Hosting loud teenager parties in gardens in residential streets

[RudsyFarmer]

Is this reasonable?

Next door neighbour has given us (and the street) a few days notice of a party that will go on until 12am with loud music and lots of cars arriving /departing. Not enough time to get a room somewhere unfortunately.

I have two primary aged kids and early plans on Sunday morning. Honestly would never be so selfish and would always hire a hall, but I have a feeling I’m in the minority.

AIBU to feel peevish?

Oh for gods sake if it’s a one off event for a special birthday and they’ve warned you and it’s ending at midnight get over yourself. Your own precious poppets will be teens soon enough and the boot will be in the other foot!

Dd aged 17 had a party we put it on neighbours WhatsApp a month before confirmed it would be supervised and would end at midnight. Our elderly neighbours messaged how nice it was to hear young people having fun and appreciated that it was all quiet by 12.15.

The occasional party is party of normal residential noise as far as I'm aware. They clearly aren't partying every night.

This is a deeply unpleasant way to be, I hope it's satire!

It's fine, they've given you notice and it sounds like a one-off. I'd suck it up and keep it in the bank for when you want a party or some work done that might piss off the street.

My DD had her 16th birthday party in my garden during school hols. It started at 6.30 and finished at 11pm. Music was off and everyone inside at 11.

I gave neighbours a weeks notice and no one was bothered, most of them told her to enjoy herself.

If it's not a regular thing I can't see the harm for one night.

I think it's reasonable as a one off. I think it's a really normal thing to do every so often, did you ever go to parties in someone's house as a teenager?

Do you do this generally if people have parties or only noisy teens?

They have given you notice of a one off party?

That's absolutely fine.

Also, what is stopping you getting a room somewhere? I think you do have enough time if that is your preferred option.

That's the normal way to do things where we we live. The neighbour sends a note out a few days before , says when music will stop and explains it's for a special birthday. It's a one off and usually doesn't cause any issues. It's really difficult l/ impossible to find venues that will host 16th or 18th birthdays around here so the only option is to host it at home.

I think I am extremely intolerant of noise in general but YABU, it's one night and midnight isn't even that late.

The law under the Noise Act applies to events etc, not residential properties.

Regards noise under the Environmental Act, it has to be persistent noise. If this is happening regularly then you can take action. However, unfortunately, if it's a one off, there's not much you can do.

I think if it's not a regular thing and they have given you notice you either book into a hotel or just put up with it. It's an odd house party on a Saturday night. Were you never young once?

If it was all the time then I would be annoyed.

YABU.

It's a one off, they've been courteous and given you notice and been told what time it will finish. You sound a killjoy.

Bank it for when your kids are noisy teens and wish them a happy birthday.

It’s really reasonable with notice.

Our neighbours hold enormous parties twice a year with full on amplified music in their garden that generally go on until 4am. They’d usually tell us the day before. After the first couple, we asked if they could tell us a month or so before so we could be away for the night!

Unless it’s happening every weekend YABU! Our whole street does this occasionally maybe a few times a year, we always pre-warn each other and actually because we all have such a nice friendship now if one of us is having a party we open the invite up to the neighbours if they fancy it when we let them know about it in advance.

Perfectly reasonable. They gave you warning and a stop time. It's a Saturday night. Presumably this is rare.

Yes its reasonable and your neighbours sound really considerate. In my experience primary aged children sleep through pretty much anything and the party is only going on until midnight.

Get some earplugs and stop being so melodramatic

Sounds very reasonable. I'd drop off a bottle of fizz, wish them a fun evening and thank them for the notice.

The primary aged kids next door but ones tent sleepover went on til 3am !! ( the noise!) ....parents were all 'they are just kids having fun before school starts back'

Would rather have the teens than shrieking 8/9/10 year old girls!

Our neighbours used to do this with their sons but made it clear that at 10 pm the noise was scaled back, music turned down, riotous behaviour reeled in. Actually they were so good about this from when moved in and their oldest was about 12.

Eventually it got to the point about a decade later and the parents would themselves go away when the oldest was having a party. And it was just the same, loud until about 10 and then scaled back completely. There was a lot of noise about midnight when they all headed out to a club and again at 4 am when they came home but eldest son came over to apologise to us the next day and said not to worry about the mess out front that his drunken friend was cleaning it up right at that moment. He'd become a nice responsible adult.

So tell them that 10 pm is a deadline for noise reduction. Hopefully the kids will continue this in coming years.

Oh how I’m laughing that @LlynTegid thinks the police will be round, sirens blaring closely followed by the council officials with their clip boards on the strength of some uptight busybody neighbour sending a strongly worded letter 4 days before the party. 😂

Why don’t teens have parties in halls? I didn’t know this 🤔

At least they've notified you. Ours don't and have parties every few weeks or so. They only text the day after the party to apologise for the excessive noise😬