved?
If you’re worried could he be on call to leave work if needed?

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 09:35

Again - don’t give Imodium for diarrhoea caused by illness. The body is trying to expel whatever’s causing it, let it do its job. Your job is to keep your body hydrated.

Just repeating this as it’s important and not a lot of people know about it.

Hibiscrubbed · 09/09/2023 09:35

UndercoverCop · 09/09/2023 03:49

Who will have her while you're at training? Her dad/willing grandparent, still go. Nursery/childminder won't take her

I know you misread this but it really made me laugh thinking of a Mumsnet mummy who would arrange a childminder for a sick 16 year old. I bet there are a few out there…

Appleontherocks · 09/09/2023 09:37

I think it's reasonable to have another adult around when someone is sick. It doesn't matter that they're an adult themselves. Paying someone is a last resort for that.

Hibiscrubbed · 09/09/2023 09:37

And don’t bother with the ridiculous suggestion of a Covid test. 😆

Cornettoninja · 09/09/2023 09:42

Hibiscrubbed · 09/09/2023 09:37

And don’t bother with the ridiculous suggestion of a Covid test. 😆

Why’s it ridiculous? If Covid is something someone wants to be aware of for a variety of justified reasons what’s the harm in knowing that it can present like this?

ridiculous is for things that are beyond the realms of possibility or have no indication of existence. It would be ridiculous to advise purchasing a healing crystal, it’s not ridiculous to suggest making use of available tests.

Ridiculing the suggestion just comes off as spiteful.

Megifer · 09/09/2023 09:44

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/diarrhoea-and-vomiting/

NHS advice - speak to pharmacist who may recommend loperamide (Imodium) for a few hours

I've used it to stem the shits for a bit because its also crap having to decide if you shit yourself while vomiting or throw up on the toilet wall while shitting. No harm at all in suggesting this as an option for op.

Diarrhoea and vomiting

Diarrhoea and vomiting are common in adults, children and babies. Find out how to treat and avoid spreading them, and when to get medical help.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/diarrhoea-and-vomiting

ThreeLittleDots · 09/09/2023 09:48

If it's been less than 72 hours since your last D/V, you shouldn't be going anywhere anyway.

Mammyloveswine · 09/09/2023 09:50

Can't lie, I'd be livid if one of my team stayed off because their 16 year old had a common (albeit unpleasant) illness!

My husband wouldn't even stay off when I had d&v with a newborn and 2 year old to also look after.., now THAT was hell..

Yerroblemom1923 · 09/09/2023 09:51

She'll be fine. Go to work.

CherryBlossom321 · 09/09/2023 09:51

I’d stay with my daughter. She wouldn’t want to be left alone with D&V. Especially if I was likely not clear of it myself, and risking spreading to numerous others.